hopingtolose2013

Girl...I don't know how people can be offended by your beliefs! Everyone is different. It sounds like you liked the church you attended but its too painful to return. Again, I am not comapring my loss of my father as being anywhere close to what you experieced. I just am giving you my experience. I had those same feelings of trauma and remembrance of my father with our doctors. I had my baby and was dx with congestive heart failure 7 days later. I almost died. After that my father and I saw the same drs. We had the aame general dr and the sane cardiologist. It was hard for me to see them again. I made it and my dad didnt. I cried to them the dirst time we saw each other again. They were both so understanding and sorry. I still see them both. I am telling you this bc the preacher I bet would be more than happy to talk to you for free. He would actually be a great person to speak with. I bet the funeral was hard for him. Its just an option. I felt soo much better after facing the drs and getting out those emotions. I still almost cry everytime I go to the cardiologist, but I love hom too much to switch!!

I have bcbs New Jersey. 35.6 BMI. didn't have to provide history..just a six mibth supervised diet. I have 6 health issues related to weight. I was approved same day!

Nothing anyone can say can make you feel better. Nothing. It is gteat you arent turning to food! My suggestion is to get a counselor! I know some people hate them but you really really need to talk to someone to work out your emotional eating and the loss of your son. You will be so much more successful if you work on your mental too. I hadbto see one after my dad passed. Not even close to losing a child but the pain was unbearable and I needed help. I can't imagine your pain. I am so so sorry.

I hope to be one of those skinny beotches that gets cold when its 80 degrees instead of sweating like a roasting pig!

NO! Good topic! My surgery is Monday. I am so nervous. I am kind of ignoring the fact that I have two three more days! I have never gotten below 170. I am about 205 now. My dr goal is 140. I would like 130, but I just can't see it. I am in a 16 now...I can see me in a 12...and that would be stretching it. If I got to a 10 or lower I would just die. Not really ..I would be so happy and shocked! Having a hard time believing this will be the tool that works dor me. Nothing else has ever worked. I am doing it with high hopes!

I lovrvwhen people say its dumb or the easy way out. I believe this is tge hard way out of obesity. We are just brave enough to take that chance. Not only is it a new"diet" that involves way less than the normal diet. ..at first there is no cheating at all. You physically can't handle it. Then you've gone through major surgery so it is incentive not to ever get out of control. We all know how the old fashion way works. Its a never ending cycle! My brother wasnt supportive. He thinks I can just eat less. I told him that I don't need judgement or opinions and he has no clue. I just need his support. He said he was sorry!

Thank you! That means a lot! It is so hard dealing with my weight issues..but not in front of her. I am an open person. I just want the best for her. I never talk about being fat or diets in front of her. Even if it is a food ahe likes she might not eat it. To the point of getting black circles under her eyes and being tired. I have talked to the dr about it..without her in the room. I wish people would stop telling her how skinny she is. I think it plays into her obsession for not eating. Anyway..that was an off topic rant! I just feel its best not to tell he I am doing this. I appreciate the words of support!

I am very open. I tell almost everything! I can't help it and I dont care what others think. My aunt hsd the surf ery and lost a ton of weight. When I asked her what she was doing to lose weight she told me she had problems with her gall bladder and had been really sick. Pity party much? I'm not dumb and knew what she had done. She still hasn't admitted it and I never asked again. For me I'd rather be truthful..it may help someelse out. I am doing this bc a friend shared her experience with me. I am not ashamed. The only person that wobt know is my daughter. I told her but not exactly. She has anorexic tendencies and I don't want her to be affected mentally by this. She is only 8.

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I see lots of you from Louisiana! I'm in Bston Rouge!

Approved in one day! Date aet for July 8th! Two weeks! Nervous and excited!

I'm trying to get my Dr to get my paperwork together so we can send it to insurance. As soon as it is approved i will schedule the surgery Asap. I'm s teacher and trying to get it done this summer. So, does everyone have to do the preop diet? I'm just at 35% bmi. .. maybes little lower.

My daughter is 8 and it's way too concerned about how skinny she is and she doesn't eat. Its been a struggle since she was two. I am terrified she will be anorexic. So We don't discuss weight loss around her. It is hard when everyone comments on how skinny she is. We don't need to add to her thoughts. So i will tell her its tummy surgery to fix a pain. I won't say anything at all about weight loss. When i start losing i will just say its healthy eating. I hate it has to be that way.

Thank you both! I also have a thyroid issue. So that's good to know. I am waiting for my dr to approve papers and send in for approval. I am hoping I am approved. I just made the 35% bmi cut off. You would think my medical issues would be more important than the weight. Anyway...hoping to get approved soon!

If so...how did your weight loss go? How fast or slow did you lose?

Can someone please send me an example of what you had for this requirement?? My doctor didn't do six seperate notes...I think he needs an example! Thanks! alana_macaluso@Yahoo.com

That's how I feel too. I am right at 35...but even at 30 I still have ALL of the comorbids. Isnt that what matters? It should matter that I have had those for 15 years...and I am 37...not that I'm 10 lbs off the weight required. Ugh!

PCOS here too! I was able to have a baby 8 yrs ago. However not bc of pcos I had heart failure after giving birth. We tgen adopted a beautiful baby from China. No one understands how hard it is to lose weight with pcos. I am getting my paperwotk together and hoping insurance covers the procedure!

I agree... it's one of those things. I am very familiar with jumping through hoops. My husband and i adopted a beautiful little girl from China. That process is nothing but hoops. I also understand that it is expensive and they want to be sure you will be able to do it. Just saying it is crazy to think anyone who is obese and seeking surgery hasn't been involved in many attempts to lose weight.

Can i just be honest? This requirement it's the most ridiculous. Do they really think someone who has been over weight for years hasn't tried to lose weight? It would be much easier if you could just diet and not need major surgery. However we all know that isn't possible for some of us. I can lose weight. ..but i can't keep it off our go below a certain number. ..of i could i wouldn't be trying to have major surgery. Just makes me mad.

I am one of those who does want to be healthier. ..however I have had insulin resistance, high blood pressure, higgh cholesterol, and thyroid issues for abiut 18 years and I'm 37. I also developed heart failure with my pregnancy. My main goal is to be around when my kids have kids. I am barely at 35 bmi but my health is horrible. HOWEVER...getting down to a 6, 4, or 2 would be an extra bonus like winning the lotto! I won't say I wouldn't be over the moom at at and don't dream of it....I would love to say...I'm freezing in a hot room! But honestly. ..I am most tired of taking 12 pills a day. It gets old after so many years.

My bmi has always been about 32...I can't get below 175.. No matter what i do. I have pcos, insulin resistance, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, thyroid, and low b vitamins. I have had the first 5 for over 15 years. ..I am 37. My bmi is now 35 and i am trying to get insurance to pay for the surgery. I want to be around for my kids. I also had a tummy tuck. ..everyone said i want big enough but it isn't about appearance for me it's about meeting my grandkids

I have bcbs and I was told I had to have 35% BMI...is that at time of weigh in at the surgeons office...or is it a history of over 35?