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I think this is why i am blue today - all i have are fat clothes and they make me feel fat - like i haven't lost weight - even though they are baggie - i went shopping a couple of weekends ago - but there was nothing out there that i wanted to spend $$$ on when I know that in another couple of months they will be too big...

Congrats Brenda :clap2:

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Hi Gang - Looks like everyone is getting their 2nd or 3rd fills and doing pretty good. I am blue today - don't know why - there really is no reason - just a blue day - I hate to adimit but it's hell being female with hormones - thank God no more periods - but still get moody sometimes..... I have people coming over for a reunion meeting at 6:30 tonite - gotta serve something - figured a coffee cake & coffee/tea - but I'm going to tell you right now - as soon as the thingie is over - it's going in the trash or someone else is taking it home.. Well you know i am a big advocate of only weighing yourself once a week - but since i have only 1 lbs to make that 40 lbs gone i have been stepping on that evil wicked enemy of ours - and it did say I made that 40 lbs gone - but won't be official until Thrusday which is my weigh in day... Well, talk to you all later - hope everyone is doing good - and remember i am right there on your shoulder - whispering - "you don't need it - put it down - throw it away"

Sghatl Way to go 62 lbs already :clap2:- You have the correct mindset imho.. Enjoy your cream of turkey Soup for Xmas :0) You are doing GREAT - keep up the good work....

Darling - good luck to you....

You are not a child for him to take a computer away from - OMG... He still has his maid, cook & secertary without the sex - big whoop - 2 months and at 37 you don't think he is getting it somewhere else... Darling you are not standing tall - Mental games we play... Who cares if you have proof - what is the proof going to do - he will never accept the truth so quite trying to make him - he see's only his truht and that it's all your fault. What both Dibaby & Wheetsin said above me is so true... Darling you aren't ready to accept our help - or suggesstion I hope that your "Wake Up One Day & Won't Take It Anymore" comes soon - cuz you are wasting your precious life - and when you are older looking back on your life.. you will.... say - why did i waste all those years on that s.o.b.

OK got a couple of questions for you - do you want to be healthier and lose weight and start the new year with a new you or do you want to eat until you are sick and have gained another 10 lbs from eating all that junk during the holidays. Which is more important to you... If you want to continue your unhealthy eating habits then start after the 1st of the yr - if you want to start getting healthy do it now. The band is not a magic cure to our issues with food it is only a tool that will do 25% of the work once you get to your sweet spot but the other 75% of the work is up to you. You can eat around the band - you can get stuck from eating too much, too fast, etc. you can do this year round not just during the holiday's. What are the holidays about??? Thanksgiving & Christmas - New Years They aren't really about food..... Thanksgiving is about Giving Thanks (that you have the band an are adding yrs to your life) Christmas - The Birth of Jesus - (thank the Lord that there is such an invention that will help your portions control) New Years (I am on my way to being a new person) How bad do you want to start your new healthy life - it's not about food it's about you... Good Luck on your quest......

I am HAPPY :clap2: that you re-found your motivation.... It was in you all the time.....

It's diff for everyone - do you have any chewable pepcid that you can take?? I would suggest - Clear liquids for the rest of the day or at least for your next meal -

Beau - Been there done that - Please listen to a "Old Women's Advice" He is never going to change - you can not change him - When I was your age I thought that with enough love and understanding I could change him - but you can't. Read the book "women who love too much" See a counsler You have to think about what's best for you - You have started that process by getting a band to loose the weight - We play all kind of mental games with ourselves - I know - I did it for years. Truely you are no different than me - I just have the years of experience behind me. I had a girlfriend tell me once - you will wake up one day and you just won't be able to take it anymore. If he hits you - you really need to get out and the mental abuse is just as bad it is tearing you down. You don't have control over him - but you do have control of what you eat - Have that be a starting place - I had an x - who told me i was FAT aftet i had lost 60 lbs - I told him that didn't work any longer cuz I wasn't... I am a prideful person and I will do it to prove you wrong - So prove the A-Hole WRONG - eat healthy - exercise oncenyou have been given the ok by doc and take care of yourself 1st. You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else. Do you have a shelter in your area for abused women - call them for the counseling. Good luck you can do this - you have taken the 1st step by being banded...

You can do it Badonkadonkbutt!!!!! You are woman you are strong !! You CAN win this battle!!!! Much Love Janet

sleep apena - do you have a family history of heart problems?? or diabetes???

Welcome Kennergirl - Congrats on making the decision to get banded. You will be able to sleep on your tummy once you are all healed up from surgery (a couple of weeks) - it's your port site that hurts the most - it's tender really - I don't feel the band it's inside - i do feel my port site if i bursh up against something hard.. I too am a tummy / side sleeper - I was able to get on my tummy side maybe a week out...

Jamie - are you able to get your Protein in... Is your bp still low?? do you take bp meds??? Hows your sugar??? Maybe you should call your doctor if you feel that bad - Are you walking to get rid of the gas - are you using gas x strips?? everyone is different but I was ok 5 days out - I was back at work on the 6th day...

Being at your sweet spot does not equate to weight loss if you are eating around your band - If you are going to do that - why did you get banded - You must learn to change your eating habits or the band will be a failure like all the other diets you have been on before - this is not the magic cure to your weight loss issues... You have to do some of the work too... If you would make healthy food choices and exercise - the weight will come off - I was banded in July and am down 39 lbs - and i am almost twice your age - but i am working at this with a little help from my band as I am not at my sweet spot yet.... I spent alot of $$$ and had tons of preop test - I want a healthly life so I am doing the work to get there... It all depends on how much you really want it (weight loss) but it's not going to happen over night - and it won't happen until you are committed to a healthlier lifestyle...

badonkadonkbutt You are absoulutly right - you need to make good food choices in order to lose - the band is only a tool but the real work is up to you. Nope they banded your tummy and not your head - half our eating problems are mostly head hunger issues imho. Fills will keep you from eating a large quainty of food - but if you eat around the band they aren't going to do anything IMHO - unless you change your eating you may lose some but it won't be what you expect. I don't mean to sound mean here you asked for "bloody honesty" The band does 25% of the work and the other 75% is up to you - you have to change your eating - need to make healthy low fat sugar free food choices and add exercise to your life.. IMHO until you do these things you aren't going to lose much weight...

Marilyn I had a girl i use to work with say i was cheating - I said what about your boob job - that's cheating for vanity at least mine for my health (I don't think that the band is cheating by the way as it's not the band that make you lose weight it's you - by making healthly choices when it comes to food - the band it's not magic cure to our food issues it's only a tool) Good luck on your surgery....

Yes I know how independent you 16 yrs olds are - I was there once myself - infact i had my own place and have been on my own since I was 16 . I have a grandson who lives with me and he's 16 too - He thinks he's grown half the time.:eek:.. I can't beleive I am doing this a 2nd time... I thnk it's great that you are independent - you will make a fine young lady who will be strong and knows what she wants... Good luck to you on your journey to become healthly.... cuz you are beautiful as you were...

Good idea - I don't know what is worst no restriction or too much - I wish that remote control band was here - then it wouldn't be so hard to find our sweet spot :eek:

All is good - You and Rliberty have the same names - Are you going to NYC all by yourself???

There you go PHYL - thats the way to think - Better in him than you!!!! Ribearty - your exercise is great !!!!! What are you eating?? How many calories a day??? if you are eating very low - I would increase it a tad. Pick one day a week to weigh - I find this more helpfull cuz those scales can be cruel - one day down 2 lbs - next day up 1 - etc... How is your band - do u have enough restriction - can you go for another fill?? How are your clothes fitting - sometime it shows more there than it does on the scales. Come on don't get down - that won't help - lets find a solution... Peaches - I could give you an xrate defination to that name :embarassed: Phyl - you are a violent beauty Your beauty is so great that is cause violence in men who compete for you Denise - it you think about it Peaches has an xrated name too :embarassed:

I am catholic too but i don't feel that way - If they can use it go for it. Anyway - "We" don't get our bodies back - it's our souls that go to heaven... dust to dust - has she forgotten her catheicism (sp) Yes if I have a terminal disease - please put me out of my misery - I don't want to suffer and I don't want my family to see me suffer... I have been there done that with my parents...

Blueguy I please know that the following is meant to help not to offend 1st your choices of food are not the best and this may have something to do with you not losing weight &/or getting stuck. (bread/sugar) Have your tried protien shakes and Soups instead of actual chewing food - or at least mushies and making good food choices instead... My doc has you follow the rules just like after surgery when you get a fill... 1 week full liquids - 1 week mushiee - 1 week soft. Why did you wait 9 months before your first fill? Why are you eating pizza and Pasta??? You know that you struggle with emotional issues of confidence & esteem that comes with being fat. But you may not know that you could be what are called as an avoider. This is due to the turmoil that comes with public & private dislike for obesity and you avoid confronting your situation at because of the fear of not being able to bet it. <?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p></o:p> Here is how an avoider thinks – once you deviate even slightly from a diet or healthy eating you figure you might as we drop the whole thing – this stars a cycle that avoider can’t find a way out of – We are fat we try to lose weight we deviate just a little we feel rejection for the perceived failure we isolate ourselves from people we stop talking about it, we stop the diet we eat a pound of candy – we get fat then we try to lose weight and the cycle continues <o:p></o:p> Instead of avoiding bad foods avoider tend to want to avoid other things like the people who want to help them and the disciplene of trying to eat healthy. Avoiders try to separate themselves from these 2 strong emotion associated with dieting. I think you really need to get the gerds under control and go back to the doc if the nextium isn't working - it seems like they have looked to see if you have slipped and you haven't You need to rethink your food choices and remember that you need to take small bite and to eat slowy. Remember the deterimantion that you had when you first got banded - since you did have success those 1st few months... Are you able to exercise - talk a walk in the evens after work or if you can in the morning before work. The band only does 25% of the work and the other 75% is up to you by making good food choices and exercising - this isn't a diet but a lifestyle change You can do this - you have proven this but you just gotta get that motitvation back - remember why you were banded in the 1st place - you know how much better you felt when you lost 76 lbs - I know that you want this otherwise you wouldn't have gotten banded in the 1st place - Do some soul searching and quit playing thoses little mind games that we all play with ourselves. Good Luck...

As the saying goes - too bad you can't pick them :eek: