TheOldMeAgain

I'm taking my chill pill...or rather chill shot.

Throw whatever offensive remarks you can at me. What offends one may not offend another. I don't cry "foul". I respond in kind. If I replaced Whine with Bored I bet someone would find that offensive. Actually there is a Rant about being bored with the lack of Originality on this site. I'm going to guess that popular author didn't meet with any offended posters. Better choose my words more careful next time.

Wrong is not meaning I had in mind. More along the lines of baffling. That one can come so far in their journey yet after a few temporary setbacks they regret that trip. As for the friends comment. Some posters have other members on this site that post on most threads they do and they tend to have the same tone of voice. From my experience.

I Know this is not supportive and will make a few people upset. But it's My Rant & Rave. This is not aimed at those experiencing complications from surgery. It's about people that REGRET surgery after a few days or weeks of the going getting tough. Did they research WLS?! Or how how read the many stories on this site about others experiences after surgery? No one said it was going to be easy. Feeling nauseous, vomiting, no energy, not being able to get in all your liquids and Proteins is pretty common. That is no true reason to REGRET this life saving procedure! Yes I do understand the emotional effects surgery can have on you with your hormones being out of whack. Still not a excuse. I was prepared for all these things. In the hospital I had a few issues with the nursing staff where my pain medication was withheld from me. I was in pain for hours crying, had to call my sister to come to the hospital in the middle of the night. Not ONCE did I wish I didn't have the surgery. I knew soon or later my pain would be managed! And that's the whole point. It will get better. You can't whine and regret things because your experiencing a rough time. Life is like that too. So UNLESS your have a serious life altering complication SUCK IT UP!!! You knew the possible side effects... Rant Over

I completely agree with you. It's ok if someone want to disagree with your rant. But nope, they tell you that your opinion is wrong. It's not the rant it's the poster of the rant. I've been through this a few times. When certain posters weight in their friends join in. If you've been around long enough might have see the pattern. That's when it takes a turn and not in a good way.

That is true. It's hard for me to back down from anything. Ever now and then I need to remind myself some things are not worth it.

On two accounts you don't know what your talking about. First you got the wrong poster. Second don't assume about a situation you know little of. Well you know what they assumptions

Hypocrisy at its finest. I've seen a couple posters in this thread come down on other posters for eating the wrong foods. But I guess it's different because they're "concerned" and "tough love" is needed. Sure as long as it's not an issue they're dealing with or dealt with in the past.

Yes you would think I was talking to them personally. Maybe they don't know what section they're in.

Your taking a stranger comment to personal. My comment about throwing a pity party was not aimed at you directly. If it hit a sore spot with you that's not my fault. Once again, your too invested in my statement. I don't know your story, beside what you wrote, to wrap it in anything. I acknowledged that you went through hardships and I was sorry to hear that. Then I went right back to the topic and why I felt the way I did. This after all is MY thread. Me a drill sergeant? I've bet you never met one. I'm Mother Teresa in comparison. As for acting like a drill sergeant on here, I have every RIGHT to be on this particular sub-forum. It's call RANTS. You can look over all my posts. I bet you won't find one with me being hard, rude or self- righteous with anyone. Of course everyone is allowed to express how they feel. Including myself. No we can't Always predict how we will react to certain events but Past Behavior have a Tendency to Predict Future Behavior. After I read those threads I don't reply to them. Too bad the subject line don't read "Regret Surgery After Vomiting A Few Times". That way I can pass them over.

Hi Valarie best wishes for your upcoming surgery. Even though I'm ranting about something I find annoying I'm usually a very supportive person. We all have things that we just have to get off our chest.

Beautifully stated. I second you on not caring part. Popularity is for high school and public figures anyway, lol.

Hoorah!! Your only as strong as you need to be. With this surgery strength comes into play big time. I learned so much from being in the military. It made me a stronger person and taught me life best lessons. Good luck to you on yours too. We got this for sure!!

Yea they don't want to get get it. It offends their sensibilities that someone not a "vet" dare give such an opinion. This is a major surgery. It's one thing to talk about what your going through but the whining to the point of regret? I'm going to keep on saying it.... Maybe they weren't prepared enough.

Nope, where I say that? That comment was in reasons to a poster saying come back in a year implying I might feel or think differently. I was letting him know I won't. People can have regrets all that want. But if they having them over a some nausea and pain then I wonder if they were really ready for WLS or at least researched it well enough.

That's great you survived your hardships. As you said you don't know me. I know from past experiences I can get past anything. I had to fight tooth and nail to get cleared psychologically because of some of the things I experienced while deployed. But I overcame and proved one psych doc wrong and here I am. Doing better than those that got approved right away. Your blues are not mine but I don't throw a pity party. I tell myself that is the past and it will not hinder me. It's what I do next that defines me. So yes I can rant about whiners. It's my right to in this thread. This is the Perfect Place. I don't think some comprehend what I said or that just read whine and get offended. If your going to rant & rave, whine, do it, whatever make you feel better. My POINT is that REGRETTING surgery over a few Expected Temporary symptoms is unnecessary whining. That is bit much. Maybe they weren't really ready for this Serious surgery.

My sleeve may have only been a month ago but it's during that period of time most declare their regrets. My pain management was poor during one nursing shift. It's complicated but it was a retaliation because my sister complained about the nurses not doing their job. Her opinion. She is very outspoken. I did speak up for myself and it got fixed but I tell my sisters everything. It didn't matter what got solved my sister still came up there. I'm very lucky in my support system. As an observer I really hope those that haven't had surgery yet read these posts. Know and understand how common nausea, vomiting, difficulty getting in liquids etc will be for many. I'm sure that they didn't make the decision to have WLS lightly therefore shouldn't be so quick to think it was a mistake after a few setbacks.

I'm not bother by those that post their bad experiences. Just those that regret having surgery because a few bad days that will get better. Please rant and rave. Best wishes for surgery tomorrow and a amazing recovery.

I wanted to do a rant because it bother me and this site provides a forum for it. No different than vets ranting about newbies freaking out over stalls or not losing any weight after a few days or wks. It's an outlet. Nothing more nothing less.

Why?! Because someone so soon out of surgery can't possible know about regrets? I don't believe in them. I may be early out therefore not in the clear yet but even if I get a leak or some other complication I'll deal with it. In a year you will see this thread again and I will ask... You were saying?

I actually got a call this morning asking me did I want to join my surgeon Bariatric Support Group. They had a meeting coming up next wk on Thursday. I declined this month but said I'll be interested in going next month. The issue is that unless it's a club I'm joining I don't like group meetings. Especially if it revolves around me talking about my personal problems. My psychologist tried to get me to go to group therapy. I shut her down fast on that one. It's not for me. Maybe I'll check out the support group just to see what it's all about.

Sweets! My sister have cupcakes, my favorite ice cream Cookies N Cream, donuts and candy everywhere. Not once have I've been tempted! It's really amazing especially since my cycle is tomorrow. My cravings get out of control around that time and I be PMSing hard! I use to eat two huge symphony bars back to back and have a stash of heath bars and nutty buddy bars. It sustained me until my cycle was over. Now I don't give all these goodies a second glance. Hope it stays this way FOREVER! Now if I can only feel that way about carbs, mostly mashed potatoes and Mac n Cheese...

I'm so frustrated with myself. My energy level is so low I can't even do half of Leslie Sansone Walk Three Miles DVD! It's not in any way a hard and intense workout. In a few days I'll be four wks out. I take my vitamins, get my protein and water in but it's not enough. Looks like I'm going have to add carbs to my diet but only from a fruit before I exercise. Before surgery it was a banana. I can't exercise on an empty stomach. Makes me dizzy and lethargic. Sigh, hope this helps because I have to get pass just walking.

My sister had gastric bypass and lost over 170 pounds. She is 43 and have excess skin only on her arms. But that is genetic. We are all curse with our mom fat arms even at normal weight. Anyways she still has 50 or more pound to lose. Time will tell how the rest will hold up but I think it will be great. So age and starting weight not always a great indicator if you will have a lot of excess skin.

Everyone talking about the dreaded three wk stall so I got curious. I broke my only one week rule and weighted myself. I've lost two pounds since my third week weight in. Maybe the stall doesn't show itself until the fourth wk. Time will tell.