For the first time someone outside of my immediate family noticed the weight loss, and asked me how. I said I had talked to my doctor, (true) went to a local hospital that has an obesity sort of clinic (also true) and that the new way to eat is teeny tiny bites, making the meal last 20-30 minutes (true again) and that I even use a smaller plate and fork to make sure the bites are small (all true!) I mentioned I put the fork down between bites etc etc etc. Everything is true, and she sees me walking the dogs in the evening now since she lives next door, but I am not telling about the surgery. It's no one's business but mine. Even my mother doesn't know about it, she was told the same things I told the neighbor. She lives 4 hours away, so she hasn't seen me, but I'm preparing everyone for the difference in eating habits by telling them the exact thing I told my neighbor. yeah, there are lies by omission, but I really don't think not telling about surgery is lying. To each their own though, everyone must do what is right for them