I have a friend whose boyfriends wife left him when she had lap band...he told my husband the other night to watch out....I told him...I am the same yesterday as I am today and as I will be tommorow..I married my lover, my confidant, my best friend, althought we have only been married nine years..my husband as been their for me through thick and thin...I have been skinny before...and to me this is only another stepping stone in my life...I am having this surgery as a matter of survival.....I guess it takes a strong woman who knows where she is at in her life...My husband knows he doesn't need to be reassured that this woman loves him...large or thin and visa versa...and he the same.....thank god for that one.......