I know the feeling hun my surgery is scheduled Monday too and I have two kids.. he wasn't "killing you off" just trying to comfort you.. it just didn't come out as hoped unfortunately remember he's vine of the reasons you have decided to do this.. and God willing, will bring just the opposite result..because of this surgery our biggest hope is to be there ever longer right along side of our little ones and keeps with them. So just give him a big hug and thank God you have such a wonderful reason to fight for a healthier you!