Great topic! I am 9 days from surgery and have been having the same thoughts about what I am going to tell friends and family. My buds are all big men like me and will probably be shocked and some may talk smack about it but will most likely understand: blood pressure, CPAP, ankle/knee problems taking more meds than we need to. I will probably struggle with the events where really bad food and drinking are involved more than I will with their initial comments/reactiions.
For now I am going let it ride. Only a few close friends will know until I start losing. I have another procedure that I am having done same time so I have a valid reason for scar, weight loss and being out of work for a week.
Great support here guys, thanks!