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Anyone live or know someone who lives in the Ky/In area with HUmana healt insurance to have them pay for your surgery. I am a teacher in Ky, and have board health insurance which is unfortunately Humana. Want to get them to pay to get rid of this tire. It has been hot as hell here, and the tire has defintely been burning rubber, and sweating. Any information would help.

Oh I was banded in March 05. When we had wonderful United Health Insurance. Then it took me less than 2 weeks to get approved. All that I had to do then was be over 100lb overweight, have a bmi over 35, and have several co morbidities. I had high blood pressure, high chlesterol, asthmas, seizures, and sarcodosis to just name a few. At the time of surgery I had been taking predinisone for over 10 yrs, and now I no longer take any medication at all. Now that we have Humana they make you do a 6 months doctor guide diet, see a shrink, and other test that I didn't have to do.

That was an amazing story. It made my Fridau, it was so funny Ic oudl ahrdly stop laughing to read it.

Like all of you, I have dealt with the new body while trying to shed the thoughts of the old. At my highest 372. and when I was big in general my self esteem was through the roof. I was big, I knew that and anyone else who was looking knew it as well. But I was also smart, outgoing, assertive, and fun to be around as well. When I was big my thought was "I have everything that a skinny woman does just more, and better, and if you can't see that "Shame on you", NEXT!!!! " Now that I am among that "average", or "normal" size. I find that I am always looking again to try to hide, tuck, or camoflage this new body. I mostly think that it is the sagging skin that gets me down. I am a size 12 now, and I know that if I could afford to have plastic surgery that I would surely be a 7 or 8. Not that I am not happy with the size, but sometimes the way clothes fits, and mostly my boobs. That look like two hound dogs ears at a fight with no bra. Before I had big beautiful boobs, and they were my joy and biggest assest. I miss them terribly, never thought I would, but I do. Now I find myself wondering where all the men are. It seems harder to me now that I am thin to meet men than it was when I was bigger Then I could pick and choose, and now there is no choice. What's a girl to do.

I went to St. mary's/ Caritas, and I had Dr. Lusco he was great, and so where the nurses Lana, and Debbie. I got my band when the state had united insurance for teachers, you will have to wait 6 mos with HUmana, and then you will be able to ge tthe surgery from what I hear.

Yeah they have a web page just got to www.caritas.com, and they havve a oage for tha bariatric center on there. Lana or Debbie will be who you speak with. They are great. I went in last month for my bandiversary and Lusco told me that I was his star patient for the month, and asked for advice for other patients. Who'd a thunk that. They have great seminars, and theyare relly informative. I didn't do the rehab at Caritas, buthave lost 106lb to date, I haven't weighed myself in a month, so I don't know how much weigh now, but I know that it is less by my clothes. I don't have a exercise regimen, alhough I pay $40 a month for the gym that I never use. I have been doing a lot of digging, raking, hoeing in my garden the last 3 weeks, and I know that is helping the inches go away. I had a friend who went to georgetown, and she had a bypass, and is doing great.

I just want to give all of you encouragement. I was banded on March 3, 2005, and just had my baniversary. I havee lost 106lbs thus far, and am loving it. The jitter bugs are to be expected, but this has been the best thing that I have done for the rest of my life. It will be for you too. Good luck on your journey, and I hope all of you the best.

It has been a year, and I am at 100lbs gone forever. I am amazed at how my body looks. It is weird tolook in the mirror, and know that I am finally looking that way that I have imagined all these years. It's weird for people to tell me how good I look. Because to me I have always imagined myself looking this way. When I look at past pictures, and think about what I used to wear. My jaw drops, and I think why didn't anyone tell me that I was this big. Everyone says we say you everyday. You were who you were, but man I was big. I am loving my new body, and the clothes that I am able to wear. I never thought there would be atime when I would be upset because the clothes that I have are getting too big too fast. Ha Ha who'd a thunk it. Lap band is the best thing going since sliced bread, and boy did I love me some bread.

well at 11 months out i started at 315 da of surgery and now weight 242 i am down 73 lbs

Becca, Depends on what type of insurance you have. I work for the Jefferson Co school board, and they paid for all of mine. I had to pay a $450 deductible, but then got a check snet back saying that I had overpaid, and then was billed for $350 by the Dr. I just took that check and paid the bill with cash to spare. No hoops for me ith United Healthcare. Was approved in just under two weeks. Was expecting it to take 6 wks. once approved had a surgery date in 24 hrs. What Dr are you trying to go to. I suggest Lusco at Caritas Bariatrics awesome people.

Oh My have my boobs dropped. I was a 58 DDD before surgery. I went out this weekend, and had a padded strapless bra from lane bryant, you know the really good kind. That was a 44DD, and don't you know I had to stuff the damn thing with wash clothes to get it to look right. My friend died laughing. I had to use 6 wash clothes to get my boobs to fill out the space, and not buckle on the side. I tell you what I never imagined that I'd ever bee doing that. The thing is I love my girls. They loved to come out, and wave at all the people passing by. They were so full, and voluptuos. Now they have become a member of Dumbo's family. They flap around like flying ears. LIFT is not the word for what I need. I am happy with the wieght loss, and am not really worried about losing them all, because i plan to have those nice perky ones like the Baywatch girls had. You know the kind that don't bounce when you jump. HA HA HA. I haven't mourned anything since surgery, but I find myself mourning them.

here are my progress pics. I don't know how to make them side by side moderator help me out please. 1.Superbowl 2005 2. April 05 1 month after surgery 3. May two months after surgery 4. June on my birthday 3 months ater surgery 5. October this year, 7 months after surgery

Honey we all have our reasons to lose weight. i think that this is an excellent reason to have the surgery. How many times do you get a chance to get as big as we get during pregnancy with a guaranteed way to lose it afterwards. NEVER!!!!!! Until now. I have a daughter who is 3, and a best friend who is currently trying to lose weight to get pregnant. She lost 18 lbs before and became preganant very quickly, but then she had a miscarriage. She has gained back the weight loss, and then about another 40lbs, and it has made it even harder for her conceive. Her insurance will not pay for the band at all, so now she is doing the 6wk body makeover. Lusco is a doll. I love him, his bedside manner is excellent he makes me feel like I am the most important patient that he has when he sees me. I love them all Lana, Debbie too.

I am in Louisville, Ky. I went to Caritas medical center in louisville. The are the best. Dr. Lusco is my dr, and he is great. He is cute, funny, and has a great bedside manner.

I haven' been on here in a while, but I have lost 44lb since banding. I love it. I want to go up to every person that Isee stuggling with weight and hand out my Dr's cards.

Okay, I have posted on here before about my boyfriend, and his obnoxious ways. Well were at it again. This time it is so big that I am not sure that we can recover. My Bf made a remark about my past to me during a heated argument. "The best that you could get was a Momma's Boy, because you wanted to bully him." The discussion started with me expressing my feelings to him, and how his actions play a role in my feelings, and how he makes me confused. I told him that he does things that makes me feel as though he doesnt respect me as a person. Like talk over me while I'm talking, or cut me off, or change the subject, that he doesn't listen to me, he's judgemental and other things as well. Because he says one things, but his actions contradict what his words say. So I asked him, "Do I listen to what you say or do? I never got an answer from him. The feelings that I expressed to him I also gave him 3 examples for each one that happened at various times to help him understand that this is a pattern. I was so shocked and hurt by the comment. All I heard was the first part, not the bullying part, but the best that you can do. I immediately felt insulted and extremely hurt. I am really a closed person, and this is the first man in a long long time that I did open up myself to, and allow myself to be vulnerable. The day after the argument we had another discussion, and I told him how hurt that I was. He did immediately apoligized, and then explained that it wasn't meant the way that I took it. And I could understand how he meant it. I told him that because of all the feelings that I had that I needed a week, 7 days away from him. I was so hurt by the comment that I wanted to break it off at the moment, but I love this man, and know that this decision will not be an easy one, so I asked for the time to really think about us, and where we are. I am still hurt by the comment, but understanding what he meant, and what I hear are conflicting. I asked for time last thrusday this is tuesday. I went away for the weekend, and had several calls, and yesterday he called like 5 or 6 times, and I didn't answer the phone. My head is saying leave him, he can't even respect you enough to give you some time, but my heart is saying maybe he misses you , and wants to talk to try to work this out. I don't know what to do. Everytime the phone rang all I could hear was him saying"The best that you could do", and I get so mad. I am mad at myself because normally I have a wall around my heart, and my feelings. But with this man I let it crumble, and I let him in, and I am so mad at myself for allowing him into my heart to hurt me, and at the same time I don't want to be without him either. Over the weekend I did decide that I would ask him to tell me ways in which that he has shown me that he respects me. Because although he says that he does, I could not come up with one time that he has shown me. I feel like this relationship is just starting all over again. I was at a point where I was willing to divulge my entire past to this man, and now I am reluctant to tell him anything for fear that I will get slapped with it later on. I don't know what to do, and advice input would be appreciated. How do I get past this.

Okay, I have posted on here before about my boyfriend, and his obnoxious ways. Well were at it again. This time it is so big that I am not sure that we can recover. My Bf made a remark about my past to me during a heated argument. "The best that you could get was a Momma's Boy, because you wanted to bully him." The discussion started with me expressing my feelings to him, and how his actions play a role in my feelings, and how he makes me confused. I told him that he does things that makes me feel as though he doesnt respect me as a person. Like talk over me while I'm talking, or cut me off, or change the subject, that he doesn't listen to me, he's judgemental and other things as well. Because he says one things, but his actions contradict what his words say. So I asked him, "Do I listen to what you say or do? I never got an answer from him. The feelings that I expressed to him I also gave him 3 examples for each one that happened at various times to help him understand that this is a pattern. I was so shocked and hurt by the comment. All I heard was the first part, not the bullying part, but the best that you can do. I immediately felt insulted and extremely hurt. I am really a closed person, and this is the first man in a long long time that I did open up myself to, and allow myself to be vulnerable. The day after the argument we had another discussion, and I told him how hurt that I was. He did immediately apoligized, and then explained that it wasn't meant the way that I took it. And I could understand how he meant it. I told him that because of all the feelings that I had that I needed a week, 7 days away from him. I was so hurt by the comment that I wanted to break it off at the moment, but I love this man, and know that this decision will not be an easy one, so I asked for the time to really think about us, and where we are. I am still hurt by the comment, but understanding what he meant, and what I hear are conflicting. I asked for time last thrusday this is tuesday. I went away for the weekend, and had several calls, and yesterday he called like 5 or 6 times, and I didn't answer the phone. My head is saying leave him, he can't even respect you enough to give you some time, but my heart is saying maybe he misses you , and wants to talk to try to work this out. I don't know what to do. Everytime the phone rang all I could hear was him saying"The best that you could do", and I get so mad. I am mad at myself because normally I have a wall around my heart, and my feelings. But with this man I let it crumble, and I let him in, and I am so mad at myself for allowing him into my heart to hurt me, and at the same time I don't want to be without him either. Over the weekend I did decide that I would ask him to tell me ways in which that he has shown me that he respects me. Because although he says that he does, I could not come up with one time that he has shown me. I feel like this relationship is just starting all over again. I was at a point where I was willing to divulge my entire past to this man, and now I am reluctant to tell him anything for fear that I will get slapped with it later on. I don't know what to do, and advice input would be appreciated. How do I get past this.

I think that you both are right. The weird thing is this is the 1st man that I have allowed into my heart in 5 yrs, and maybe that's why it hurts so bad. I was in a domestic relationship with my daughters father, and that didn't pain me as much as this does. Because I didn't love him, and I never allowed him into my heart. The catcher is that my bf, his attitude, the things that he has said, and done. Are things that I did to other male companions before him, all those men that I dated, and never really let it in were treated the way that I feel treated now. Damn Karma. I decide that 2005 would be the year that I foucs on me. I have taken care of everyone in my family for so long, that I was neglecting myself. So this year I began to make some changes, and dig deep into my past, and how it relates to me now. I have dealt with some hard things, and challenges, and he has been supportive of my healing process. I have never put myself into any man for fear of being disappointed by them. I really regret treating those men this way, because I do not like it at all.

I put on a shirt that had been fairly new when I was banded, havent worn it again until today. It is literally falling off of me. It was a off the shoulder shirt pre band, and now it looks like a shirt with a really big stretched collar. I also had to tuck it inside my pants, which is something that I would have never done preband, because my booty in the front(stomach) was so big, and I didn't have a waist the pants looked like they were hitched up under my boobs like a nerd, and they were. Sorry nerd. HAHA Now I have a waist hips, some booty in the back, and i look good. I have found my self enhancing my walk a little today with a switch I feel so good.

Hey what size clothes are you giving away. I am leaving 24's for 22's and currently have none, so if you any that you are gving away. I'll gladly pay for the postage to get them.

I am a Middle School behavior Disorder teacher. I talk to parents every day, and most of them are angry because I am calling them at work, or home, because of their children. I sometimes get cussed out, but for the most part what I try to do is ask the parent what they suggest we do to try to help their kids. Some say that they don't know toehrs have plenty of suggestions. What I have learned is that as long as you make your comments in a nonoffensive, nonaggresive way, even thought they aren't positive parents are more abt to listen. What I would do is ask the parents if he has difficuty moving around at home, becaue you have to assist him on the play area because of his weight issues. Also tell them that it has been difficult for the children to include him in play activities because of the weight as well. Like playing dodge ball, or kick ball or anything that they exclude him out of. Tell them as well that you have implemented several lesson plans that talks about diversity of individuals, and making fun of people, and bullying etc. Ask them if they have any ideas of things that you can do at school to help include him more. Tell them that you are concerned about his physical and social health. Find out if there are any dieticians, or anything that social services can do to help them see a dietician, or maybe get him into a activity program after school, so that he can run around more, or something. The fact that you are obese too can be used for you not against you.

Jack, you're right. I am unsure of what the outcome may be.

Okay my So, nad I got into a really big fight this week. We still haven't resolved it yet, but plan to this week end. It is a long distance relationship. He says that if I ask someone else, that they'll agree with him, so I will ask you guys. My SO has a person that he sometimes associate with and I don't like him. The associate and I had bumped heads several times before I met my SO, and had some very negative words. I will not tolerate him at all now because of some of the things that he has said to me. I also told SO what those things were, and why I felt so strongly about them. It was an emotional thing for me to do, because a lot of it stemed from my childhood, and I have always considered emotion a weakness, so I have never shown any until I met SO. His view is that although I don't like the associate that because he is my SO, and he needs me to do something for him that involves the associate that I should still do it anyway because I love, and care for him instead of not doing because the associate is involved. My View is this is something that you know that I would be unwilling to do, so why ask. This is one thing that I am not willing to do, out of all the many thingas that I have done, and will do. Why can't you accept that. Please give me your input. If youneed more info. I could give you more. Thanks Charnita

I took some riske` pics in college, and at home my 18 year old nephew was staying with me at the time, and I was going through old college stuff, and throwing it out. My nephew picked up a huge package of pics, and was opening them as I was saying, "Wait because I don't know what's in there let me look at them first.", by the tme I did that he had already seen. He was like EEEEEEEEEEEEEEE, and threw the picture at me, and said "You get live don't you big girl." I just laugh, and said I told you to wait

Finally someone see my views. It seems that I am always the one compromising. And I hate that. Lisa you have good point about the poison. I plan to use that as aqn example when we talk this weekend. What makes it so bad is that he doesn't really care for the associate either, but he endures him because they have mutual friends, and I think that he feels that I should too. This is really hard for me because I love my SO, and I know that he loves me. Anything other problems we have we always talk, and work out, but this is the only thing that we bump heads on. What I said to him was, "I am willing to do anything that you ask me as long as it doesn't involve him in any way. Out of all the things that you have asked me to do this is the one thing that I am not willing to do, and I can't understand why you would ask me to do something that you already now that I am opposed to doing in the first place." I hate the associate. His name makes me want to vomit. I told my SO that if the associate was stranded on the road, and I stopped ( not knowing that it was him, because if I did I would have made sure that I kicked dust on him and kept going) and he asked me for a ride, and said that he would pay me $5000 I would leave him stranded. One of his issues is that I would give the associate that much of my emotions to make me feel that way. He said that I am acting childish. I disagree. We will see each other this weekend, and this conversation will be the #1 thing on our to do list. We will not do anything else until this issue is resolved.