LipstickLady

Back at cha! These types of posts only foster ill will in my opinion. Take what you like, leave what you don't. Why in the world would you allow an anonymous stranger on the Internet add any negativity to your life? Shrug it off. Walk away. Click the back button and read something else. Telling people how to post to YOUR feelz isn't going to get you anywhere, I promise you. We are all individuals, we all communicate differently, we all read posts in a different tone than each other. You can't control other people but you can control how you react to them. Good luck on your journey!

My mother called me Chunky Monkey. Seriously. I wore a size 0/2 through my sophomore year of college.

I don't think you are bad. I do think you are understandably emotional and he was a bit insensitive, though. You will have to acclimate to the "normal people". He can't be expected to have to acclimate to you, someone who has been surgically altered. It's early, but you are going to have to face "normal" eating situations, including your faves. Go, find something you can sip or eat, or just enjoy the company.

I ask that the sushi chef uses the least amount of rice possible. I also ask that the pieces be cut about half as tall as normal, otherwise the bite is too big for me. Most restaurants are happy to comply. The few that haven't been have lost out on a very consistent customer.

I drank regular Gatorade as I despise G2. I drank it straight for the first few weeks and them watered it down 50/50 from week three on.

I've been using a straw since day 1. I also wouldn't worry about the calories this early out as mentioned above. I drank watered down fruit juice in the hospital because I couldn't stomach water.

Oh! And my NP told me get your capacity "maxes out" at about a year to 18 months. She said I'm probably as unrestricted as I'll ever be. Only time will tell!

My restriction is still very tight. At almost 16 months out, I can eat 1/2 cup some days, 1.25 cups others. Four - six ounces is my max with firm Protein but it must be moist or I can only do 2-3 ounces. I've not found sliders yet and bread, Pasta and rice stick horribly. I cannot drink at all 30-45 minutes after I eat or I will vomit. My full feeling is uncomfortable and one bite too many means I'll probably toss the entire meal. I'm honestly thrilled with my new reality even though it is more restrictive than my research told me it would be.

I'd neck punch anyone who stopped talking to watch me eat. How incredibly rude!

You'd be surprised at how little people actually notice/care about how much you eat. I'm very social and have told very few people about my surgery. At 15 months out, I don't think I'll need to.

Honestly, you are going to have to suck it up and get over it. Harsh, but true. You chose to have surgery, she didn't. You chose to alter your body so that you can no longer physically consume what she can, she didn't. Right now you are excited, nervous, hangry, hormonal, motivated, etc. Your body is changing and healing and flip flopping all over the place. What you are feeling is normal but you cannot realistically expect anyone to diet along with you or change their habits to make your road easier. It would be nice, but it's not going to happen. This is your new reality. Get used to it. It does get easier and you will forget about all the hard parts in a few months. You'll be stronger and healthier for it, too.

I sent her a message with you added to it. Look in your FB messages!

I can connect you to a friend on FB who has had those bundles of cuteness for forever if you'd like. Let me know! She'd happily answer your questions.

This. I love me some gman.

But again I ask, who gets to be the ultimate judge on who is being "kind" or "respectful"? We are never all going to communicate in the same way, nor should anyone be presumptuous enough to ask that we try to. I would MUCH rather someone give me real answers to my questions or real advice if I ask. I don't need or want rainbows and unicorns nor will I pass them out. Some people might consider my approach less kind but is it really kind to coddle someone who needs a wake up call? How many people have we seen come here, ask a question, get a kick in the rump, get their feathers ruffled and then come back a few days or weeks later and THANK those who did the kicking for the honesty? There is no answer that is going to please everyone. I prefer to allow the communication to flow as long as there is no name calling or blatant insults. I am also a "host" of this forum and I think the original post is "controversial" and a bit "trollish" but I don't have a problem with it. I do, however, have a problem with someone calling someone else a b!tch. How funny is it that the person who did the calling out, actually turned out to be the biggest offender?

It doesn't matter what a bunch of strangers on the internet say, how do YOU feel in it??

He's/she's not your friend. Tell him/her to suck it.

Okie doke.

I know what it means. Just pointing out the glaring hypocrisy.

What was that about "smh"? Ha! Pot, meet kettle.

Agreed.

I, too, cringe at responses from time to time. Usually only when the name calling or judgement starts, though. I never assume someone is weak or vulnerable and I'd be hot if someone ever thought that of me. The only time I get "offended" is when someone speaks for me (saying things like "all of us" or "everyone here", etc.) or when I get scolded for taking the time to answer a question and it's not to the satisfaction of whomever is pretending to be my keeper. Even then, I'm not offended, per say, I just get pissy.

So here's my question about all this. Who gets to decide who is being "nice" and who is being a "b!tch"? Who gets to judge if one is being firm vs. blunt? What about those who are hyper sensitive? Do we get to stand in judgement of them, too? What if we ask those who are a bit more "easily affected" to say so in their posts so those who are a more apt to just speak their mind can avoid answering them (and therefore offending them) all together? I'm of the mindset of "take what you want, leave what you don't" and not allowing a stranger on the internet to affect my day at all unless it's in a positive way. I'm weird like that, I guess.

I had my surgery on a Wednesday, went home on Thursday, and went to the mall on Friday. The more active you are (within reason), the better!

Y'all are so sweet. I'm happy that so many are feeling the same way as me. It's freaking fabulous.