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Sending good thoughts your way for stress relief.

I don't think they know anything. I think they advise against it because they see a risk that it could stretch your sleeve. Some Drs don't say never again but many do because the risk is too great for them I think. I personally gave up a raging habit and have not considered picking it back up.

I have a freezer full of them. I have liked everything so far.

When you buy the vapor cigs the fluid comes in bottles that are mixed to your specs. I quit using vapor cigs (not e cigs). I mixed 4 bottles the first being slightly less mg than full flavor- the second less- the 3rd even less and the 4th was flavored vapor only, no nicotine to work on the hand to mouth habit. Also, i had them made into fruit flavors, not cigarette flavors. I drink a lot of strawberry crush (diet) and i transferred my need for a cig to a sip of my sf drink with the same taste. Surgery was a breeze and I was actually taken off BP meds when i woke up. I also got 100 oxygen readings on my pulse ox every time instead of the usual post-op pneumonia.

Do you believe him? I really think he needs to talk to someone. The autism is a stressful issue for everyone in the family no doubt. If that is truly the issue he needs help to work it out because as you say isn't going anywhere. He can let it tear up your marriage or help it unite the two of you and make it stronger.

Wow, you painted quit the picture lol. Thank God i was given the " i don't care" injection before I left for the OR. I never even considered having it all hanging out there.

Beat of luck for a smooth and painless recovery!

They worry because it happens so often. Sometimes people that suddenly lose weight and start getting looks from the opposite sex and attention they wouldn't have had otherwise can't handle it. I have seen it happen many times. 2 years ago the insurance at my husbands work started covering WLS. Within months a line was forming at a particular Drs door for Lapband. Fully half of the yard employees or their spouses were in that line. In some cases both went. In the approximate 30 people I am aware of 5 divorced over this very thing in the first year. I don't think that those marriages were strong to start with personally. The Love and respect there seemed to have been 1 sided. I don't happen to think that if you love someone you would seek out or welcome advances from someone else. My husband mentioned concerns about it within 5 minutes of our beginning discussion on my having the sleeve surgery. I reassured him that i love him deeply and that i was 100% committed to him and our marriage and would never feel otherwise. That is also the commitment i expect from him and the size of either of our bodies has no bearing on the issue. End of subject.

Wow, i am so impressed with you and your family. It cannot ever be said that you did not think through every aspect of this situation or that you didn't do everything possible for your daughter so ensure her success. With so much support in place she cannot fail. Whether she loses her excess weight with diet, surgery or a combination I have no doubt she will lose it and have a long healthy life ahead of her.

By the way, i see that once again my ipad has dropped letters and rewritten words for me. Grrrrr, please look past the typos.

I gave my opinion of this when the thread was first opened but i didn't really expand on my reasons for it. I cannot help but think of my 2 ex sister in laws. As children borh were ovrweight and then obese. As they grew older and entered JR High school they started to really care what others thought. They wanted boyfriends , to be accepted at school etc. they started trying to diet but failed at all attempts. Not really fail because they would lose 30-40 lbs but they couldn't keep up the momentum and eventually regained. They had so much to lose and felt like the end was too far away to ecer reach. Most of us know that story all too well. How i wish that this surgery had been availale for them in the early 80s. It wasn't though and by the time they were 15 and 16 years old they were both diabetic. They struggled with their health for the next 5 years until the biggest fear was realized. At 20 and 21 years of age they were both put on kidney dialysis. 2 years later the older sister had a leg amputated. Within a month the younger one lost her eyesight. Within the following year the younger one lost a leg and her sister also went blind. The youngest sister died from heart failure at the age of 26. Her sister died do to a pulmonary embolism at 29. Why do i tell this story? Because these girls would have avoided all of that had they been able to get the weight off and keep it off. They tried and couldn't do it on their own. Had they been able to have this surgery their life story would have to be rewritten. I believe that. I do not believe that it is always in the best interest of a child to be forced to wait until society thinks they're old enough. Sometimes common sense needs to enter into it. Sometimes we need to understand that this isn't a one size fits all subject. Sometimes this surgery saves lives and who deserves to live a long healthy life more than a young person?

Like you I have been waiting for the proof. If its true then that is obviously something potential patients should be aware of. If its not true I would like an explanation of why such a lie was thrown out there.I can think of only one reason for that.

I thinks its a safe bet that someone died in Mexico the day after surgery, probably several someones. Not necessarily after weight loss surgery but its a distinct possibility. As all informed patients know surgeries come with that risk, some more than others. Weight loss surgery is no different. Several someones died in the US in the same time period for the same reasons. What was your point? If its to make a particular Dr, hospital or coordinator look bad I'm afraid you're having the wrong effect. It's making YOU look bad.

You most certainly did not do that. Please dismiss that thought right away. I'm proud for you that you made the decision that felt right for you in the moment. I don't kmow if I would have been brave enough to walk away once i was there. If you choose to be sleeved at a later date you'll do it knowing it has been thoroughly researched and you are ready. Thats theonly way it should happen for anyof us although sadly it isn't that way in many cases.

Do you remember what you ate that made you feel that way?

Hi Madame Reverie. Thank you so much for your kind words. I stopped using the vapor cigs about 1 month before surgery. It wasn't due to my amazing will power. My battery stopped taking a charge that lasted more than15 minutes. I was too cheap to buy another setup at 75.00 a piece and i honestly felt it was in my head at that point. It wasn't difficult. He didn't asked me about it and neither did my anesthesiologist. In my paperwork it said i SHOULD quit and i SHOULD resolve not to pick it back up after surgery. He didn't do blood tests to check me and i don't think he would have refused me but I don't know for sure. " Should" is like strong advice and advice can be taken or left. The old me would have left it every time if i wanted to. The new me wanted to start my life over with a fresh slate. That meant losing weight and stopping smoking. i knew myself well enough to know i needed help with both.That meant having the sleeve and using any crutch I could find that would work. Anyway, as usual i drone on and never really answered your question. I was not told anything about using the vapor-cig after surgery. Had things gone differently I would have used it with a very low or no nicotine level.

I smoked heavily for over 40 years, between 2-3 packs per day. I have had 5 major surgeries in my lifetime. With each and every one I have had postoperative pheumonia, extended hospital stay and slow healing. When I was researching the sleeve I learned quickly that quitting was a requirement with most surgeons. I resented it for a while and actually almost didn't procede with the process over it because I thought I couldn't quit and didn't particularly want to try. I had tried/failed many many times. Truth be told I didn't want to quit. I enjoyed it and it had become a part of who I was. Maybe strange but true. Then one day I thought about it on a deeper level. I looked at my pack of cigarettes and realized that it is what is standing between me and the opportunity to have a life changing-saving surgery. I thought " little rectangular box filled with chopped dried leaves has had more power over my health than I have and I have given it that power. I'm taking that power back today." After long hard consideration I decided to give it another try with one difference this time. I would not give myself permission to fail. I wanted the surgery and this habit was the object in my way. I decided to try vapor cigs. I purchased a kit with 4 vials of vapor liquid. I had the largest bottle made up with 25% less nicotine than full flavored. The 3 remaining bottles were made with 50% less, 75% less and 0% nicotine respectively. I puffed them in order reducing my nicotine intake until I was getting none. I puffed the 0% one for 2 weeks with the puffing spread out over longer periods of time. That was to break the hand to mouth habit we (smokers) all seem to have. That can be as hard to get past as the nicotine and can lead to weight gain because we replace food with the cigarette in the hand to mouth motion. It worked. I can say that not only do I not smoke, I don't even think about it. My husband still smokes and I am not bothered by it at all. I am not one of those x-smokers that spend my free time on a soapbox preaching the sermons of Hellfire and damnation to all of those that continue. I get that we are all adults and the choice belongs to each of us. I am one of those that knows very well how hard it can be to quit. I offer the method that worked for me to those of you that want to try it. If it doesn't work for you I encourage you to see your PCP for help with other methods. Its worth it. The end result was that my surgery was 8 days ago. From the moment of surgery on my oxygen readings were consistenly 100%. There was no pneumonia to add to my recovery plan for the first time in my life. I can focus on my weighloss. I can take the walks I need to take without getting winded. I get a certain satisfaction from knowing that while my body begins to look better outwardly it is healing inwardly as my lungs work to return to their normal state. I have a sense of self-pride in completing a challenge that has eluded me thus far. The money I save in cigarettes will now be stashed away in my personal new wardrobe stash. My children's memory of me from this point on will be of healthy living practices that will hopefully be incorporated into their lives as well. I have no doubt there will be more benefits to come.

Wow, you look amazing!

Good for you BigBeauty78! I believe that we teach others how to treat us. If we don't accept abuse in any form in the beginning it is much less likely to be attempted later. By abuse i include control. I think that control is one of the most unrecognized forms of abuse. It goes both ways too. Women can be as bad as men about attempting to control their partner. Wanna see me run? Tell me what to do or speak to me in a condescending way. Poof!

I hear you NurseBarbie and I'm very sorry you feel hurt. As far as longest sleeved, I'm not even sure I comprehend why that is such a big claim to fame or basis for a power trip. No matter when sleeved, where sleeved, whom sleeved by we all share a common denominator.....,why sleeved. We are or were fat. We do or have struggled with obesity. We will or have sought the help of a surgeon for it. In other words, no matter who we are or where we stand on the road to the finish line we are all the same. None better than others. Your problems are our problems.

Momonanomo said it well. You may have been in a declining marriage for years. Sometimes thats just what it is and there isn't anything to fight for or save. It happens. You have to decide if yours is one of those or if there is a basis for rebuilding it. Nobody can make that choice for you although like I said earlier i would have been gone if my spouse had threatened to leave me over my weight. If you decide its over make your plans and move on. It isn't a good idea to muddy the water and engage in flirting of affairs just because its there and you can. You're better than that and you have a lifetime to accept advances from men if you want to as a single woman.

Wait, if he threatened to leave you if you didn't lose weight that changes everything!! Whether i lost weight or not i would be moving on if that was said to me. That doesn't sound like love talking.

Often a spouse's biggest fear is that their partner's weight loss will make them attractive to the opposite sex. They fear that they'll be hit on and that they will take someone up on offers they might not have received otherwise. If you had a strong marriage before you should still have one. You might need to reassure him that your Interest is and will forever be in him, if that is he case.

I had one that was removed before discharge.

Yes i have. Its behind me.