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I told the physical therapist that it was the best Valentine's Day present I ever recieved!

((looking sad)) sniff sniff

JUST KIDDING!!! Congrats on getting off the crutches!! WOOT WOOT!

I suggest that if you do have the money. Self pay then. I think it was much easier to self pay due to the non-stress I had of not fighting anyone but my own mind and pocketbook.

Think of it this way... maybe they aren't strays, maybe they weren't dumped, maybe they were drawn to you in some way.

Boxer= strong on the outside, sometimes misunderstood as being a mean breed, many are scared of the breed in general and actually soft and warm on the inside being one of the most cuddly and needy emotional breeds

Overweight lab= chubby and fat on the outside, often overlooked as beautiful, no one taking the time to see that they are beautiful on the inside.

Maybe they NEED you to make them feel their full potentials. Maybe you need THEM to understand yours.

Strong believer in that everything happens for a reason.

So maybe it wasn't that they needed to find you but that you needed to find them?

Okay, as a police officer myself I am going to try and remain objective and think about this not as a cop but as a regular person.....

Regular person answer:

Marijuana smoking is fairly common in the US. I would consider a few things. Does he have a good job? Does he go to work? Do you notice his extra activity (pot smoking) as disruptive to your life or his? Have you noticed its effects?

If everything above is okay, then it is probably just what I call a "functional habit". MANY people do it, and more than anyone realizes. But I WOULD definitely have a serious talk with them that it is NOT welcomed in your house under ANY circumstances. But if he is functional and not some dirt bag then I don't know if kicking him, his wife and 5 month old baby out on the street is the best answer. However.... I am thinking that if he is married and having a baby I am seriously wondering why he doesn't have a place of his own and raising his own family so that leads me to believe that he is irresponsible and a possible dirt bag. (no offense to your family member, we all have at least one of them in the family, as do I).

So for me it falls down to functionality. If he is a good person, with good efforts, honest activity otherwise, good husband, good father, hard worker, etc... then I would try and tell him the importance of your zero tolerance of the drug and your feelings toward his habit.

Now my police officer answer:

Tell him to get a job, get a clue about responsibility in supporting his family on his own rather than mooching off you, and get the hell out of your house.

Hope this all makes sense.

Applesauce!!!!

I did this too. I cried all the way onto the surgery table. I was so scared. But then... poof... it was done. Good luck today and we will all be thinking of you!!!! We hope you are posting and recovering well soon!!

I can honestly say that they will bury me before I am that large again. Not to be morbid, but it is the honest truth. I will NEVER be that large again.

I still can't speak. I am working up to the courage to tackle the purple jade plant. oh the horror.....

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Jonathon, I am so sorry to hear of your troubles but I am happy for you that you have made some clear decisions and have resolved some of your feelings. I hope that if you get the bypass it will be of the upmost success for you!! Please make sure you share with us how you are doing as you continue your journey. I have been contemplating the same thing and would be very interested to know the results, challenges and victories with your proactive band removal and revision.

BEST OF LUCK!!!!

I was restricted from carrying my duty belt at work for 4 weeks. But it was too soon, I needed about 6 then I was okay.

I am right with ya dawg! But my DH says I am less annoying than a pack of chihahaus. Haven't lived to my full potential then. But I am working on it.....

She asked for your website and credentials. The question was not answered.

And the saga continues.....

Jane is doing fantastic. She continues to be at a healthy weight (around 170lbs now). She has been involved heavily in divorced weight loss support groups. She tells me that manyyyyyy people had the same thing happen to them. She feels blessed that John was so honest with her and the charade did not continue for long. She and John are still friends and they even go to dinner for chats.

As for John, he is no longer with the larger "other" woman. I guess this other woman saw how fantastic Jane feels (I guess there is a side story that the two women have actually struck a friendship and have been talking a great deal) and has decided to have a consult with Jane's surgeon to be approved. John decided to end that relationship.

Its funny though huh? Some women worry about gaining weight after getting married being viewed as bad for their marriage and some women have to actually deal with losing their weight as bad for their marriage. I just thought this was ironic.

I admire Jane for being so strong and positive. At first I had my doubts that she was really portraying her true feelings... not no more.

Plus, Jane started dating another bypass patient that she met in the waiting room at her doctors office! It has been 2 weeks now and she is very happy.

I have been banded almost a year. I personally have my doubts if this is the "life long" option that it is touted to be. We will see I guess. The longest bandster I know of is 6 years from Australia, had the band replaced one because of slippage.

I think Flouro is the only way to go when it comes to fills. I won't do the "poke and stick" method.

If it were me, I would drive the 2 hours and make a day of it with shopping or something.

Thanks for clearing that up, I understand where you are coming from now. I hope you did not think I was attacking you personally but merely challenging the information that I was going on at the time and my own opinion about the posting, before I had the additional information to make the opinion. Plus I was additionally making a blanket comment not about you personally but overall frustrations. I should have divided it into paragraphs for ease of understanding intentions.

I think it is important to remember that this is a world wide group with many different people here. What is argumentative to you, may be healthy debate to them. What is sarcastic to you may be just blunt comments or way of speech to them. We are a combination of different medical issues, life frustrations, social classes, psychological difference, tempermant differencs. For all of the varying aspects of this group, I would say it functions very well. Words have no feelings and no expressions. I like a good debate and I like to challenge opinions and take the "devils advocate" side of things. I think everyone needs to look at all sides of the dog before kicking it. (just an expression).

I take short breaks from LBT and come back refreshed. But I can see how this group is not for everyone and I respect your decision. I wish you luck in your weight loss journey and hope you find many successes.

Not me. He would be sleeping on the damn couch (the ratty one in the basement) if he did this! Man, the more I think about it the more pissy I even get and my DH got me an awesome vday gift. But man, I am pissed FOR you! I am all for being forgiving but some things are just the icings on the cake.

Like for instance... my ex husband got me a vacuum cleaner for christmas. Then... cleaning supplies in my stocking! Unreal. And believe me, I am already a clean housekeeper!

I disagree with the above statement. I think that it is like recommending a "try it free for 30 days" type method and I think that could be really devastating if you made a wrong choice. Knowledge is power. Do more than just chat boards. Read the medical journals, get involved with your decision. If you don't understand what they are talking about by surgery date, then you aren't ready. Just what I think. I think too many people are rushing around to get a fix and I constantly see members come here and ask really general questions and they are to be banding in a week. That to me is crazy.

The IUD implanted may become displaced if you lose a lot of weight. Mine did and I had to have it surgically removed. This wasn't while I was banded but during one of my many weight losses. They told me it was because I had lost weight and lost it rapidly. I had lost 40 lbs in 6 months. I don't call that "rapid". So I would be careful.

((sigh)) I can't even type until tomorrow. ((sigh)) Purple jade plant. How in the world did you turn it purple? I don't even know what to say.((sigh))

Well you definitely need to do some research. First off, there isn't vomiting with the band. I don't know who told you that. Secondly, I gave up a 2 litre a day Dr. Pepper habit, then so can you. I don't even miss it. Missed it for about a month, then nada.

I would be so f'ckin pissed too. I don't blame you one bit.

May I suggest April 7th as the date to ship by?? That gives 9 days of delivery time.

ME ME ME!!! I am in. I WANT A SECRET BUNNY!!!! AND I WANT TO BE SOMEONE"S SECRET BUNNY!

Do you need us to PM you our addresses or are you going to get a list from Kelly? Also, we will have less than a week after we find out our secret bunny?

I personally think that instead of researching the doctor right now, you should be looking more towards researching the procedure, the successes, the information pertaining to the procedures, how it works, what all happens, etc. Researching a doctor takes a lot less time than researching the material needed to inform yourself so that you can ask the right questions of the doctor. If you don't know what your asking, then you won't know what to expect the surgeon to say or what you want them to say. I think that in a doctor you are looking at so much more than just his skill, but his personality, compassion, knowledge, personal feelings towards obesity, etc. Arm yourself with knowledge and then you aren't walking into a consultation with a doctor blind. Plus, it also shows a surgeon that you are committed to this option and have taken the time to research it.