Thanks to all of you for your advice. I am not sure I could tell my closest friends as they have made comments about other people (behind their back) and their weight loss struggles or choice to have surgery. I was wondering if I only had my husband to support me would it be enough? He supports my decision but I don't know how much day to day support he woulf be able to give, and is it fair to him to put it all on him just because I am afraid of the judgement and negativity?