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Can anyone help me with some ideas on getting more Protein in my diet?
I'm not even sure how much I'm supposed to be getting in !! I currently have a Protein Shake for Breakfast (25 grams of protein) usually some chicken with Pasta for lunch, and more chicken at dinner. But I've been stalled for 2 months now...ugh talk about frustrated. I drink about 4 or more cups of Water mixed with crystal lite (cherry pomegranate) and snack on gold fish crackers. I wanted to try to up my protein intake and my water intake but I don't know what else to do... I have a very hard time getting yogurt to stay down, I used to eat it with pumpkin seeds for a nice crunch and a little extra protein... but I can't anymore I tried the "my fitness pal" but I wasn't able to figure out all the info I had to put in for each meal... unless it was a protein shake !!! Please help if you can offer any suggestions, I would appreciate them.
Btw I'm a self pay....

Congrats to you! Just last week I too was able to move from the Women's World Section at the store to the regular misses. I was over the moon happy! Keep up the good work!

I just did the same thing! People were making fun of me for my saggy butt! So..I just packed up all my BIG clothes (I wore a 24-26) to give to my friend who had bypass surgery. I can now wear a large & XL! The best thing is I can shop in the "reg" side of the store & not the "Big" side!! :-)

Yesterday I decided to go shopping. I have bought a few things that fit me but you can count them on one hand. I brought home a bag full, things were on sale and a good price. I hate to try on in store so I bring it home. Usually most of it goes back. I bought all XL. I wore a 24 5 months ago and can not remember when I ever and I mean ever wore an XL. I tried them all on and they all fit wonderfully. I couldn't believe how little I looked. Then I did the unthinkable. I took everything that was in my cupboard and folded it up for the thrift store. Today I took it there. All my big clothes are gone. I have hardly anything in my closet clothes wise but I have enough until I lose another 45 lbs and the XL are all baggy. What an NSV this was for me.

I am so in on ALL of this....... only two days ago I was int the car whimpering again to my GORGEOUS husband of 17 years that it is just SO HARD, he told me once again for the 56583930202 time, that I am the one with the problem with my body, NOT HIM..... like all of you beautiful women above.... he told me in no uncertain terms that "I am ALL he needs, ALL he wants and that HE MUST have me, no matter what form I come in, he LOVES ME.
I have had all of the feelings above, over the years I have often tried on outfit after outfit as we were preparing to go out, only to land in tears BECAUSE.... I just knew everyone in the room was staring and that really huge fat chick with the gorgeous man and feeling sorry for him & wondering why he stays or how he even got there in the first place since I was obese when we married.
Our insurance does not and will not cover WLS (after 4 carriers over 6 years no go)
In January I had the ULTIMATE MELTDOWN and took to the bed with angry rampages at times.... went on like this for a couple of weeks, I was barely functioning, my family was at a loss.
Then one day when I was jealously (also happily.. yes I could be both) looking at others weight loss before and after photos via google..... when I came to on and the woman wrote her story about going to Mexico self pay and how affordable and SAFE it can be... I HAD NO CLUE, I MEAN NO CLUE that this could be done, where had I been , why did I not know this...... I ran to the garage where my husband was and asked him if I could have the money (a huge deal since he lost his job and his retirement 2 years ago... and took an entry level job followed by my job loss and I am still looking....) so we are broke and pulling from minimal savings.... HE SAID YES (with conditions.... he was scared and still is very nervous)
I contacted several doctors in MExico, decided upon one...
proceeded to PCP.... who AGREED with the plan (Hubby's condition #1 met)
on to BRAND NEW cardiologist who AGREED, set up my tests to make sure I would be able
(Hubby's condition #2 met)
Nuclear Stress test passed (#3 met)
electrocardiogram clear (34 met)
To go above and beyond my cardiologist went over WHAT the surgeon in Mexico should be like... and then WENT above and beyond and had his PA make some contact..... CARDIOLOGIST came back with a DEFINITE YES on my choice...... (husband happy and grateful for the help )
I am on my pre op diet now, and have surgery on May 6th, my 20 year old son is going with me to Mexico (so that my husband can take me on a real vacation in June)
Husband told me yesterday he is still very concerned about me going, and even wishes I would not go, but he knows I want to be HEALTHY, but he told me that if I change my mind it is okay with him (NOT A CHANCE)...
We are born again followers of Jesus Christ and I am so grateful for everything that has happened, God knew what I needed even when I did not (a husband to love me no matter what)... time off to do this (positive spin on job loss), money to do this (may wipe us clean but so worth investing in our future) and foremost... I see now tht going to Mexico has been all over the internet for years, God truly blinded this information to me until my heart and mind were truly ready for this journey, as well as my husbands mind.
Ladies we should all be so thankful for our loving husbands... I wish I could meet each and everyone of you and your husbands.... nothing like a good marriage!
Sorry so long, but this thread really got to me.

Well you are almost there! I am right behind you, today is day 8 of my pre op, I am on a 24 day pro op plan..... three weeks shakes & lean and greens, followed by 3 days clears only..... I too am going to Mexico..... my biggest fear at the moment is that I will not be able to buckle the seat belt on the airplane.
YOu've got this.... although grille cheese does sound yummy......

Oh goodness, I have 3 days to go. Well 2 1/2 technically. I am so, so hungry. I leave for TJ Monday morning. Tell me about your successes and how you made it through the pre-op diet.
I just made my daughter a grilled cheese and almost lost it

I am so in on ALL of this....... only two days ago I was int the car whimpering again to my GORGEOUS husband of 17 years that it is just SO HARD, he told me once again for the 56583930202 time, that I am the one with the problem with my body, NOT HIM..... like all of you beautiful women above.... he told me in no uncertain terms that "I am ALL he needs, ALL he wants and that HE MUST have me, no matter what form I come in, he LOVES ME.
I have had all of the feelings above, over the years I have often tried on outfit after outfit as we were preparing to go out, only to land in tears BECAUSE.... I just knew everyone in the room was staring and that really huge fat chick with the gorgeous man and feeling sorry for him & wondering why he stays or how he even got there in the first place since I was obese when we married.
Our insurance does not and will not cover WLS (after 4 carriers over 6 years no go)
In January I had the ULTIMATE MELTDOWN and took to the bed with angry rampages at times.... went on like this for a couple of weeks, I was barely functioning, my family was at a loss.
Then one day when I was jealously (also happily.. yes I could be both) looking at others weight loss before and after photos via google..... when I came to on and the woman wrote her story about going to Mexico self pay and how affordable and SAFE it can be... I HAD NO CLUE, I MEAN NO CLUE that this could be done, where had I been , why did I not know this...... I ran to the garage where my husband was and asked him if I could have the money (a huge deal since he lost his job and his retirement 2 years ago... and took an entry level job followed by my job loss and I am still looking....) so we are broke and pulling from minimal savings.... HE SAID YES (with conditions.... he was scared and still is very nervous)
I contacted several doctors in MExico, decided upon one...
proceeded to PCP.... who AGREED with the plan (Hubby's condition #1 met)
on to BRAND NEW cardiologist who AGREED, set up my tests to make sure I would be able
(Hubby's condition #2 met)
Nuclear Stress test passed (#3 met)
electrocardiogram clear (34 met)
To go above and beyond my cardiologist went over WHAT the surgeon in Mexico should be like... and then WENT above and beyond and had his PA make some contact..... CARDIOLOGIST came back with a DEFINITE YES on my choice...... (husband happy and grateful for the help )
I am on my pre op diet now, and have surgery on May 6th, my 20 year old son is going with me to Mexico (so that my husband can take me on a real vacation in June)
Husband told me yesterday he is still very concerned about me going, and even wishes I would not go, but he knows I want to be HEALTHY, but he told me that if I change my mind it is okay with him (NOT A CHANCE)...
We are born again followers of Jesus Christ and I am so grateful for everything that has happened, God knew what I needed even when I did not (a husband to love me no matter what)... time off to do this (positive spin on job loss), money to do this (may wipe us clean but so worth investing in our future) and foremost... I see now tht going to Mexico has been all over the internet for years, God truly blinded this information to me until my heart and mind were truly ready for this journey, as well as my husbands mind.
Ladies we should all be so thankful for our loving husbands... I wish I could meet each and everyone of you and your husbands.... nothing like a good marriage!
Sorry so long, but this thread really got to me.

I am so in on ALL of this....... only two days ago I was int the car whimpering again to my GORGEOUS husband of 17 years that it is just SO HARD, he told me once again for the 56583930202 time, that I am the one with the problem with my body, NOT HIM..... like all of you beautiful women above.... he told me in no uncertain terms that "I am ALL he needs, ALL he wants and that HE MUST have me, no matter what form I come in, he LOVES ME.
I have had all of the feelings above, over the years I have often tried on outfit after outfit as we were preparing to go out, only to land in tears BECAUSE.... I just knew everyone in the room was staring and that really huge fat chick with the gorgeous man and feeling sorry for him & wondering why he stays or how he even got there in the first place since I was obese when we married.
Our insurance does not and will not cover WLS (after 4 carriers over 6 years no go)
In January I had the ULTIMATE MELTDOWN and took to the bed with angry rampages at times.... went on like this for a couple of weeks, I was barely functioning, my family was at a loss.
Then one day when I was jealously (also happily.. yes I could be both) looking at others weight loss before and after photos via google..... when I came to on and the woman wrote her story about going to Mexico self pay and how affordable and SAFE it can be... I HAD NO CLUE, I MEAN NO CLUE that this could be done, where had I been , why did I not know this...... I ran to the garage where my husband was and asked him if I could have the money (a huge deal since he lost his job and his retirement 2 years ago... and took an entry level job followed by my job loss and I am still looking....) so we are broke and pulling from minimal savings.... HE SAID YES (with conditions.... he was scared and still is very nervous)
I contacted several doctors in MExico, decided upon one...
proceeded to PCP.... who AGREED with the plan (Hubby's condition #1 met)
on to BRAND NEW cardiologist who AGREED, set up my tests to make sure I would be able
(Hubby's condition #2 met)
Nuclear Stress test passed (#3 met)
electrocardiogram clear (34 met)
To go above and beyond my cardiologist went over WHAT the surgeon in Mexico should be like... and then WENT above and beyond and had his PA make some contact..... CARDIOLOGIST came back with a DEFINITE YES on my choice...... (husband happy and grateful for the help )
I am on my pre op diet now, and have surgery on May 6th, my 20 year old son is going with me to Mexico (so that my husband can take me on a real vacation in June)
Husband told me yesterday he is still very concerned about me going, and even wishes I would not go, but he knows I want to be HEALTHY, but he told me that if I change my mind it is okay with him (NOT A CHANCE)...
We are born again followers of Jesus Christ and I am so grateful for everything that has happened, God knew what I needed even when I did not (a husband to love me no matter what)... time off to do this (positive spin on job loss), money to do this (may wipe us clean but so worth investing in our future) and foremost... I see now tht going to Mexico has been all over the internet for years, God truly blinded this information to me until my heart and mind were truly ready for this journey, as well as my husbands mind.
Ladies we should all be so thankful for our loving husbands... I wish I could meet each and everyone of you and your husbands.... nothing like a good marriage!
Sorry so long, but this thread really got to me.

I am thankful for my husband....
But I need to say he is also thankful for ME.
In other words I am "lucky" to have such a good man but... he is "lucky" to have me also. No matter what my weight is

Melissa,
First off, three months will fly by.
Second off now is the time to take some nice slow deep breaths.... Now is the time to start loving yourself and feeling relief that you have made a major step towards health and happiness. Use this time to start getting ready,
By making changes in diet and exercise. There is no reason to give up now! Smile and be happy because you have made the choice to love and care for yourself.

Morning ladies !! I'm in a similar boat ... Hubby does not know my weight n maybe post op I will tell him what my heaviest was. He loves me for me & is a big supporter. I've always been heavy but gained with my pregnancy n more after. I've always been very anal about personal hygiene; I shower 2x per day, always smell good, dressed nicely regardless of size & kept up with my hair n nails cause I didn't want to give big girls a bad wrap.
WLS is an investment to find me & my self-esteem again. Plus I wanna be healthy for my son & any more kids we have.
We will get thru this !!!

This is exactly how I feel too. I want to crawl in a hole until my surgery in 3 months.

Jessica I read your post and had to get out bed to get on my computer to tell you I was in the same place you were 3 months ago. I am 5'7 350 lbs and my hubby is 5'10 190 lbs all muscle!! He works out everyday he transforming into Mr. Universe right in front of my eyes!! We have been married for 14 years and I have always been heavy. In my head I was HOT in my size 26 jeans if not HOTTER than the skinny minnie in her size 2. But than I started to let small things get the best of me and before I knew my self esteem plummeted. I let myself go and stopped getting my hair and nails done. My wardrobe consisted of sweats and old scrub uniforms.But the icing on the cake was when I went to volunteer at my son's school and one of his classmates said my arms looked like Wreck It Ralph!!
I was done!! Stick a fork in me!! I always listen to music to make me feel better so I decided to listen to gospel that day because I knew only the Lord could lift me. And I am a witness that he did!! In one of the lyrics to a song that came on it said "how can you expect someone to love you more than you love yourself?" which made me realize I stopped loving me. I had given up on me and that wasn't fair to me or my husband or my kids because they needed me more now than ever. So I started making plans to loose weight. WLS wasn't an option because my insurance didn't cover it. Then within a week after my decision I got an email stating that our insurance would cover WLS!! I did research, started praying and slowly started letting bad habits fall to the wayside. Now 3 months later and 10 lbs lighter I start my preop diet tomorrow and my true journey begins 4/29/13, I'm not sure what your faith is but I am a believer that a true success story starts from within your soul. Find yourself again and what makes you happy. As a mother and a wife we tend to get lost in the madness and don't know how to get out!! Your hubby loved and still loves you as a person. The kids and the extra pounds are just more of you for him to love. Stay strong! We are sisters in this journey and we can do it!!

I feel as though you are talking about ME!! I feel exactly the same way....I have let myself go and given up on everything! I use to have a great career and traveled all over. Then, I got married decided to settle down, had children and gave up! I became a stay at home mom and decided to focus on my family....and now I'm so ashamed of who I have become I won't go anywhere, not church, social functions, or anywhere i may run into people who use to know me. I won't even go out to dinner with my husband bc I feel like I would be such an embarrassment for him. My husband tells me all the time that I am just as beautiful as the day we met and everyone puts on baby weight. He's offered to go to the gym with me and walk around our neighborhood after he gets home from work....but I'm so ashamed for people to see me I tell myself that I am being overly vain but I honestly don't know what to call it.

Ok, this is more of a vent because I'm sure some people on here can relate or sympathize since my husband doesn't really understand. My husband noticed that I've been a bit depressed lately so he said he would watch the kids and gave me his credit card to go clothes shopping since I've been living in the same 4 outfits for almost a year. Any other woman would be ecstatic, but I on the other hand, HATE shopping for myself. I stood in the dressing room with my size 24 capris and 3x tops wondering how the hell I ever let myself get this heavy (tipping the scales at 290 and im only 5'3"!) I cried the whole way home and gave the hubs a horrible attitude as I walked in the door. Now I'm sulking in the living room while he eats dinner with the kids. He says my weight doesn't bother him, but how can it not? He's so handsome, has a great body and could probably land himself something a hell of a lot better looking then me. I know I know, he's a great guy and loves me for me. But what he doesn't like is that I've simply stopped caring. I'm a stay at home mom. A FAT stay at home mom. I rarely get out of my pjs never mind do my hair or makeup. I need this surgery so badly. 3 more months! I just have to make it through 3 more months.
I have an apple body, so it's all in my stomach/arms/face. How do you ladies (or gentlemen) make yourselves feel better? What can I do to help to "care" about myself until I get my surgery and lose this weight? Any specific clothing types that flatter plus size women? I bought some jewelry and makeup and I'm going to try to put the effort in for my husband. And to think when we met, I was the hot college cheerleader!!
Ugh, thanks for listening to my extremely depressing rant!

OMG this story could of been me talking
(except for the hot cheerleader part) 6 or seven months ago!
The first thing I will say is three months will fly by.
I know the dressing room ordeal I've been there plenty of times... Sometimes it would be just when I was sitting in a dressing room with one of my kids and saw myself in a sitting position in front of the full length mirror in my fat woman capris and fat feet stuffed into shoes
I still have a fear of shopping at almost - 60 pounds later.
Ok as for you though dear heart! You are almost there hold on and know it will get better! And don't do the silly food funeral crap! It will only add more you need to lose afterwards.
Love yourself love your kids live your husband and know its going to be very soon that you will feel so much better

Thanks, I'm definitely not doing the food funeral, I actually just started Atkins shakes for Breakfast and lunch and a regular dinner (low carb). My husband just bought me a George Forman grill so I've been obsessed with grilling chicken and steaks lol.

I know this time next year ill be a new person, but I hate the person I am now, and I hate how I'm treating my husband because of my lack of self esteem.

Do you see the man sitting next to me in my profile picture? That catch is my husband, and in case you couldn't tell, he is HOT! I'm in the same boat with you and Laura, I could have said the same thing (again, minus the hot cheerleader). I was at a point that I didn't love me and I didn't know how he could love me either with the way I looked. I would even take my frustrations out on him because I wasn't happy, just like you. BUT he loves me for me, all of me. Every ounce of me no matter how many ounces are there and your husband does too. I know mine could find someone way better looking than me, maybe yours too but what makes me feel better is that he chooses to be with me. He doesn't care what my shell is but everything on the inside is what he cares about and obviously so does your husband. My husband is one of my biggest fans, supporters and encouragers. I bet yours is too. Keep your chin up, find something to smile about (like your hot husband!) and know that this is only temporary. This too shall pass

NOt a vegetarian either, but we have the same surgery date..... just thought I would say hello, and YAY for us & you too makemyownluck!!