LipstickLady

I put this in my status, but I will put it right here, too. It's interesting to me that I am "defensive", "unadult-like", "ashamed", or have my "panties in a bunch" (oh! And a liar, too!) simply because I don't care to openly discuss my weight. Perhaps I should also wear a sign around my neck detailing my income, this morning's bout of diarrhea, a report of my complete sexual history, and all of my religious and political views.

Clearly YOU don't know so SOMEONE has to. @@KristenLe YOU'RE FAT.

I'm not angry and I can easily have conversations about things with my friends and family without "getting my panties in a bunch". (Some people sure do enjoy adding drama where none exists, simply because someone else has a differing opinion, don't they? ) If you're speaking to me, @@Chicken Lady , I'm not unhappy with my weight at all. I've been at goal for almost three years so you are definitely barking up the wrong tree. I'm simply offering another viewpoint to what some consider a very personal conversation. I respect your decision to discuss your body with anyone you want. It's a shame you can't show the same respect and understanding (without all the flame throwing) to those of us who prefer not to. If your behavior makes you an "actual adult", I'll pass.

Asking about someone's surgery is MUCH different than talking to them, in return, about their weight. I might ask you about new car, but that does not open me to a critique about the piece of crap I'm driving.

How far post op are you? Or are you pre op?

If someone "talked to me about me weight", even a successful WLS patient, without me asking for them to specifically tell me about it, I'd be pissed.

AND WHO THE HELL IS BUYING YOU ICE CREAM CAKE THIS TIME AROUND??? They need an ass beating.

Let me ask you this... What would be a better happy birthday gift to yourself? Complying with your surgeon's diet to ensure your better health or a few bites of ice cream cake (on liquids!!)? Only YOU can decide what gift YOU are worth.

Can you pour it through a sieve or drink it through a straw? If so, it's a liquid!

Good? Because kale and oatmeal is a liquid?

Congratulations to you! I know you must be super proud of your accomplishments. I can't wait to see you in the 2's and then... ONDERLAND for sure! I'm rooting for you.

I wan't allowed string cheese' for about 6 weeks after surgery although I could have other cheese'. The logic seemed off (my NP didn't like the stringiness) but I went with it because it didn't kill me -- I simply bought other stick cheese' to carry for convenience. I don't eat pasta'. It makes me vomit and it's useless carbs so there is really no point in it. Do I like it? Yup. Do I like my size 8 skinny jeans? Far more than I like Pasta, for sure.

Huh?

My quote of your post broke : ...Hubby and mom went out. I was OK with it at first. By the time they got back I was a mess. I felt so left out. ...Hubby said you could of gone out and just ate some eggs. He swears that once I have my surgery he will be on board to change his diet and start losing weight. ...Between us, I'm really resentful that they went out for breakfast. Hubby could of stayed home with me and had breakfast. ...This feels so petty. But it is how I feel Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-T337A using the BariatricPal App Why in the world were you "a mess"? You chose not to go. Surely missing one outing is not the end of your world? Hubby was right, you could have gone. I often go out with my friends and family to places where nothing on the menu sounds appealing, or I am really NOT hungry (if the menu is not friendly -- like pizza' and pasta' or chains where everything is fried and carby -- I usually eat first), I just order a drink. I don't NEED to eat just because everyone else is. You WILL learn to go any where you want and make great choices but you do need to practice. Why should he be "on board"? What does your weight loss have to do with his? You're resentful? That's a bit over the top, don't you think? He could have stayed home, you are right, but why should he? He enjoyed some time out with mom, good for him! And yes, you are totally entitled to your feelings. You can't help HOW you feel, but you can help how you act on them. Right now, you are acting out of emotion, not out of logic and that's understandable. I know all the above sounds a bit harsh, but that is not my intent. It this is the real world and it is about to be your reality. You can choose to go out with others, or you can choose not to. Again, you are soon going to learn that you can choose to go any where you want. You are having this surgery, your husband is not. You say he is really good at losing weight when he tries? You are not only going to be really good at losing it but you are going to be good at keeping it off. It's seriously a win. Your emotions right now are yours. You can chalk up some of it to anxiety due to a very big change that is coming in your life. You don't know what to expect, you don't know the realities of WLS except for what you've read, and you are emotional. It's ALL OK. It's going to be fine. YOU are going to be fine. You aren't going to miss out on life because of this surgery. You are, in fact, going to gain SO MUCH MORE. I promise.

I am almost 3.5 years post op and I can't eat more than 1/2-3/4 in a sitting. It took me almost a year to get to more than three bites. I will NEVER be able to eat 1/2 of a normal portion (not my old fatty's version of a portion -- a NORMAL portion) so I guess I would look weird at dinner' parties. That is, if anyone really cared to look. No one pays that much attention to your plate, I promise you. If they do, they have issues.

Sure you can have ice cream! I don't know why you would choose to, though.

Absolutely! The band is an excellent option for many.

Take your measurements so your brain can see your progress even when your eyes don't. Pick an easily duplicatable outfit like black yoga pants and a white tank, and get someone to take your pics, front back and profile, in a doorframe. Do this each week so you can get a real idea of your changes as you shrink. You have to train your brain to see the real you, not the old you. It's a definite mind f!!k! It took me forever to see my real self after 20 years of obesity.

That's what I do!

My surgeon stopped doing the band about four years ago.

@@Raynbolite Men lose faster no matter what. This is why they suck.

@@lizmo8175 I'll concede that about the band. That's a tool that is much more persnickety from what I've read.

It's not the tool you choose that will guarantee your success, it's whether or not you use it effectively.