bee13

Since Novemeber, I have been planning this surgery. I only told my husband and my friend who is picking me up from the airport. I intentionally left my parents out of the information loop because they are older and I was worried how they would receive the news. Well, last night they showed up on my front doorstep at 9pm. My husband, who unbeknownst to me was desperate to keep me from going (he couldn't tell me this?!), had called them and told them I was going to Mexico to have an organ removed. They were crying and begging me to reconsider. They said they would help me find an alternative and they would pay for health services my insurance wouldn't cover. For two hours I cried and tried to explain to them what I was doing and where I was going and how safe it actually was compared to other kinds of surgery...but to no avail. They even suggested that the people who had recommended my doctor to me were fake profiles of people creating fake blogs to trick me into a scam. My plane ticket is booked. My arrangements are made. Everything is ready to go. I'm lost. I have no idea what to do. My husband and parents are the most important people in my life. I told them the only promise I could make is to call my doctor and see if he would allow me to reschedule. If he consents, I have to find a way to exchange my plane ticket. I cried so much last night that my eyes are almost swollen shut this morning. Please advise. Bee

Thank you for all of the support. I'll stick around the forums and keep you guys updated. DH is aware that we are gonna have to work some stuff out, but we've been through worse and come out okay. I'm not feeling resentful or anything, so that should help the reconciliation.

I made an appointment at a medical group where they specialize in women's health so they can run a million tests and see if I'm fit for surgery. I think it will ease the minds of my family if I have a place in the USA for pre and post op care.

I know. I am just so emotionally drained. It's hard to see and hear your mother cry like that. I appreciate everyone taking the time to respond. I'm just going to have to put my plans off for a short while. I'll try it her way and when it doesn't work, she can go with me to MX.

Yes, I will. However, it is not easy to go against the three most important people in my life. I can always do the surgery later, like over the summer. They want me to exhaust other avenues first and I think I can compromise. I am feeling better about the entire thing actually. It's not a perfect situation, but it is a workable one

She asked if I would consider delaying the surgery and seeing a specialist group. She wants me to be throughly evaluated before I get on a plane. I think also, she believes that through diet and exercise I will succeed. I want to compromise but I can't deal with the theatrics.

Mom just called me and started sobbing and begging when I told her I wanted to go ahead. I can't deal with this crap!

I think is exactly what happened. I started to pack all of my things, round up my items, etc. and DH must have panicked. He knew I had the money, passport, plane ticket, but the crap on the table was his wake up call that I was serious. Until last night, all he said was, "I don't think it's a good idea, but you're going to do what you want anyway." I asked him point blank why he just couldn't show me how he felt? Telling me his opinion is not the same as showing me that he's worried about my health. Ah, men.

I fly out Sunday afternoon. I might ask them to go with me since they offered. Thank you for reminding me that THIS TOO SHALL PASS

Thank you so much. I have been reading the responses and all I can say is that you guys are wonderful. I have no new news, though

I'm also not sure about having kids. Like others on here, my husband and I enjoy the DINK lifestyle and the loss of that freedom seems unfathomable. Maybe we'll adopt someday. I'm 28 now, so I could wait five more years or so before I make that decision. I have a lot of vacations to take before then

Believe it or not, this is a thing in my household. My husband says this on a regular basis, lol

How can you tell if you have a clot? What does it feel like? Symptoms?

I had to detox for a week after being on Ambien for six months. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I had to re-teach myself how to fall asleep; it was like I had forgotten. I stopped taking it because my husband would tell me all the wackadoo things I would do. One time he found me in the garage playing with sparklers. I wouldn't stay in bed After that, I decided I had to take charge.

Can you get some non calorie food and trick your brain? Crystal light frozen pops or the low calorie jello?

My juicer isn't the kind that leaves the Fiber. It's straight up liquid. I try not to do fruit because of all the sugar and no fiber, but veggies are different

I'm not planning on reintroducing them. I want to keep my white carbs low and avoid food like rice or processed starch. I'm not talking forever, but maybe a long, long time or extremely special occasions.

What about vegetable juice? I have a juicer I'm going to use to get some vegetable nutrition.

I called my insurance but I used the example of breast reduction surgery in mexico instead of saying WLS...the woman assured me that my insurance covers medical problems resulting from elective procedures.

I'm sure you're floating through a haze of lovely drugs right now, but I hope everything went well and that you are up and about soon!

Mexico surgery varies from about 4500 to 8500, depending on your doctor. Sixty thousand dollars sounds like a scam. $40 for a Tylenol, anyone?

Yay! Relax and enjoy the Mexican sun!

I am going to tell my parents after the fact. I don't want my mom to worry about me while I'm in Mexico having organs removed

I had a killer butt and boobs when I was skinny, so I am hoping that they're still there under this fat suit

I might print this out and bring it with me, lol - it will be nice to read and re-read on the plane