NurseGrace

I'll take it down then. I'm just not certain what you are looking for. There is nothing at all wrong with posting your struggles but for some reason yours stuck out to me as special because I do not remember every post I read, but I remember yours. I don't know why. I see we are no longer friends so I can only assume you have unfriended me, which is fine if you feel attacked in some way I get it - but consider this, you are posting in a public forum so unless someone has something deeply DEEPLY personal to share with you, it is not unreasonable to assume that people will respond publicly in the exact manner that you posted and if you are for some reason uncomfortable with that, you might reevaluate if you should be posting in the first place. The internet is full of mean people, trolls, and generally cold people and I can assure you that I am not one of these people. However, all things considered I will do my best to no longer respond to your posts as you do not seem to be looking for an actual honest assessment, which is all I have to offer.

I'm not following you I guess. I don't feel as though anything I have said is mean or hateful, but if OP is just looking for handholding maybe I am not the girl - I post publically because this is a public forum and if OP is having this issue there are probably many like her, so sure I guess I could PM her to say what I said but I guess the whole point in my mind is for other people to be able to come along and read all the tips and suggestions as well. When I was brand new here I was using the search engine like crazy to read about the problems I was having, and if people had only been PMing all replies it wouldn't be helpful to anyone else. I think you might be reading too much into what I said, I just simple suggested that OP might have an issue that runs deeper than "welp, not doing THAT again" because, frankly, this is at least the second or third post of this exact nature and I think no one is doing any favors by glossing over that fact if they have noticed it. It's clearly a problem. I ran support groups professionally, and support does not always mean never calling a spade a spade, and it doesn't mean always putting on a happy face either, but I want to be clear about something. I like DeeDeeMuffin, I have seen her all over this site and I always think she is a great contributor I don't know her personally, but having seen what I have seen, I have the respect to say what I think. I never called her any names, I never said she absolutely has an eating disorder or compulsive behavior, but I think we are all kidding ourselves if we don't consider that possibility and be honest about it. Thats what real support is about, sometimes its not all sunshine, rainbows and happy faces Now, to DeeDee, if you are offended by my message I will be more than happy to take it down for you, as I think it's obvious at this point my intention isn't to come down on you, but I can tell you as someone who had to deal with an eating disorder myself, I see a ton of similarities and it makes me worry. I could be reading to much into this because of my own perception based on my own experiences - you let me know.

yeeeeah I have a feeling that was directed at me, and I get it - but I want to be clear that I would never say that OP has impaired mental functioning or anything of the sort, in fact, just the opposite is true, she clearly cares and knows the right things to do. My comment was coming from concern because it was not that long ago that OP was going on about spending all day eating nuggets and drinking frappuccinos from mcdonalds. I want to be clear, my memory could be failing me and I COULD be thinking of someone else but I don't think I am. All I am saying is that I seem to be noticing a pattern here of relatively extreme bindging (in so far as a VSG patient can binge) feeling ultra bad about it to the point of making it seem as though she feels like she has had some kind of personal failure, resolving to do better, then rinse and repeat. I am pretty worried for OP, because I just feel like there are other issues at play here that might be more suitable for a professional. Being a psych nurse and caring for all types of people I have a lot of love, and I find it interesting that whenever someone suggests that couseling of some sort might be useful that people take that to mean mental capacity is somehow an issue. Needing/seeking professional help in NO way equals retarded, stupid, weak or anything of the sort and to assume that people mean that when they suggest that their issues seem to be behavioral, not a knowledge problem is a little unfair.

tehehehe I think I would be shy about it too, but I almost dont care. I failed with a lapband and I do NOT want to be looking into revisions with this surgery because I pushed it all the time like the last go around. Sadly, even though its sort of OCD... I think I might need it.

lol no, but it's sort of my nature.

I have not but I have a feeling I could do it easily if I didn't care to do what I'm supposed too.

That is probably the same reason that certain spots on the floor may cause a person to have lower readings. If the floor is not level your weigh in will not be as accurate but you can still see trends. I just try not to move my scale a whole bunch.

I wouldn't really recommend people use a laxative unless they really need it because it can turn into bulimia and take it from me as a nurse - you do not want to be someone who has become laxative dependent if you can help it. Your bowels lose their own motility if you constantly are taking things to force them to move.

I am removing this post as it has unintentionally caused a ruckus.

my bladder was not back to normal for about a week and a half, but I ended up with a UTI because of it, so I would talk to someone.

For some reason tomato soup does this to me too. I am on solid foods and can eat salad but for some reason that stinking tomato soup makes me feel barfy even though it tastes so good.

If you are going to get chewables please at least purchase chewables for adults, not Flintstones Personally, I take gummies, my surgeon says they are fine and unless blood work comes back questionable they seem to be the type of Vitamins that people keep up with taking.

I too, log my lowest weight, I do not feel the need to move my ticker back and forth if I fluctuate up a pound or two. I am guilty of using a laxative before weigh in's because I am still newly sleeved and very irregular and that makes a huge difference in the accuracy of my weigh in I have a bottle of furosemide and I am not afraid to use it! If you can't tell I have a disposition to hang on to things so sometimes I have to do a little extra to get things moving. Don't know why.

Xath101, I don't chew and spit. I dont get judgey about it but for me it feels like disordered behavior.

The only thing that made me feel better was to sleep more. I know not everyone can do that, but if you can catch a nap or get to bed early you should.

I think that so much of what we do here to change ourselves has less to do with what goes on and more to do with how we react, and how we proceed. I think it was Aristotle that said we are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit. Obviously, that one cup of food is not going to make or break you, what matters here is if you pick yourself up and start clean tomorrow or not. There is no magic wand to wave for a clean start, you just... proceed.

I drink a TON of tea. I go through those boxes of 100 tea bags in a matter of 2 months - those last a lot of people an entire year. I basically brew about 12 cups at a time using 2 bags in a clean coffee pot and then pour that into a pitcher and chill it in the fridge. When I am ready for some I put one packet of sweet and low in a glass and a few squirts of lime juice and then fill the cup up the rest of the way with the tea. I drink that almost nonstop.

would suggest doing everything you can do to shut that down as soon as it springs to mind. I used methods like when I would think about something (I really wanted Red Robin's crispy chicken sandwich) and think about how much having all of that was really self abuse and that is how I got to be so heavy. It takes the shine off our favorite things when you put it into perspective.

trolling means different things to different people, but for me, a troll can be anything from someone who comes by and posts deliberately stupid things just to sit back and watch what unfolds, to people posting excessively off topic replys or even new threads I guess. Anything that causes needless disruption or distraction I guess.

You dont need a lot. Get a digital scale and take a change of clothes to the hospital. All other nonfood items are extraneous, except for maybe a pillow, which I am certain you already have.

Whats the question? No one can tell you if you are covered or not, you have to call YOUR insurance company with YOUR plan number to discuss the benefits about YOUR plan, through YOUR employer.

I want to hand you an award. Many times I want to make posts about using google and the search funtion before asking really simple questions but I always hesitate. I think the use of that meme was PERFECT. I feel bad but I wont even look at hair loss posts anymore or anything asking about "who has XYZ insurance" or "how much money does it cost blah blah blah" all of that stuff has been covered ad nauseum and questions about insurance companies rely totally on your own plan so even if you have blue cross and I have blue cross, our coverage will NOT be the same.

Wow - let me say, as a nurse, that is crazy. It also smells of all kinds of legal issues. They sleeved you without having you sign a consent form? Wow. just wow. I had a band too so I am familiar with all that drama, but I had it removed and waited almost 2 years to have surgery again. You can't get your stomach back so I suggest you embrace it wholeheartedly, but I can certainly understand your shock. That would leave my head spinning. Did your husband think that you wanted them to do that?

no underwear during surgery but that does not translate to needing a wax unless that's what you normally do anyway. I shaved but that is my usual choice for grooming. It will be a week or so before you feel like shaving your legs and whatever other business you usually attend to so do it the night before surgery if you are going to.

YEP do NOT go anywhere. Get yourself some good reading material because you will more than likely be setting up shop in the bathroom. Nice TP is also a must. TMI but I was cursing my off brand TP the night I had to do my prep