LipstickLady

Thanks all! Looking at side by sides is surreal. I still have a ways to go and I gained three back over a girls' weekend (complete with the start of my girly cycle - of course), but I'm tickled. That dress is a HUGE NSV, too. I bought it Thursday, off the rack, without trying it or anything else on for a night out! First stress free GNO purchase in a decade and best of all....NO SPANX underneath! Can I hear a WHAT! WHAT! ?

Silly boy. Of course I do.

Deb called. She wants in.

Thanks, Laura. I hit him with it, you bury the body.

<blank stare>

Did you just call me a snake?

I obviously pissed off people without even knowing it! Cool trick!

Glad you caught that.

It's all good. You can kiss my boo boo if she lands a shot.

Awwww....gman.... Wanna go outside? Wink wink!

Wanna take it outside, Ven?

So...while we are on the topic of being liked or disliked... How did I go from 5 stars on my profile yesterday to three today? Who did I piss off? (Or piss on as the case may be?) HA!!! :ph34r:

No wait!! Found it!

Call me an idiot and then lead me to it. I don't see it. Which is the main page?

Where do you find the reputation points thing??

I would think that if one is unhappy in his/her marriage and knows that in order to be happy she/he needs to escape it, it would be best to leave that relationship first before pursuing another. My husband and I have an "open relationship". Either one of us is welcome to, at any time, find happiness with someone else as long as we are upfront and honest about it and we divorce first. I want him to be happy and if that's with another woman, so be it. It had just better be AFTER I get my 50+%. He feels the same about me.

My gas really slowed down after I stopped the protein shakes.

Let me ask YOU a question. Did you have this surgery to get thin or to get healthy? Be honest! Some people want to lose weight for looks and there is nothing wrong with that. Other people lose weight to be healthy. For me, looking great is a huge motivating factor and one that I am enjoying immensely, but I had this surgery to get to a healthy weight/fitness level and to maintain the great health I already had with no co-morbidities and no aches and pains or various other issues. I didn't get fat because I only ate junk, I got fat because I ate in volume. Yes, I did make bad choices and splurged, but I was almost always "on a diet", so the majority of the time the food I ate was reasonably healthy. I was a grazer, too. When I was logging food, I ate my three meals a day or four mini meals. When I wasn't logging, I made "healthy choices" allllllll dayyyyyyy looooooooooonnnnnnnngggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggg. I have this healing time to relearn new habits about logging, eating small portions, eating only at meal time and sticking to my new nutritional guidelines. I know I feel better when I eat my Protein and less carbs. I am fuller longer when I avoid junky stuff. I think about food less when I have a plan and I stick to it. I didn't have this surgery to eat whatever whenever, that's what got me here in the first place. I put my family through a lot with this surgery and I don't regret it, nor do they. I want to be able to say the same in five years, not to have chalked up another (costly, messy, painful) diet fail with really nothing more that I could do to fix it. So to answer your question. I am sure there are people out there that get to goal eating whatever they want, whenever they want without moving much, just kind of doing their daily thing. Maybe it's possible that I could be successful that way, maybe it's not. I don't want to find out that I am NOT the one that could. Totally not worth it.

I truly hope you didn't mean this the way it sounded.

FAINT!

You didn't mention how far out you are, but at almost 4 months out, I carry beef Jerky, mixed nuts, Oh Yeah Bars, and Protein powder. If it is all inclusive, all food at restaurant should be included as well as drinks. Most resorts have a commissary as well, where you can buy snack foods like dried fruit, yogurt, etc. What resort are you staying at? I've stayed at several, I might be able to give you insight on the availability.

Now THAT one deserves a punch to the junk.

I have to say that it's my opinion that you are totally overreacting on this one. I HIGHLY doubt anyone is stupid enough to think you are RESPONSIBLE for their weight gain. (Well, my husband might blame me a bit because after my three bite, I put my leftovers on his plate. HA!) I think this is a way of complimenting YOU while putting themselves down. I can't imagine they think your fat particles are flying through the air and landing on them.

I do my best to listen to the TONE instead of the WORDS that are being said. A friend who says excitedly, "You are shrinking down to nothing!!" with a smile and a hug means something much differently than a "friend" who says, "You are shrinking down to nothing" with a bit of a sneer and a sideways eyeball. I also know that I take things differently from people who I don't care much for than I do from people I love. I know I brace myself for insults from people who never have nothing nice to say and even when they do, I may hear it differently than they intend. We can't control what other people say or do, but we can totally control how we react. I am choosing to take every word as a great compliment because I am riding high on excitement with my emerging new self and NO ONE can take that away from me.

My girls' weekend was this one as well. It's 12 of my sorority sister going to the beach acting as if we are still 21. This is our 22nd year doing this and at 42, we don't FEEL 21 again. I gained 2.6 pounds this weekend, but I also started my period and I know I didn't consume 2.6 pounds worth of food and drink. I think the scale will be more telling tomorrow after the Water weight goes away. Ugh. I need sleep.