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Hi, I'm Rj and i am not who I used to be!
Indigo1991 replied to RJ'S/beginning's topic in Gastric Sleeve Surgery Forums
RJ, you know how much I admire you and the way you have coped - and continue to cope - with what has happened over the last year. But you can't see yourself the way I think the rest of us see you - you are still strong and determined. But that's now tempered with experiences that you didn't expect and shouldn't have had to go through. Physically, you have been through the mill. Thats tough enough but the hurt of finding out that the people you thought were friends really weren't, that would have shaken each of us to the core. You question whether you will get over that and the other things that have happened. Simple answer is - you will. You're not the same person and that's ok. In time, this new post-wls life will become exciting. You can now choose how to live today and tomorrow, not how you lived in the past. You will make new friends, who you will trust and love because not everyone is out to betray you. As your health improves, you will want to get your little self out there and meet new people. Trust me, it's weird but it happens when you least expect it. Have had so much sh1t in recent years (luckily no near death experiences tho), didn't have a big enough shovel. So when I couldn't shovel any more, I decided to leave the crap behind and stop beating myself up by raking it over. Painful, difficult but by persevering, I am making progress, having fun - and surprising myself by being happier than I could ever have imagined. This WLS has a lot to answer for, making folk happy :-))))) The people who did what they did to you aren't worthy of having you as a friend. It is their loss, our gain. And I promise your life will blossom, just give it a chance and a bit more time xx -
Yes, I had WLS and YES, I *AM* doing this on my own.
Indigo1991 replied to LipstickLady's topic in Weight Loss Surgery Success Stories
LL, only thing you missed out was who the body double was that went in and had major surgery on your behalf - oh, sorry, was that actually you ???? Yup, think it might have been... People can say whatever they like about being sleeved but it ain't the easy option - and we do it on our own, every sip, every mouthful, ever mile walked.... Ps my body sounds just like yours but add a few more wrinkles -
Life has just been getting better and better, my first Christmas as a normal sized person is shaping up to be great. I still have my worries and struggles - when is enough when it comes to weight loss? Should I have a boob job? Am I eating too much? Then my friend called me last night. Exactly a year ago, he started chemo for leukaemia but despite that, his doctors told him in March that his condition is terminal. Recently, he was told that it looked as if he was going into remission and they have moved back from his "sentence" of having only 18 months left to live to leaving it open ended for now. Things were looking great for him and we are due to have a big night out on the 28th to Celebrate his remission. But his call last night was to tell me that he had gone for a scan and they'd found a tumour on his heart - and he was scared. We talked for an hour, there are some options for treatment then I hung up the phone and cried. Woke up this morning and my first thought was how much I have to be grateful for - my health, my new life, my family and friends - and the prospect of a longer life due to my WLS. My friend has just turned 40. We will take things as they come, as we have done for the last year, and will look forward to 2014 with hope. Merry Christmas to you, I hope you have something to be grateful for this festive season xxx
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BTB, great pic!
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CristyRNY, check out my post "Got naked, nobody died of shame".... Might give you hope!!! You're not the only one on the site to have experienced this lack of confidence, but many are overcoming it. I am 8 months out, I was where you are (although I am way older) but my sleeve has transformed me and my life beyond recognition. To the extent I got naked last weekend for the first time in years with some I have lusted over for years and can t believe it .... Hence, my post! Don't lose hope, you are just at the beginning ....
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Going with the flow is good :-) I didn't sleep well for the first couple of weeks but every day it gets better. I was propped up in bed and that helped until I could lie down properly. Others use recliners or pillows to support their scar areas or to lie on their sides. Maybe try some of those suggestions to see if that helps. Congratulations and good luck with your new sleeve....
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Got naked, nobody died of shame...
Indigo1991 replied to Indigo1991's topic in Weight Loss Surgery Success Stories
CGJ - love it !!!! Actions speak way louder than words....hope it all stays good for you. -
Three weeks out and not losing weight!
Indigo1991 replied to EggWithLegs's topic in Gastric Sleeve Surgery Forums
It's very common, happens to most folks. And brace yourself, it won't be the last stall you have, lasting from days to weeks. Just trust in your sleeve and stick to the plan, the weight will come off. It won't always come off steadily, I described my weight loss as steps and stairs, nothing for a few weeks, then a drop. Don't get disheartened, this is normal. And one piece of advice - it's hard not to, but please don't compare your weight loss to others. It happens differently for each of us and remember, it's a marathon not a sprint. I have been a slow loser but I am almost there - and it was worth every stall that drove me nuts on the way there !!!! -
OMG, I am so sorry to hear about your friend's son and your sister in law. These things are tough at any time of the year but at Christmas it feels more acute...
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My a** is disappearing......need help......
Indigo1991 replied to Memily's topic in Gastric Sleeve Surgery Forums
If you find your ass, see if mine is there keeping it company, lol. Pilates is also good to build muscles in your butt and easier on the knees.... Good luck! -
Did any of you have food funerals prior to starting your preop diet?
Indigo1991 replied to A_ReNUDE_me's topic in Gastric Sleeve Surgery Forums
Did a tour of my favourite restaurants in the two weeks prior to the pre-op diet. Had a lot of nice meals that I really enjoyed. Day before diet started, I went and bought food I thought I would miss - rice, beef, chocolate, Snacks - but strangely enough, I didn't eat any of it. Was so focussed on the forthcoming diet and so ready to make changes, I just wanted to get on with it... bit boring but I was so done with food by then, there was nothing left to eat that gave me a thrill! -
Good luck Raine and Betty - we will all be cheering you on! being sleeved is not necessarily easy but it is worth it :-)
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Got naked, nobody died of shame...
Indigo1991 replied to Indigo1991's topic in Weight Loss Surgery Success Stories
CGJ - this one's hot too.... It definitely helps :-))))) -
Got naked, nobody died of shame...
Indigo1991 replied to Indigo1991's topic in Weight Loss Surgery Success Stories
Oh yes, had a very good time ☺ -
Got naked, nobody died of shame...
Indigo1991 replied to Indigo1991's topic in Weight Loss Surgery Success Stories
I was really unsure about posting this topic - but I am sooooo glad I did. Yet again, it's good to know I am not the only one struggling with something that should be a normal part of life. And talking about it definitely helps (once I got over the initial embarrassment!) Lipstick, photo evidence? Em, that's probably a selfie too far - but when I get up to the confidence levels of sophiepants and Chellemetime, you'll be the first to see the pic :-)))))) Here's to us!!!!! -
Got naked, nobody died of shame...
Indigo1991 replied to Indigo1991's topic in Weight Loss Surgery Success Stories
Revs, if you are in town we certainly should meet up - pm me the details of the meeting? Now enjoy the warm and fuzzy sensation while it lasts :-))))) -
Got naked, nobody died of shame...
Indigo1991 replied to Indigo1991's topic in Weight Loss Surgery Success Stories
CGJ, I love your story and can relate to it so closely. You may not be meant to be with this man forever, but look at the gifts he's given you. People are in our lives for a reason or a season or for life... He's your man for this moment. You put your finger right on it when you said you lost feeling like a woman. I feel like I just got that feeling back... and it is so exciting!!!! -
Got naked, nobody died of shame...
Indigo1991 replied to Indigo1991's topic in Weight Loss Surgery Success Stories
Yes, CGJ, do tell!!!!! -
An atheist's pov vs a christain point of view
Indigo1991 replied to gamergirl's topic in Gastric Sleeve Surgery Forums
Very good! I have some friends to share this with.... -
Got naked, nobody died of shame...
Indigo1991 replied to Indigo1991's topic in Weight Loss Surgery Success Stories
RJ, no please don't mind your own business, I am genuinely grateful for the advice and support - and thank you for the kind words, which mean a lot. As a keeper of secrets who is trying to be more open, I haven't told many people that my husband cheated on me for years, no-one would believe me. But it rocked me to the core, adding to my eating problems big time. Being fat gave me the excuse that that was why he went elsewhere. But with a clearer brain and feeling more confident, I know that's not the case. So it's taken me until now - and with the help of my sleeve - to find myself again, the girl who 30 years ago would have stripped naked to a band playing, lol. And I won't go for the same kind. I have known this lovely man for 40 years, man and boy, and he adored me fat and thin. Might not be anything long lasting but he will never know the significance of the weekend or the importance of letting me move on.. -
Sorry off thread - gmanbat, great pic!
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Got naked, nobody died of shame...
Indigo1991 replied to Indigo1991's topic in Weight Loss Surgery Success Stories
Ha ha ha! I am in Scotland, trust me, there will be no need for an APB today, if I stripped the cold would just make me look even more wrinkly But it is such a liberating feeling to no longer fear something that should be pretty natural.... feels like I put down another burden that has been holding me back... -
Yup, sometimes well-meaning but misguided, sometimes exactly for the reason you mention - they don't want me to get smaller than them. People can be really funny even if they do want you to do well - that's ok as long as you know your place. And if that's as the fattest person in their group or being fatter than them, then that's where they want you to stop. Smile, thank them and tell them that your doc is supervising and he/she will tell you when to stop at a healthy weight. Then change the subject... Congratulations on your loss to date, fantastic!
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Got naked, nobody died of shame...
Indigo1991 replied to Indigo1991's topic in Weight Loss Surgery Success Stories
Thank you all - if I can't share this with you, who understand the whole weight loss/self doubt thing, who can I tell it to??? Gamergirl, I just don't know if this has long term potential or if he is Mr Right - but he's Mr Right Now! The whole naked thing has been preying on my mind. Apart from the general effects of age on my bod, losing 82lbs leaves its mark. Had also lost so much confidence post-husband, was beginning to think I would be single and never have sex ever again... :-0 Now I know anything is possible and I can actually feel my self confidence has soared. Won't be rushing out to test this new power to get naked with anyone else any time soon - but this is a giant step forward in my new life -
Got naked, nobody died of shame...
Indigo1991 replied to Indigo1991's topic in Weight Loss Surgery Success Stories
Lol, I have been giggling too.... :-)))))