I have been on a soft foods diet for one week and my nutritionist told me that I should take at least 20 minutes to eat, taking small bites and chewing thoroughly. She also said to take no longer than 30 minutes to eat. She said if I get to 30 minutes and I have not finished my portion, I should stop. I measure everything and my meals are supposed to be 2 - 4 oz right now. The heavier foods (like meatballs) I find that I eat less of, but lighter stuff (like tuna salad) I can eat 4 oz. I rarely feel hungry, but if I do and it's not time to eat, I drink some water. I was told to aim for 5 - 6 meals a day eating every 3 to 4 hours and I was also told to stop drinking 30 minutes before and after eating. Following these rules has worked for me, but as this site shows...every one is different! I hope you find the balance that works for you!