NurseGrace

It's just because of statistical data.

well, at least it was just an egg, you could do a lot worse than that. Perspective is important.

I am only a month post op right now but I have noticed this with sugar. Everything sweet is like... too much, and I was a major sweets eater before surgery, probably 80% of my extra weight was put on with sweet junk food. I cant stand even a little bit of crystal light anymore, I just drink tea or water now. Juice is horrible, even the smell of it grosses me out...

It's probably best to just keep it moving and never look back, you seem smart, you'll do fine. I am a married lady but my hubster wasn't really 100% on board with this surgery and I was mostly on my own, he hasn't given me a lot of support with this other than obvious things like picking me up, taking me to appointments and whatnot and I'm sure a lovely lady like yourself has a friend or two you can count on for a ride should you need it. Emotionally, this site has been really helpful for me, I get to talk to other people who relate on a deeper level. I love my husband and in some ways we are really close, but his weight problem is not NEARLY as severe as mine, and I think the man just doesnt get it. So, not to make it about me or anything, but I just say this to let you know, even though it doesnt always appear this way, I lot of us are far more isolated than it appears.

This is one of the best blogs I have read on this site. Very well put.

holy moly - an omlette from IHOP here in Kansas is 8.99 for the BIGGEST one, most of them are 6-8 dollars. I usually just steal about three bites from my husband. It's way more than three bites for me - but when I am asking him to give me some that's how I describe it.

It's totally normal. It's hard to say the exact reason because normally these things have multiple causes so it could be any one of the following: women commonly gain during menstruation no matter what fluid retention decreased urination from the drugs you received in the hospital You probably have not had a bowel movement at this point, and if you did it was probably not substantial surgery is trauma and trauma = swelling and any time there is inflamation there is extra fluid in the tissues you could be predisposed to retaining fluid at certain times of the month regardless of menstruation - I am like that too sodium? Have you been drinking broth? That will do it. It's not a big deal but it might reflect on the scale. Basically, don't worry. We all see wild shifts on the scale the first few weeks, and its not always in the direction we were hoping for. It will come off over the next few days. There is no need to dramatically change anything you are doing just trust the process and keep up the good work. You are right about weighing weekly though. It's really in your best interest to pick a day to weigh in (for me its Tuesdays because my surgery was on a Tuesday but it doesnt really matter and weigh in that day and maybe the rest of the week just put the scale somewhere that it wont tempt you. For me, I slide it under a shelf in my bathroom but sometimes when I am rearranging I just pick it up and take it into my bedroom closet that way when I am in the bathroom the silly thing isn't staring me down daring me to hop on just to take a peek.

I was so happy to have my band removed. In only one month of being sleeved I can tell you that I feel as though my sleeve is everything my band was SUPPOSED to be, but never was. best of luck to you.

I dont want no stinkin hot crap, missy! lmao

I shoot for an even 800 calories but sometimes I fall short of that, sometimes I go over by a couple hundred, just depends how the day goes. My absolute max that I have not gone over since surgery is 1200 calories.

I think commercials are designed to have an effect, thats the entire point of marketing but I would never go so far as to say they should be banned. I have read the article thats being passed around about foods designed to be addictive, but even more tha designer junk food, the human brain itself is designed to prefer sugar, salt, and fat as a survival strategy to ward off starvation. Junk food makers produce that because they are universally appealing. I tend to think its less... sinister than people make it out to be. In the end I think it's up to us to control what goes in and I'm not just talking about food, we have to control what goes into our minds too. Food advertising really gets to me - you know what I did? I got rid of the TV. That's right guys, I do not own a TV. I do notice that my skinny friends are oblivious to food advertising. It doesn't really bother them one way or another, so that is also interesting.

I am a month out and from time to time recently I have had a little bit but I have had very little inflamation in my sleeve so you kind of have to use your own judgment on whether or not you can handle it, and I would NOT have more than maybe an ounce and a half if you can eat it, because it will blow your carb count away

When I was brand spanking new I ran into some of that, but I will say that it is important to use the search function and use it often, because so many things have been covered so many times that a lot of people just don't care to get into it in much of a helpful capacity I do wish that the search function was improved a little because a lot of times I KNOW there are 100s of posts on a topic and sometimes I can only find a few but I still always review what I come up with before making a new thread.

Well, its completely up to you. I don't think there is a right or wrong answer to this question really, its just whatever you want for yourself. If you can lose the weight without surgery it's my inclination to encourage you to do so, but if you are like me and you lost weight and gained it back 100 times in your life that is one hamster wheel I was happy to jump off and leave in my past, which is why I proceeded with the surgery. I was scared to do it, but I was scared of what was going to happen to me if I didn't do it.

Hmm, you might try going down to home depo or whatever is near you and having them cut you a square of plywood or masonite to slip under your scale on top of the time.

For the record, I said she might consider it because things seemed to be a certain way, its a narrow but deep distinction. This is the last thing I am saying on the matter.

That is all well and good, I don't have a problem admitting that my first post was not as nice as it could have been, otherwise I would not have offered to take it down, but if you honestly say that you dont have any communication that isn't positive (what you view as positive) that could be part of the problem. If you cannot take someone holding a mirror up and saying to you honestly that something you are doing, and doing over again, and again is a problem then how are you supposed to grow as a person? It's best to keep a circle of friends who will once in a while make you sit up straight, get a little uncomfortable and deal with a problem instead of telling you that its OK and that tomorrow is a new day. Tomorrow is never a new day if you never deal with the issues at hand, which is why things seem to be on repeat for you. The women who jumped in and said something actually did see what happened on the other post, thats why she said something. Also, since you are taking shots at women. I wish I could remember what person said it but there was a famous quote that you have to watch out for women who do not keep female friends, because its a sure fire way to tell that THEY are the ones who can't play nice and I find over and over again that statement being true. If all women bring you nothing but drama consider that you are the common factor. You asked me if this is out of hand or not, and honestly, I am in complete control of my emotions reguarding this situation, so no, for me it is not out of hand, I just respond as I see fit because I care about the way I am perceived.

RIP THEM OUT. lol no just kidding. Drains are a pain, I dont have any voodoo to get rid of the discomfort completely but do you have any left over pain medication you can take?

I just want to say that all this is completely unfair. DeeDee is being extremely passive aggressive and I am the target. I was never mean to her, she made yet another post (one of many) talking about how she binged on terrible food again. I, having been friends with DD in the past made a post stating that I was starting to see a pattern and that she might MIGHT consider seeing someone to see if there was a deeper issue here than just messing up a few times. Thats all. Thats what brought on all this. It's manipulation of anyone who didn't see the first post because she really did a good job of making herself look like a victim but I am not keen to lay down and be the bad guy when I IMMEDATELY deleted the post, explained myself more clearly, apologized, and apologized here more than once. Please don't be fooled.

Honestly Laura, I sort of appreciated it. I feel thrown under the bus, and I also feel that I am the target of said passive aggressiveness which is pretty far out of line all things considered. I'm not even sure you saw my original post because I took it down immediately at the first sign of trouble because it was obvious my intention was not to be offensive. I apologized there, I apologized here and I followed through with what I said I would do like an adult. I have not had one single ounce of reciprocation for having gone so far out of my way to apologize for something so silly and small in the first place. I'm not a victim, so I will live to see another day without doing something dramatic like declaring I am leaving the forums for good, but I DO feel like the target of this passive aggressive behavior and honestly its not cool. I was not going to say anything about it but you telling that woman that it was not about her kind of upsets me because this IS passive aggressive and I am the target, and I do not appreciate it. For the record I have apologized multiple times, and I am not really excited to lay down and be the purporter of some great misdeed. I do not want DeeDee to leave the forums, but if she does it is completely of her own doing, she has not been run off by a pack of angry trolls. She was run off my a woman suggesting she take her health into her own hands and help herself get better.

DeeDee today I realized after having a chat with a certain someone that I come off as pretty cold and clinical. That is never my intention but it's a byproduct of my work. I try to be as clear and concise as I can and sometimes seeming brusque is a side effect of that and I am really sorry because I must have come off as a real ass to you but it wasn't on purpose and I do feel bad that it's got you this upset.

DeeDee, I'm sorry, I wasn't trying to be mean to you and I made no secret of that. I sincerely hope you do not leave this site because of my posts which I gladly took down when I realized you were upset about it. If I am off the mark here let me know, for all I know this could be about something else but considering our most recent interaction I hope you can reconsider. There is room for all of us here.