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If anything it should be a POSITIVE we are doing it now while its a little easier with less chance of further surgery to get rid of loose skin? The larger BMI were once at our stage and know how hard it is .. I don't get it?!

I really don't want to get involved but I think she meant it as, why can he judge us for wanting this, when being in the small side of obese - it's just as insulting as what he said to me ... It's no ones business why we want the surgery but our own. It all got a bit out of hand - but I personally felt very attacked, like I hadn't tried EVERYTHING ELSE to control my weight issues. He's "the happiest he been in years" why would he want to discourage someone else from trying being happy too?

We were defending ourselves against very unnecessary judgment. Yes it got a little dirty but when you're "attacked" that can happen. Ill stand up for myself ... It seems there are 2 sides on here - I though we were all on the same one : to try and make our lives better, be healthier & happier.

Lol thank you! I'm 35 this year ... And if I'm elegible now why on earth would I let myself get bigger and bigger to where ill have the possibility of loose skin where I would want even more surgery & obesity related problems .. I already have and have had PCOD for years which makes it harder to lose the weight. I don't see the point of lettin myself get more depressed and wasting my life any longer. Thank you to the girls who are supporting me being lower BMI ... And thanks but no thanks to the naysayers. you don't see me judging you for letting yourselves get so big that you're "the perfect BMI" to get this surgery!

Exactly - this site is to help and support not to judge ... I personally find all the negative people here far more childish than I was. I'm 30 BMI AND OBESE ... And have every right to be in here "WOW" yourself somewhere else

*high five!!!

I should clarify - a safe place where I won't be judged about my weight ... I know there are pricks who like to be unhelpful everywhere, just wasnt expecting it from here

I feel like I'm too fat for life and not big enough for here

Thank you - I'm so upset right now ... I thought this was a safe place

I'm surprised you went through with it - it sounds like the whole thing just makes you angry. I'd appreciate no more comments about it being absurd I'm having it done as all you're doing is making me want to delete my main source of ongoing support & information.

I'm not doing this because I want my stomach removed so I don't have to eat anymore ... People chiming in please go read it was a comment about pre op diet and I thought it would be easier only drinking liquids after because u wouldn't have "ravenous" hunger like I do by mid afternoon

What kind of question is that?! I'm traveling 1000s of miles spending $$ I don't necessarily have to do this .. And have thought about it for years.... I've been on this site for weeks and thought it was a safe place to discus this

Well your contradicting yourself - I have to have willpower with the sleeve as a tool - assuming I don't - but then saying I shouldn't have it done because I'm not big enough. I didn't get myself as big as you obviously were, so I therefor have better will power than you do. Lucky for me you're not a dr or have any say in what I do

My whole hungry point was not for ongoing life but just the debate of getting used to eating less before and after diet - it's very different after - less Ghrelin and less stomach

I know that after time your body finds a new way to tell you it's hungry ^ so while you're going through your first stages its easier to stick to the liquid purée diets ... This lady I'm talking with is 2 weeks post op & she's not hungry - yes, for now I realise

Thanks I will give it some serious thought - cause u know me so well and know what I've been through ... This is just an idea I dreamed up last night - that's for your help complete stranger!

Also it's not the same - after surgery as u know you don't have hunger which makes it much easier to live on a liquid diet ...

Also it's not the same - after surgery as u know you don't have hunger which makes it much easier to live on a liquid diet ...