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Thankyou for all the advice it's been very helpful

Thankyou hun, that was really helpful! Its shame that I'm feeling not guilt.. I think it would help telling people instead of alway Lying.. Its always going to be apart of my life, I'm in my mid 20's, dating is difficult & work events- when they go to All you Can eat buffets.. Even the tea room when people say is that all your eating? But if they new, maybe they wouldn't say so much. My parents have a very negative view of over weight people, & perhaps I'm worried other people will Have that opinion too. So have you addressed the shame?

I had my sleeve a year & a half ago. I've only told family & close friends. I was very embarrased about people's reactions & wanting to keep my personal life private. I still have not chosen to tell work collegues... And now I wish I had upfront, as it would have been so much easier.. I work in the healthcare industry and there are alot of people within my department. Doctors, nurses etc. I feel the guilt of living a lie and I feel ashamed of having to need help! But this has given me my life back, I work hard everyday, I'm now physically active at the gym regularly, watching my eating, reading the packets of things, seein dietitians, personal trainers! I couldn't be in a better state of mind, but feel awful for Lying to people. On a regular basis like most of you I have people asking me about my weight loss, saying I'm fading away, I look fabulous.. I don't know what to say..I say I excercise & eat well which is true, but the guilt eats me up inside because I hate lying.. And because I've kept it a secret for so long I wouldn't know how to tell them. And once you tell one person, everyone knows...that's over 100 people in my department plus the other departments once people start gossiping.. I'm sure they have their suspicions, but I was just so worried about their reactions.. I had previously heard some people say some nasty things about WLS and because I was initially unsure of my decision, I wasn't ready to let in any negative opinions.. I didn't come to my decision likely, like others I'd stuggled with different diets for years.. It took me one year to contemplate having the surgery.. It would have been easier had I of told people initially bc I returned back to work after 2 weeks post op, and was exausted.. My job is manual and on your feet. It is rare but there are some days I might go 6 hours without a break, Which nearly kills me sometimes, but I don't want people making exceptions for me either. Just unsure what to do now, as I've left it so long, not sure how to tell people.. They may feel hurt I kept it from them.. But I hate the daily questions of people asking me about my weight loss, bc I feel its all a lie.. I want to feel proud when they congratulate me, instead I feel guilt bc I haven't told them the truth and i feel I am Taking credit for something I didn't do entirely myself. I have worked my arse off & non of it has been easy, but I've always been someone that cares alot about other peoples opinions. I know I am now strong enough to take on any negative opinions & I know I have prevented a future of cardiac problems, diabetes, high cholesterol, diabetes etc. I am Happy with my decision, so why can't I just be open about it, Instead of feeling ashamed?

Not worth the calories, didn't realize till the end of the night when I recorded it into my fitness pal, really puts things into perspective

Thanks for that! 1000 calories just seems soo small.. I mean its enough food, it just has to Be the right food.. I've been using my fitness pal, and 1000 cals doesn't really allow for much outside the box. If you have something bad, It pulls you over significantly! I had a 100g Choc bar yesterday, shouldn't have, I was naughty, but it was like 500 calories I was shocked! But I guess this is what u have to do when losing weight, cut the crap out!

I'm 1 1/2 years out after my sleeve, but body has stopped losing weight. Lost nearly 2/3 of excess weight, 42kgs.. I eat relatively good, & excercise.. What should my daily calorie intake be? 1000 calories a day? 2L Water? And how much Protein?? What Vitamins are the 2nd, 3rd year post op sleeves on??? I don't know how to write a thread on the veteran site

Also I think u need too address these "binging" emotional eating ways before you have it. As these are psychological and can still happen once uve had the sleeve.. And they will come back and haunt u as I've had the same thing and dealing with them now.. You need better copying mechanisms and ways to deal with stess/ emotions.. Have these strategies in place before the surgery so u can implement them when needed, bc the sleeve won't stop these and u will go through a grieving process around 6 months post op.. And I haven't found it's stopped me From any social things, if anything it's made me Social! U can still eat everything, just in kid like sizes.. And there are actually alot of options out there when you look.

Hey honey, I'm 24, had the sleeve at 23... Nearly 16 months post op, have some regrets but was the best decision for me.. Overweight majority of my life, to yo dieter, was always hungry no matter what I ate! This is just an aid, u still need to put in the work. It hasn't stopped me from eating anything, sometimes social events can be tricky but there are always ways about them.. And who needs big meals and all u can eat? I've lost 43kgs and never been happier.. It is so gratifying and i feel so positive and liberated! I now swim at the beach, go to theme parks, even Water parks, travel, ride elephants, went bungy jumping one year after!!! It's given me back my life! I've had relationships since, still party hard occasionally and has made no difference.. I don't think I could have done it prior.. However really look into the nutritional deficiencies, how your body can be deprived etc that's something I didn't go into enough! The only post op prob I've had , although I'm thr most happiest and active I've ever been I feel quite lethargic! I do Shiftwork which doesn't help and have a busy schedual so hard too assess.. But have noticed feeling pretty exausted... Seeing my dietition in 2 weeks for a review and just had bloods done, so will see if anything comes up.. Also my bowels are a little different now, and my stomach tends to make alot of noise sometimes while eating or straight after.. But in my eyes these are all worth it, and I believe of u do the hard work, eat right, excercise and take your medications there's no reason for you not too be healthy and happy.. Good luck with your decision.. I advise not to get the band- too many post op complications- slipping, adhesions etc.. I've seen it and spoken to too many people/ chances are u will eventually get the sleeve after.. Cya

No idea how many I should be eating, downloaded an app will start tomorrow

Unfortunately another 28kgs long way too go yet!

Hi everyone, So im 16 months post op, have lost 42kgs all up, and have plateaud. No matter what I do, eat healthy, excercise 1-1/12 3-4 times a week still don't lose anything. Haven't lost anything for a couple of months, getting worried. When I see people they say I look smaller, however I don't feel smaller and the scales don't say any different.. So not sure if im building muscle or have Water etc... Not sure my current calorie intake or what my daily calorie intake should even be? Also find it extremely difficult to drink 2 L water a day! I'm never thirsty and have to force it in.. Any advice **Future**

I found I did research regarding intra op complications & post op complications however wasn't really prepared for the after effects.. Before surgery, take fish oil tablets/eat Protein for hair loss Get a good moisterising cream u use daily to help your skin integrity Know what medications u will need and how to take them.. Bc the Vitamins are over the counter, my dietition Told me what I needed yet never told me how to take them. I've been taking Iron tablets without Vitamin c/ which helps absorb it and takin it with Calcium tablets which channel eachother out.. So pointless.. So know why, when and how to take it.. The post op stuff didn't bother me.. It's stressful and exausting initially, but all forgotten In a few weeks.. My problem was not having the nutritional help afterwards. Knowing how many calories a day, what portion sizes were normal, what foods and when too eat..so really work closely with a dietition.. I think it's a good idea to have clothes ready in boxes with sizes, so when ur dropping the weight u can wear them.. I became too small for alot of mine which was a shame.. Have a good supportive network, people u can talk too.. I found eating out really difficult, however u find little places that do awesome Entrees or go to places that have cheaper meals etc so it's not a waste! Excercise early in, bc you lose muscle fast so u want to restore it and not lose it bc it's very difficult to gain afterwards! Hope this helps!

I've had repetitive bloods done, some things are borderline however don't suggest all the symptoms.. Have been reading the veterans pages and have found them extremely helpful.. I don't feel that my surgeon is very interesed, & havent really found the dietition to be overly helpful.. They were brilliant in the pre op stage and initial stages but not so much for long term post op.. So just checking in with general practitioners..

Thanks everybody, will certainly look into it! I am Thrilled with my new body & have no regretes but once I get rid of this tiredness I will be over the moon will certainly look into my vitamins

Its frustrating as I pay my dietition $90 for half an hour and non of this was explained about the vitamins.. There was no ongoing education after surgery about nutrition once I got over the 6 weeks post op, I wasn't too bothered though, bc id rather they botch up the after care rather then the surgery... Great full all the went 100% everything else I can handle.. So I've just been researching myself had a personal trainer for a year that also taught me about healthy eating- great protein foods- he was better then my dietitian and I didn't even have to pay him for the dietition advice he did it all in his own time..