GonnaDoIt

Yes, you put it right. Something inside is soothed by totally stuffing myself. Some people think its a psychological problem. I think its a biochemical problem. But the result is the same either way. But with people telling me I will still get that full feeling, maybe it won´t be as bad as I fear.

I decided that even if the hotel didn´t have one, I could go find an internet cafe. As it happens, the hotel in Monterrey has a great internet room included in the price. I really needed it since I´m self employed and do most of my work over the internet and if my clients can´t reach me for several days, they start to panic. So, I´m here, I´ve emailed several clients since arriving, and internet access is great.

Anyone who has had Dr. Sanchez, will they have computers there or should I bring mine?

I went back over the literature and confirmed that I do not need to be doing a special diet right now. I emailed one of the assistants for Dr. Sanchez, who also confirmed. I'm not supposed to be taking ANY medication at all, not even over-the-counter, without talking to Dr. Sanchez at this point, but other than that, no diet changes. Even so, I will listen to your advice about liquid or semi-liquid diet the day before surgery.

I just spent a few minutes reading some more of the posts on this thread. A lot of discussion about whether the size of a man's penis changes as he loses weight. Let me tell you, I am a bit concerned about what's going to happen to my boobs. The girls and I have been best friends for a long time and I'm worried that they will be deflated. Big tits are the one good thing about being fat. I'll be sad when I drop below a double D.

Most women are "like us". Women like sex, too. We just don't like unwanted advances (not saying your comment is an unwanted advance). In order to keep the number of unwanted advances down, we normally do not - in front of men we're not dating - discuss our enjoyment of or willingness to perform various sexual acts. Though I have to admit, I saw some statistics recently about the percent of women who were not willing to perform oral sex and I was very surprised that the number was so high. I consider it a normal part of a healthy sexual relationship to be performed about as frequently as vaginal sex. Oh, Lord, 2.5 hours. I had a prior long term relationship (we had a son) with a man who always took a long, long time. I know most women would be thrilled, but I wasn't. Its great for the first ten minutes. Then my mind started wandering and I would think about things like whether I'd paid my credit card bill. If it was especially long, my inner thigh muscles would cramp up, which hurt and not in a sexy way. He used to get mad if I started to look bored.

One of my primary motivations for doing this now is because my son is starting kindergarten. I remember the day when I was in first grade and my mom brought my lunch to me in class because I had forgotten it. I was happy to see her and gave her a big smile, etc. After she left another kid turned to me and said, "your mom is FAT". At that moment I was truly ashamed of my mother. I don't want my son to be ashamed of me.

OH! ONE MORE THING. Be sure to buy seasickness stickers that you put behind your ear and wear for pretty much the whole trip. Buy them at your local pharmacy. Trust me!

Oh my gosh! I went on that very ship to those very ports of call just earlier this year. It was a great trip ya'll! Take your kids over age 2. There's lots of stuff for them to do. Unfortunately, there's less for kids 2 and under. The trip to Mayan ruins in Mexico will gobble your whole time there and its an hour on the bus each way, but WELL WORTH IT. The ruins they take you to are secluded. Your tour group will be the only one there and your guide is very knowledgeable even if he is semi-toothless. Bring bug repellant. Those Mexican mosquitoes mean business.

Most of the times a grown man has told me that I'm fat, its been immediately after I refused his advances. Sour grapes!

The 'go again' comment reminds me of a little X-rated story. We hadn't seen each other in a few weeks so when he came over than night, I guess he was very excited to see me because that was the fastest he ever climaxed. As he was getting up, I said, "that was quick!" The comment just kind of popped out of my mouth and as soon as I said it he looked a bit surprised and even a little hurt. I tried to take it back. I said, "But it was good, honey, I mean it's ok that it was fast ... um." He became very serious and announced quite strongly (but not angrily) in his thick accent, "Lie down! I do it again!" I said, "oh .. um .. ok ... do you need to rest for a minute or-" "No! I am ready now. Lie down!" The look on his face was one of complete determination, rather than desire. And, well, he did it again, much slower the second time.

Usually I just do it for a little while as foreplay, but I don't want to make him cum during oral sex because then he's finished and I'm left taking a cold shower. I only went the whole nine yards on oral sex when it was just three weeks after I had his baby and I couldn't do anything below the waste anyway. And, yes, I gagged.

Funny, You list your highest weight, but what was your pre-op weight? I know you haven't lost 60 lbs in 3 weeks.

Just scheduled my surgery for August 25!!! Recap: I had wanted the surgery, but had some debts and didn't know how I was going to afford it. Then my mom gave me $8333 unexpectedly. I decided to go forward with surgery then had doubts about whether I should instead spend money someplace else. Decided to do both. Paid off some credit cards, thereby improving credit score. Bought house!!! Now will have surgery, running credit cards up again. Having bought the house, I feel like I've done right by my kids financially and I feel more justified about spending this money on the surgery. Yes, I know that this surgery is not just cosmetic, its about my health, and my health is very important to my kids. Still, I just feel better about having bought the house before spending the money on the surgery. So, I arrive in Monterrey the 24th, have my surgery the 25th and am back on the 27th. Mom's coming to watch the kids (ages 3 and 5). BTW, my boyfriend is super-proud of me that I bought the house. I'm not sure how he feels about me having the surgery. He's Middle Eastern and has always liked my body the way it is now. I've even gained 30 pounds since meeting him (due to giving birth to his daughter) and he's never stopped telling me I'm beautiful. As much as I love him, the relationship is far from perfect and we've stated explicitly that if I find someone else I'll break it off with him and we'll stay friends (daughter in common and all that). Was that another overshare?

I love this thread because it proves that 'yes, fat people do have sex!!' Now if only the maternity clothes industry would figure that out. I have two kids and for both pregnancies it was so hard to find plus size maternity clothes. It was like the clothing designers figured there would be no market for plus size maternity since fat women don't have sex. WRONG!! But I guess in just a short time from now that will no longer be my battle. Incidentally, I told my boyfriend I was having the surgery and he's like "why?" I think I can sincerely say I'm not doing it so I can be more attractive for him. I think he honestly would not care if I gained another 20 or lost 80. He's from Central Asia/ Middle East, though he grew up in India. I don't always agree with attitudes toward women in that part of the world, but one positive thing I will say is that women from a broad range of weights and sizes are considered beautiful. Ok, back to the smut.

Very excited for you MsBrookins!! Hey, everyone whose been banded by Doc Sanchez, do you get a chance to socialize with the other patients? I know I won't be there long, but this forum makes me feel like we're a community and I'd love to chat with other bandsters in person. Anyone else going to be down there on the 24th-27th?

Hmm, never considered this issue, but I can't imagine how gagging would make the band slip. My problem in regard to oral sex is that I have TMJ and my jaw locks up if I perform oral sex for too long. That's pretty much the only time it bothers me, actually. So when I'm at the dentist and he asks if my TMJ has been bothering me, I never know quite how to answer him.

Funny, did you decide to get the apron removed now or later? I have an apron because of my two pregnancies. Its strange to be at my nearly heaviest non-pregnancy weight and still have an apron! I'm thinking ahead to a year or two when I will need a TT or body lift and I'm starting to prepare financially for something like that. Suggestions? Comments? At some point I'd also like a nose job, wisdom tooth removal and skin resurfacing to fix all the sun damage, but that truly is cosmetic and can wait until the money is there. The apron, on the other hand, is a bit uncomfortable with certain skin issues - I know you know what I'm talking about.

Cool, there's my ticker!!

Trying to get my ticker on there. Let's see if I've done it.

Sherri, I just on another thread that you were banded by Dr. Sanchez last month. I was going to email you when I saw you'd posted to my thread. I researched several doctors and found Dr. Sanchez to be a good combo of (a) experience/competence, (:rofl: price, and © distance (I'm in Houston). So far his staff has been easy to work with. Thanks for the advice, I'll bring some DVDs, though nearly all I have are children's movies that I've watch 500 times each with my kids. Maybe I'll ... I don't know ... read.

Oh, a few other updates ... When I contacted Dr. Sanchez' office, the patient coordinator told me that they will do the surgery on 'low' BMI patients as long as you have at least 50 pounds to lose. So, that's not a problem. Also, the patient coordinator sent me a bunch of documents including info about one financing plan that I was VERY interested in. If you can put 60% down in cash, you can finance the other 40% without a credit check and without it appearing on your credit report. They would have an automatic debit from your checking account each month. I love, love, love this plan because it will make it possible for me to buy a house AND have the surgery. I used the $8500 to pay off most of my credit cards and keep a little extra emergency cash. This will raise my credit score high enough to buy a house, which I plan to do within the next 60 days. Then, after closing on the house, I can use one of those paid-off credit cards to make the 60% down payment for the surgery. It doesn't matter if my credit score goes back down some after I buy the house. So, I'm very excited. Now I can 'do right by my kids' by buying a house AND I can 'do right by my health' by getting the surgery. Very excited!

Kmecey, One of the things I learned in my research is that because the FDA dragged its feet in approving the lap band long after research proved it was safe, the Mexican doctors started performing the surgery long before the American doctors, so the Mexican doctors actually have more experience than the Americans. And many of them have studied in the US or have done Residencies or Fellowships at American hospitals. They know that they are marketing their services to Americans so they do their best to get the credentials Americans are looking for. Yes, we are all trained to believe that American medicine is not only the best, but the only medicine we can trust. While its true that US medicine as a whole is the best in the world, that does not mean that quality medical care does not exist in other countries, or that Americans are the best in absolutely every type of surgery. Having surgery is a big deal, so wherever you do it, you need to research the doctor and the hospital in advance.

Yep. But I've checked out the doctor I think I will be using - Dr. Sanchez - and he has lots of American credentials, such as having completed a fellowship in Texas and being a member of some American medical associations. I don't think I can afford the surgery in the US and, more importantly, since my BMI is just under 35, I would have a lot of problems finding an American doctor who would do it.

Even though I have some other very good uses for the money, I've decided to spend it on the surgery. Of all the possible ways to spend it, the surgery will have the biggest impact. This isn't vanity or selfishness, its about my health. Having the surgery now will probably buy me another ten years of life. Ten years without diabetes. Ten years that I don't have to avoid stairs (my mom avoids stairs because 40 years of carrying an extra 100 pounds has destroyed her knees). Ten years of people NOT asking me when "the baby" is due! That sounds like a fantastic investment!