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well what I think (because I know everyone is just biting their nails waiting for my opinion lol jk) is that we as a group should take all the insensitive tan skinny people stuff them in a closet and force feed them twinkies. hahhahaha that is the best revenge. people shouldn't talk about things they don't know. walk a sweaty, short breathed, exhausted mile in our shoes and see how u feel!! grrrrr. (ive run into some of that lately as well)

lol exactly. its just a dating venue for fitness nuts. I wanna tell them all to move on to match.com. but yea, ive been using it to track progress with my diet while I wait for approval, but I cant be bothered with the forums. I hated high school...id rather not revisit. lol

ok awesome!! thanks guys ill bring my list just in case. lol. I have about 1600 questions to ask. they'll prob cover most but I want to be prepared!!

im going to the seminar for the surgeon I want tomorrow and id kinda like to know what to expect. will I get to ask questions or is it pretty impersonal? do they take insurance info there? im almost 2 hrs away from the surgeon so id like to get as much situated as I can. ahhh so nervous!! lol

Ive spoken to insurance and was told I need certain things but no specifics on how to obtain them!! seminar scheduled for Friday..do I wait and see what dr says? 6 months of supervised weight loss attempts (that I do not have) and my insuirance person is less than helpful..and far from nice. ughhhhhhh help? also, how do I know what psych to go to and how many times? and nutritionist? one of this was specified thru insurance.

they apparently dont have a coordiantor that handles bariatric but the woman i spoke with said if i fax my info to her shell send it to precert for review. I go to the seminar fri so im guessing ill find out surgeons requirments and go from there

Well ive called a few times. I spoke to someone diff today and was told the requirments are not as strict anymore so to have my dr send what they have. Ill make the list of attempts. N as far as a coordinator i dont believe this place has one. Its like a private office affiliated with blue cross. I have it thru a labor union so when i call im calling the individual office. But thankfully the woman i spoke with today was much more helpful. Thank u everyone for all the advice!! its crazy being lost in the sea of paperwork. Lol

thank you everyone!!!! I appreciate all the help. I tell ya, without this site idk what id do. everyone is so lovely and supportive

and the navigator u met thru the seminar? bc that's EXACTLY what i need, just someone to point me in the right direction. i don't want to end up spending hundreds of dollars on dr visits to find out they weren't necessary. lol

ok thank u.

oh ok so i can go to ww? that's part of what i was trying to figure out. bc thatd be a lot cheaper for me than a dr.

yea i called and they said they need 6mth proof. im just trying to figure out who i have to go to to supervise and how that works. but thank u. i guess ill try a pcp first

So I should probably start looking for a dr right? or is it a nutritionist I see for the supervised diet?

I have blue cross through my husbands labor union. and I have tried everything but don't have documented dr notes or anything. I went so long without having health insurance I wasn't able to see a weight loss dr in the past. and I see that some women have a start to sleeve process of like 6 months, does this mean ill probably take much much longer?

Im in Russellville, but not from here. (its VERY small town that I recently moved to..so lost!! lol) My seminar and surgeon of choice are in Little Rock. Dr. Eric Paul. Arkansas Bariatric Surgery. I have blue cross through my husbands labor union so when I called them they weren't very helpful as far as EXACTLY how to obtain what I need to be covered. im hoping the seminar answers some of these questions but im thinking they'll be a lot of people there so getting any individual help will be out of the question. Besides for what ive read online I am in the dark. As far as specifics it sems to vary from dr to dr and insur company to insur company. im just ,massively overwhelmed with wouldn't be so bad if I just knew what I needed and how to do it so I could start the process. :/

if they told me I need 6 ,mths how do I do that? can I do weight watchers or do I have to go to a weight loss dr? my bmi is 41 right now. no diabetes or anything

From what I understand, a blog is basically just a journal that you put out in the world for the whole world to read. If I'm wrong, I apologize. I have no idea what I'm doing, at this point I'm just winging it. So if you don't want to read ramblings exit now. OK so here goes. Im TERRIFIED of all of this. NOT because of the surgery or the life changes, but because Im afraid I will get my hopes up and prepare myself, and someone will tell me I cant do it, I don't qualify, or my insurance doesn't cover it. I feel like Im sick and tired of worrying every single second of every single day about whether I should go out because my ONLY pair of jeans don't fit, or because its a little hot out and I might sweat like an animal if I leave the house. Wondering if my husband saw me naked today and if it disgusted him. I may be being dramatic but that's how I feel. every day. all the time. it hurts. its exhausting worrying so much. its tiring holding in my stomach for so long, trying to look normal. its sad not wanting to be in any pictures with my son because I don't want him to look back and be embarrassed that his mother looked like this. And for someone to say, "well just work out. go to the gym"...100 lbs doesn't just melt off ya know. I guess people don't realize the physical strain that accompanies strenuous exercise with this much weight on your bones and joints. SO when someone tells me to go to the gym I wanna slap them with a twinkie and tell them to go take a nap and shut it!! lol. ugh. anyway so this is my ranting craziness at midnight. im beginning my journey with research, waiting to hear back from insurance. and hopefully seeing a surgeon soon. whoever is reading this, ill keep you updated. if no one reads it, well whatever. ill read it. haha. have a lovely night. and remember, take a deep breath and love yourself. <3

I just have to say, I agree with most people here.I am JUST starting my process now and my husband and his family all cant seem to understand WHY I want to take sucha risk with surgery when I could "just go to the gym and stop eating so much". I am 5'3 and 232. My BMI is 41. I think the problem with so many people judging is because they have NO IDEA what it feels like to be obese. To obsess over how you look and if you're breathing to hard on the treadmill at the gym! (or maybe that's just me, but about 90% of the time I get off before I have to because im embarrassed.) And I think this is something you have to do for you. That's it. Obviously it helps to have a support system and some understanding, but the sad fact is, this is (typically) elective surgery, and so all the people you know that diet because of their excess 5 lbs wont ever truly understand. They cannot walk in your shoes. So take a deep breath, and love yourself. This is a choice you made to improve your life and you will. I read so many stories of so many brave and beautiful people here and I feel like I want to be that. I want to inspire someone like all of you have inspired me. Thank you!! And truly...BEST OF LUCK!!!!

Im new to all of this. Just recently decided (and got my husband on board with) getting the sleeve. Now what should I expect? How do I get started? How long does process take from start to surgery? Im nervous and scared and SOOOO afraid I will be told NO. support? anyone? :/

well im happy for you! im glad you finally got through. and thank you. hopefully ill be looking back on this from the o.r. and giggling. one step at a time!!!

oh wow that's great!! congrats!! I guess im just all overwhelmed bc im so bad at being a grown up and understanding insurance and dr talk. lmao. so I signed up for a seminar and im waiting to get a list of requirments from the other surgeon I was looking at. my insurance seemed very laid back abouty it. she basically said I didn't need anything. but I feel like that was probably a mistake on her part. lol

it said history of weight issues, fam history, proof of colonoscopies if done and a few other things. but I thought I didn't need that stuff til AFTER I talked to the dr? the insurance company told me to talk to a surgeon and they would figure it out between them what I need and let me know. the problem is apparently the surgeons around here u cant just make an appointment and speak to them, you have to go to a seminar first and register? that's weird bc what if I decide to go to a diff dr? ugh. lol. this is craziness...itll be worth it in the end but I guess I didn't forsee so many hoops this soon into the game

i called n they do cover it. i guess im just confused as to who needs what. the insur ppl said to call a surgeon but the seminar ebrollment for the surgeon asks for test info. lol wth?