princess_n_thep

Cocoa (since I have to change all you pervs in the room from the gutter LMAO)

Okay, I took this picture of Lisa and Chris when I was there. I love the way Lisa has her hair in that braid don't you? HAPPY BIRTHDAY LISA!!!

Candysmooch, So sorry to hear about this. Love is tough for sure! Remember that everything that happens will shape you in the future and make you stronger! My band is VERY tight if I am stressed or upset. Be very careful and take it easy. Maybe you can call some girlfriends and have a nice getaway for the weekend! That makes me feel better! Take care hun!

Seems strange to me that someone that is grief stricken would only come to LBT to post 2 messages... one of "beware mexico" and another of "funeral". If someone is going to a funeral of a dear friend that next morning, you would think that the last thing they have on their mind would be searching to find a lap band forum, become a member and to post the news and warning only. So without more information, I would have to call bullshit.

At any salon, get a proteinizer shampoo and leave in conditioner. Seems to work for me.

My doctor recommends that even if you don't need a fill, you should have a flouro check at least once a year. Fills are very individual. Try not to compare yours to others. I was obsessed about getting a "normal first fill" then about getting a "normal second fill". Its all up to the person. I feel perfect right now and I have 2.6 cc's. But even if I don't get a fill, I will go back within a year to get a check done.

I was allowed to wear and keep the tampon. Fresh one right before surgery. Then changed it myself when I got up to walk around. I was coming off of my period when I had surgery not going into it.

Fred Durst (I would tear that man up!) Brad Pitt (Angelina who? Jennifer who?) Vin Diesel Tommy Lee (just to see what all the hype is about) Adam Sandler (just for fun)

I got a list... and I ain't picky. Humphrey Bogart Billy Dee Williams Abraham Lincoln (to finally put a smile on his face) Just about any rocker that has died Ah hell, who am I kiddin' just bring them to me and I will tell you how it is....

I cried with fear all the way up to climbing on the gurney for the surgery. Totally normal I am told. And feel great now!

Jennifer, Anytime anyone makes a solid decision to better their lives and become more healthy is okay in my book! Congrats on finding your path! But we would love to have you stay here too! You would be an asset in giving us some perspective on other options! GOOD LUCK!! Our thoughts are with you!

Did someone say Milk Duds? Where? Gimme some!

LMAO at Lisa!!!!!!! Pollack is spelled Polak dear. Too funny, did you do that on purpose? If you didn't, it will make me laugh harder!! Gosh I love ya Lisa! Dictionary Usage: It is curious that a word Polack is pejorative in English language even though it is the Polish word for a Pole. The term was popularized by a TV show "All in the Family." Archie Bunker (1971-1983) referred often to his son-in-law Mike Stivic as "Polack pinko meathead." The show had a huge success, and it popularized the term through the usage of Polish jokes. An example joke comes from Mad magazine’s 1973 parody of Johnny Carson’s "Amazing Carnak" mentalist routine: CARNAK: The answer is "Dope Ring!" ANNOUNCER: And what is the question? CARNAK: Describe six Polacks sitting in a circle. Long before Americans started using the term in an insulting way, it was already well-established in Europe. Karl Marx was one of the people that used it regularly. He once wanted to sue the London newspaper, The Daily Telegraph, which he said was owned by "polack Jews" (letter to Freidrich Engels, 02/09/1860). H. E. F. Donohue used it in "Gentlemen’s Game" ("He gets onto cursing all of them …the wops and the polacks and the niggers").

When you feel you can. Start small. It varies for everyone. I was a 6-7th weeker.

I stayed overnight one night.

For me.... Lane Bryant sizes tend to be a bit wider to make room for more "womanly" bodies rather than a 14 or a 16 made for a girls body. Makes room for hip action for me. So I think Lane Bryant is more "true" whereas non catering to plus size stores run a bit small for the size.

Lane Bryant Turquoise bikini style panties with matching bra. I ALWAYS match. If I don't, its a baaaaaaaad day for Jenna and people should stay away. I swear people should just ask if I am matching today to find out if they should even talk to me!

Okay, first of all the use of the words "chubby chasers" was our words (jane and me) not John. So I am sorry if this offended anyone but I don't particularly find it offensive as a big girl. But I do apologize if it offended anyone. On to John, he was NOT having any type of intimacy with his wife during the affair. He IS guilt ridden and DOES feel bad. He is doing everything in his power to try and make this better. He doesnt not love her anymore, he just is not happy on an intimate level. He does want to remain best friends with her but does not want the intimacy. Realizing he can not have the marriage and cheat, he was ending the relationship. In his eyes, it was better to let her move on with another man rather than keep her in a relationship where she wasn't happy intimately either. Jane is doing okay. She is confused though as she thought divorces were supposed to be nasty. And he is being VERY accomodating on her every whim. He doesn't have to be, but she says she really thinks he is wanting to be that way. She believes him. I believe him. I am NOT saying it is justified and neither is she. She agrees that the marriage is over, but is glad it is not a realization 10 or 15 years from now. She does think she can recoup from this. She does think she is young enough (she is 48) to enjoy another relationship. The kids are out of the house, she is looking great (and I mean great!) and she has a fantastic sense of humor and is fun to be around. She is VERY sad that the marriage has ended as she loves John. But..... she is also saying she is grateful that he came to this realization now. Granted, he cheated on her before he told her. That was wrong. VERY wrong. But.... he did have the intentions of telling her the end of the marriage was here and cared enough about her to tell her with a support group for HER, not him. The cheating part sucked, but she is more devastated that he would have been happier had she not lost the weight. She is more upset she didn't KNOW this, so that she probably would have felt more comfy in her own skin. She merely thought that John never complained about it, but would prefer thin. John is NOT saying he does not love Jane. He is NOT being unemotional about this. But he does not want to waste her or his time in a situation where he feels he will never be sexually satisfied on a intimate level. And he does not want to sneak around having affairs. He says he has never had an affair on her. She believes him. I believe him. The affair that did happen was circumstance easy and was weak on his part which he fully admits and is extremely apologetic. The reason why the "other woman" had come to the house was because John had told her that he did not want to continue the sexual relationship they built over the past 2 weeks behind Jane's back. He said he needed to have a few months of not seeing "other woman" in order to deal with the current situation. The "other woman" took this as her cue to tell Jane to force the few months into immediate. NOT the way it happened. John has nothing to do with the "other woman" now. He admits he was not going to tell her about the cheating. But because he did not want to make things worse for Jane because of his own shitty choice. He totally admits it. He is getting the divorce, he doesn't HAVE to be cordial, doen't HAVE to give her everything. But he is. I guess you have to know John. He is VERY sensitive and I know this is tearing him up too. He does love Jane very much. I can see where he is trying to save Jane more than himself because generally that is the kind of guy he is. This whole thing has me very confused though. On one hand I hate him for cheating and being an asshole.... on the other hand, I respect him taking the responsibility and the blame. I hate him for hurting my friend. I miss him because he was my friend once too. My loyalties lie with Jane, no doubt about it. But I do know that Jane was the "friend maker" of the relationship. His parents are more her parents. He has no siblings. So part of me feels sorry for him that he has no one to talk to. The saga continues. But I wanted to let you all know that Jane is a very strong woman and is also empowered by this. (even now). She is sad, heartbroken, but does know she will survive this. I told her I put this on here with fake names. Ya wanna know what she said to me?? "I wish I would have read the same story before I had the bypass. Maybe then I could have been armed with knowledge of how he felt/thought/desired rather than just supporting me as a person and what I wanted. Maybe it wouldn't have changed my mind, maybe it would have, but at least it wouldnt have been a brick upside my head!" (((((SIGH)))))

As for me... I am a YES. I would do anything possible to keep this weight off. I would do anything possible to not be that big again. I would never want to be as depressed and misreble as I was. So yes, I would do it. No bones about it, if it was my only chance.

Jamie, CONGRATS!!!! keep on going girlie!

LOL, are we just going to converge on Lisa's house without telling her? Hmmmmmm, a surprise party for Lisa at her own house!!! That would be fun! Shhhhhhh, no one tell her we are planning........

That one is a stumper.... hmmmmmmmmm, we give up??

DeLarla whipped off her clothes to reveal her OWN belly dancing costume. She....

I went to a bar and watched the Steelers game, then took the dog to the dog park. Other than that, just some house cleaning. Sorry, not really impressive! (but the Steelers won!! )

Personally, I preferred pleasing him orally until I was 100%. Rather me than someone else huh?!?!?! Just kidding, my man wouldn't go elsewhere even if I didn't do it. I just took the "healing" time VERY seriously. I was very careful. So I think it was 6 weeks until we did. And by then, it was alllllllllllllll good.