RedFiona

Hi all, I have been on and off this board since my surgery in August 07. I started at 307 and am currently at 227, oh, and I'm 5"3'. I have had steady weight loss so far but recently I have noticed my arms and legs starting to get alot of loose skin on them. I am not afraid of having plastic surgery to correct it, but it is the idea of where the money will come from and me turning into a big bag of loose skin. I get alot of anxiety over this and I'm not even half way thru my weight loss!! What will I look like in another 50lbs!! I find myself thinking about foods I have not eaten nor had any interest in since my surgery. I dont want to sabotage my weight loss, but I dont want to turn into a flubber monster either!! Thanks Y'all

Wow! Thank you SO much. That really hit home! :party:

Thank you all!! You guys are the BEST!! The best way to get through something is to talk about it, so that is what I did. I am working on doing more reps with my arm weights and longer time on the treadmill. I would like to get up to heavier weights but first things first. Thank you all soooooooo much!!

I have to agree about Atlanta Bariatrics, Dr. Hart and Dr. Johnson are amazing. The deciding factor for me was the on staff nutritionist, the monthly support groups (at Emory Johns Creek Hospital), the free exercise classes (also at the hospital), and the encouragement to join an on line group ( like this one). I was also impressed by how much they make you do before you have your surgery. They give you a check list of doctor appointments, medical tests, psych evaluations, lectures you must attend, and a meeting with the nutritionist before you are scheduled. I felt them to be very thorough about the positives and negatives of the surgery. They repeatedly stress again and again that if you have ANY, and I mean any questions to contact them. You are given the nurses email along with phone numbers. I had my surgery August 20, 2007 by Dr. Johnson. Started at 307, now at 227 and going. Contact them, even if just for a consultation. They are big on support! Atlanta Bariatrics Link

kei1170 thanks for the health reminder. That is a BIG improvement, no more pills, yay!! I guess I can get so caught up in the day to day stuff that I can look over the big picture. Thank you!! ziahmama I havn't even thought of the firming creams!! Thanks!

Well, the time has come. I am almost 1 week away from my surgery date. I think I am more excited than scared right now but I know that will change the day of. Gladly my surgery is at 7am, so I wont have alot of time to think about it, just wake up (if I sleep at all!) and go to the hospital. I have been fat my entire life and I am ready for the new journey I will be on after I get my band!!!

I am going into this surgery feeling that whatever eds feeling are , are agrivation over getting something done that i am just going to fail at. yet another thing in my life that i will fall on my face and he will have to be there to pick up the pieces or to throw up his hands and say that is "enough i have had it and i am correct in saying so because of all the situations that i have obviously gone thru with her. I am correct and justified in my decision and anyone would come up with the same solution." there is no caring no encuragement no helpfullness, just aggrivation that his day has to be interupted by someone or something else other than what he wants to do. if we are driving somewhere and the person in front of us is going to slow, it is not because he is driving to fast, it is because the person infront of us is an idiot. how dare they interupt his plan or goal or direction of travel. he has love and kindness and understanding for everyone else in the world but me. yes he loves me yes he cares about me, "he told me that on the day we were married, why the hell would he have to show it or tell me that any more. I told you once already, and i dont need to be bothered with showing or telling you that unless i deem it necessary or proper in the current situation." Maybe ed was given to me to teach me to tuffen up. to stop having so.... no goddamnit no. why do i have to be the one that is wrong, why do i have to be the one that is to clingy or needy. why am i the one that always makes the wrong decisions. I have supported every goddamn decision he has ever had that has put us further and further into debit. if there is money available than that is what must be done with it. there is no reason to save up for anything. i want it and i am going to buy it. and since no one has a good enough reason, and no you cant doesnt count, i am going to get what i want with no respect to anyone around us. And if all our money is not taken care of properly than we have to get raging mad because i am so stupid i cant even handle money. I dont know what i can handle any more. i am such an emotional person and have such outward emotions and he is so hard uncaring swift to anger and judgemental. he has no patence for me so i am wrong and there is no time in his life or schedual for someone who is wrong, so he gets mad. And that is what i am left with. I just love him. I see all the good things in him but all i get is the short temper the lack of patence and the feeling from him that all i do is never good enough. how can i get over dealing with his emotions when he means so much to me. he can hurt me so much and act like he doesnt have the time or want to care about my reaction, if it does not fit into his schedual. I am sitting here typing and soon he is going to say something to me in an exasperated tone about me getting up and doing the things that i need to do before i have this goddamn unnecesary surgery that he is against and has no patence for because it does not fit into his ideals of how to handle the situation. all you need to do is eat better and excersize. I am not a mean or vendictive person, that is not who i am or who i want to be, but the eating right and excersizing thing has worked real fucking good for you hasnt it. you have not even been on the treadmill or that goddamn weight machine in god knows how long. But dont do as i do, do as i tell you to do, that is all that matters. And if you have any questions about what i just said than re read it again. now get out of my way because i have no more patience for you and you are an idiot for speaking to me and taking up all my time with this stupid nonsence that i have no interest in since it is not on my agenda. you are taking up my time that i do not wish to waist on you by listening to your nonsencical bull shit. If i feel like it is worth my time or effort i will be plesant to you and interested in what you are doing, so untill you see those emotions there is no reason for you to be speaking to me or bothering me because i will only be irritated and bothered and i have no time for you or that in my day. if such time should arrize that i feel that what you have to offer is interesting you shall be acnollaged with kindess and interest. If i do not wish to be bothered by you and what you are offering ends up to be of interest or value to me it is to be treated as a fluke, a situation that does not repeat itself, an off beat chance and nothing more. You will be informed when i feel it is necessary to inform you that you are loved or needed or valued or thanked for whatever reason or situation that i deem neccessary to do so. Untill then you are of no interest to me and you should not bother me with your trivial shit. And do not take politeness as interest because my politeness only lasts a few seconds with you and if you cannot convey what ever useless bullshit you wish to convey in a very brief amount of time, then you will be instructed that what ever the hell you are doing is boring or unimportant or worse waisting my time and you should stop and leave before i get angry. and further, if there are any accomplishments that i have done they should be recognized with joy and praise. any firther emotions i do not wish my time waisted on. any deviation from said stated is not allowed.

I am going into this surgery feeling that whatever eds feeling are , are agrivation over getting something done that i am just going to fail at. yet another thing in my life that i will fall on my face and he will have to be there to pick up the pieces or to throw up his hands and say that is "enough i have had it and i am correct in saying so because of all the situations that i have obviously gone thru with her. I am correct and justified in my decision and anyone would come up with the same solution." there is no caring no encuragement no helpfullness, just aggrivation that his day has to be interupted by someone or something else other than what he wants to do. if we are driving somewhere and the person in front of us is going to slow, it is not because he is driving to fast, it is because the person infront of us is an idiot. how dare they interupt his plan or goal or direction of travel. he has love and kindness and understanding for everyone else in the world but me. yes he loves me yes he cares about me, "he told me that on the day we were married, why the hell would he have to show it or tell me that any more. I told you once already, and i dont need to be bothered with showing or telling you that unless i deem it necessary or proper in the current situation." Maybe ed was given to me to teach me to tuffen up. to stop having so.... no goddamnit no. why do i have to be the one that is wrong, why do i have to be the one that is to clingy or needy. why am i the one that always makes the wrong decisions. I have supported every goddamn decision he has ever had that has put us further and further into debit. if there is money available than that is what must be done with it. there is no reason to save up for anything. i want it and i am going to buy it. and since no one has a good enough reason, and no you cant doesnt count, i am going to get what i want with no respect to anyone around us. And if all our money is not taken care of properly than we have to get raging mad because i am so stupid i cant even handle money. I dont know what i can handle any more. i am such an emotional person and have such outward emotions and he is so hard uncaring swift to anger and judgemental. he has no patence for me so i am wrong and there is no time in his life or schedual for someone who is wrong, so he gets mad. And that is what i am left with. I just love him. I see all the good things in him but all i get is the short temper the lack of patence and the feeling from him that all i do is never good enough. how can i get over dealing with his emotions when he means so much to me. he can hurt me so much and act like he doesnt have the time or want to care about my reaction, if it does not fit into his schedual. I am sitting here typing and soon he is going to say something to me in an exasperated tone about me getting up and doing the things that i need to do before i have this goddamn unnecesary surgery that he is against and has no patence for because it does not fit into his ideals of how to handle the situation. all you need to do is eat better and excersize. I am not a mean or vendictive person, that is not who i am or who i want to be, but the eating right and excersizing thing has worked real fucking good for you hasnt it. you have not even been on the treadmill or that goddamn weight machine in god knows how long. But dont do as i do, do as i tell you to do, that is all that matters. And if you have any questions about what i just said than re read it again. now get out of my way because i have no more patience for you and you are an idiot for speaking to me and taking up all my time with this stupid nonsence that i have no interest in since it is not on my agenda. you are taking up my time that i do not wish to waist on you by listening to your nonsencical bull shit. If i feel like it is worth my time or effort i will be plesant to you and interested in what you are doing, so untill you see those emotions there is no reason for you to be speaking to me or bothering me because i will only be irritated and bothered and i have no time for you or that in my day. if such time should arrize that i feel that what you have to offer is interesting you shall be acnollaged with kindess and interest. If i do not wish to be bothered by you and what you are offering ends up to be of interest or value to me it is to be treated as a fluke, a situation that does not repeat itself, an off beat chance and nothing more. You will be informed when i feel it is necessary to inform you that you are loved or needed or valued or thanked for whatever reason or situation that i deem neccessary to do so. Untill then you are of no interest to me and you should not bother me with your trivial shit. And do not take politeness as interest because my politeness only lasts a few seconds with you and if you cannot convey what ever useless bullshit you wish to convey in a very brief amount of time, then you will be instructed that what ever the hell you are doing is boring or unimportant or worse waisting my time and you should stop and leave before i get angry. and further, if there are any accomplishments that i have done they should be recognized with joy and praise. any firther emotions i do not wish my time waisted on. any deviation from said stated is not allowed.

Hello everyone! I live in Alpharetta, my surgery date is 8/20, I am self pay and getting it done by Dr. Johnson with Atlanta Bariatrics at Johns Creek Emory hospital. I am so excited and scared out of my mind, all at the same time!!!!

Well here I am on Wednesday and my surgery is sched for monday. I am scared out of my mind and eating anything i can get my hands on. General panic. Ed is out of town right now, that might be a good thing because of how he has been acting around me. Will deal with it day by day.

Well here I am on Wednesday and my surgery is sched for monday. I am scared out of my mind and eating anything i can get my hands on. General panic. Ed is out of town right now, that might be a good thing because of how he has been acting around me. Will deal with it day by day.

My date is the 20th and I agree with what others have said. I am scared, nervous, excited..... lots of emotions!!! I am 5'3 307, and 39 years old on Sept 4. I am having problems with emotional eating, craving foods I have not eaten in months and months. I try not to let those cravings get the best of me, but it is not easy!!!

I would love to see a calendar selection on the blue toolbar that could include peoples birthdays, surgeries, events, and such!! I am so glad i found this forum!!!

I am currently trying to collect all of the children's books that I remember from my youth.

Hello! I am 5'3, and belive me that one inch makes no difference at all!! Ha ha!! I have been very overweight my entire life and am at my heaviest now at 307. I turn 39 in september and I dont want to be fat at fourty!!! My surgery date is 8/20, less than a week!! All those clothing stories, I am right there with you!!!

Does anyone remember the diet cookie. They used to sell them in the health-food stores. The thing was about the size of a hockey puck and had fiber from every known fruit source known to man. I can remember the add from the guy who invented them saying "If you see me eating anything but my cookies, you can punch me in the face". Or some stupid thing like that. The guy claimed he had lost over 100 pounds on them.

I have been lurking on this forum for a while and now that I'm getting close to getting a sched date for surgery I wanted to go ahead and join. This forum has given me a lot of answers and a lot of hope with reading things that others have gone thru. I am self pay and using a local doctor in Atlanta, GA. Dr. Hart & Dr. Benjamin of the Atlanta Bariatric Group, of Emory Hospital. So far I have been very pleased with all the staff and the progress. Looking forward to finding my way along with everyone else on this board.