moonlitestarbrite

almost! lol

why are you being so cranky? why are you coming here and hijacking another thread and asking a question only you can know the answer for? if you want support and input, this is the place to come... but dont come here and start blasting people from your first post. please read my entire answer. you CANT go from bypass to a sleeve. its not an option. if you want to know why your previous doctor did or didnt do something, you'll need to ask him or her. why does it matter anyway? there ISNT any treatment following WLS. there is follow up. if you have complications your doc may treat you. you have the surgery. you follow your aftercare program. that is it. you continue to have blood work to check for deficiencies for the rest of your life. if YOU needed a referral for skin removal, why didnt YOU follow up with your doc? if you cant be polite, i think i know who is wasting who's time though.

but you do not have to stay with this surgeon. what is your bmi and do you have any comorbidities? and what was his reasoning that you would fail? you should not be forced into bypass if you dont want it.

you cant revise from bypass to sleeve. you can go from sleeve to bypass, but not the other way around. you can have your pouch made smaller. it is stretchy and so can get bigger over time if you eat too much. a surgeon who does weight loss surgery doesnt do plastic surgery (at least not in the US or CA ). a plastic surgeon would remove excess skin. thats a whole other thing. first you need to be at your goal weight.

you might want to slow down there mwaller, take a deep breath and read on the forums a bit before you start reacting to people like this. if you feel someone is really abusing you, you can report them, otherwise, assume no one is attacking you or means you harm. she did not personally attack you or insult you... i too skipped over most of what you wrote because of how it was formatted. she was giving you some practical advice. most people around here are kind or at least benign, so take some time to soak up the vibe before you go off on someone for something pretty mild.

love to see people who grab life by the balls! keep going woman!

why are you overeating? whats going on with you that you arent able to be compliant? i would recommend that you get yourself to a counselor asap to figure out why after going through surgery you arent able to make better food choices. find someone who has experience with eating disorders.

you need a second opinion with different surgeon and a stomach xray to see what is happening with your sleeve. this would be considered a failure of the procedure, so insurance should pay for it no problem.

wow, good for you. you are a good person.

there was a recent study that confirms, that long term, you cannot be obese and healthy. you can be overweight and healthy, but not obese. i have a friend who recently discovered the idea of fat acceptance and keeps postings on facebook that ts much better to love yourself then desire to lose weight. i dont know how to tell her that the best way to get healthy *is* to love yourself! i dont know how to tell her that its possible to get healthy without hating yourself and having a horrible body image! she doesnt seem to understand that having this surgery is the first self loving thing i have done in many many years! she seems to be convinced that wanting to lose weight and be healthy means i have bought into society's impossible beauty standards (HA! i am 48, practically dead according to pop culture!). i dont know how to get her to understand that my desire to not die at age 56 like my dad has nothing to do with fat shaming. she has 4 kids. she is prob close to 300 pounds. her H weighs more. the chances of one or both of them dying young is pretty good. for her to remain fat has nothing to do with fat acceptance.......

yup, me too.

http://www.shape.com/healthy-eating/cooking-ideas/12-homemade-alternatives-ice-cream-truck check these out.

an article i read recently says its like wanting to dip a cup of water out of the bathtub and have it come only from one corner and stay that way! obviously you cant do that.

you are not her best friend. nope. you arent her friend at all. you are a projection. meaning, when she thinks of what you have decided, she is only able to see a reflection of herself and her own issues (which are many). if she was actually able to see you as a human being separate from herself, she would be supportive of your desire to get healthy. no questions asked. fat acceptance doesnt mean not getting healthy. it means not being mean and horrible to people who dont measure up to society's idea of what people should look like. it doesnt mean you should embrace being sick and unhealthy. unfortunately, your "friend" is very attached to her projection, and so she is able to justify treating you in a horrid disrespectful manner for wanting to lose weight. (interesting, exactly the way she says she doesnt want to be treated for being fat, thats how you know this is a projection!) you need to understand, this isnt about you at all. this is about her 100%. you need to just walk away. as painful as it is, there is almost nothing you can do once you become someone's projection. no amount of honest sharing, rational talking or even begging will get someone to budge... you are a human being beyond her feelings about what you are doing and you deserve to be treated with respect and care. you deserve to be accepted for who you are, not who she thinks you are.. you arent a reflection of her! take a deep breath (or 20), tell yourself this isnt about you and keep on your path. this is just a little blip for you. keep doing what you are doing. you will find new friends who are actual friends! i know you will!

skip the bread. my H is allergic to wheat and he eats just about anything you can make into a sandwich in a lettuce (boston butter) wrap. i wouldnt start eating sandwiches until you are are at goal... its a lot of carbs and lots of room in your tiny stomach. try the lettuce wrap.. my H actually prefers them!

its a slippery slope my friend... a slippery slope. try freezing a container of greek yogurt instead.

actually therapy can change the very most important thing that you need to deal with... your thoughts, feelings, beliefs and choices. seriously, it sounds like there is way more than a "few" issues.. but that doesnt matter.. whats important is you took the time to post here about both your mom and your sister. that means it affects you in some way. that is exactly the kind of stuff people get the most help in therapy for. and obviously it would be for you. everyone is part of a family, no matter what.. and counseling can help anyone cope better with how they are affected by their family.

fiber is good. processed cereals arent on our menu, so we do baked oatmeal here. made with yogurt and eggs. sometimes we mix in quinoa too.

i too had this. it was from the scar tissue from pancreatitis i had 10 years ago. i had excessive swelling in my stomach. (it might have just been from the surgery too, i am prone to inflammation) my doc felt sure i needed to be patient, what really helped was acupuncture (3 times a week for 3 weeks) and reglan. (only take reglan short term though, it can have yucky side effects) my doc was right.. somewhere around week 9 i was able to go off the nausea meds and was able to drink and eat a bit without gas, nausea and vomiting. i didn't really feel like everything was OK until month 5 though... so it was s long haul. (feel free to private message me)

yeah, 20 ounces of water is not enough. you will feel much better with fluids.

or it could be a leak. or a pulled muscle. thats why she should call her doctor.

why would you wait until you are in tears to treat your heartburn? that seems a little extreme.

you should consider counseling, it sounds like there are a lot of issues regarding food/weight in your family. surgery isnt going to change any of that. you will need to actively address them.

go ahead and tell them. then you dont have to waste anymore food. (or just order an appetizer next time) maybe you are way over thinking this.

call your doctor.