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I love this thread! I was so needed. I would like to give you a run down of my life. I was married for ten yrs...divorced after I found out my husband had a girlfriend. We had two kids at this point! Are sex life was great....everyday, morning an night, in the shower. I couldnt walk past the man without him grabbing something. We married very young he was 18 and I was 19. Sex was great.....sometimes I used to wish for him to calm down in that department because I was TIRED. LOL! I used to think that if we didnt have sex for a whole month I would be ok. Well after divorce...I did a lot of stuff that I didnt get to do before I was married! If you know what I mean!!! Well I met my DH and he was great.....I wasnt afraid to put myself out there. I was also about 50 pounds lighter than I am now. I was always the aggresive one in that department...which I must say I thought was odd, but I wanted a man to love me for me not for sex. Well we have been married for 2 1/2 yrs now. When were first married he worked nights, I worked days. So sex was hard to come by.....on the days he was off, I would go to bed at a normal time and he would stay up. I would shower, put on something sexy, and call him into the bed. He would say...I am not tired so I will just watch TV in the living room so I dont disturb you. Thats how I got blown off. So I thought it was are schuedules. NOT! He finally started workin regular hours. You know Monday-Friday 8-5. NOPE Still nothing....If I mentioned it then the next day we would have sex. If I dont mention it....months will go by. As of today its been 8 weeks. He is 32 and I am 34. I still feel young and still want to be with him but I feel dead as a women. He is loving, he tells me he loves me, he kissed me good night, he kisses me good morning, he kisses me good bye. He tells me I am sexy, I am beautiful. But there is NO desire for me. I hate that. I have told him that he has to go to the doctor, or do something. I love him but I need more that just a good roommate. We had a huge fight over it this past week. He is also a wonderful father to my kids, and we are in the process of him adopting them, since there real dad has not seen them for over 4 yrs. I just want this part of are marriage to work. He refuses to talk about it, or admit we have a problem. He gets really mad when I bring it up. On the outside we look like such a happy normal couple! People are always say we are sooooo lucky, but I just want to scream...yea happy sex-less couple!!

Ok....I am sooooo confused at this point. I had my fill on June 20th so I am almost 3 weeks after my fill. I have so much restriction now. Can that happen????? I had the hardest time eating this weekend.....everything got stuck....and I would slime, and PB and then eventually throw up. I feel like I am enducing Bulemia. I lost 4 pounds just over the weekend. I couldnt even eat cottage cheese! Can the band get tighter w/ time??? Sandra highest weight 255 Surgery weight 242 current weight 216 goal weight anything under 200

My TOM is late....and No I am not preggers! I am never late! Is it the weight loss???? Well I have had a lot of PB"s lately! Anthing that involves rice is a no no for me. I will suffer without a doubt if I try anything w/ rice. Sad part is that I love rice.....not anymore. We went to the movies yesterday...took my 5 yr old to see Ratatooie??? Not sure on the spelling! Got a medium bag of popcorn, a pickle, and a Icee. I did not touch the Icee, so my daughter drank that all, but we finished the movie and half the pickle was still there and we ate about 1/4 of the bag between the both of us. So strange to leave food behind! Feels like a sin or something. After that we met my husband for Sushi, my all time favorite food. Had a terrible time.....I tried cutting it up in little pieces, but all it did was PB's. I know it was the rice. So I tried eating just the inside of the sushi rolls, but it was too late...once something gets stuck and you start the slimming....you can not eat for a while. So my sushi experience is now damaged! OOOHHHH WELL! Sandra HIghest 255 surgery 242 current 220 goal anything under 200

Julie! You are doing great!!!! YEA JULIE!! I am sooooo excited about having a JAW line!!! I have lost most of my weight in my face and in my boobs! My bra doesnt work anymore....so I had to get new ones. I was wearing a tight 46 DD, and I bought a new one about two weeks ago, because my boobs were looking sooooo sad, they needed some kind of lift. I bought a 40 D. and I can already tell this will be too big too in a month or so. I really would like to loose more of it in my belly, I know I am smaller around the middle because of the way my pants fit, but I still would like to loose more in the middle!LOL I also love the fact that my thighs dont rub as much as they used too!!! Now I am not saying there is a space now down there...just a little more room!!!LOL!! Sandra High 255 surgery 242 current 220 goal under 200

Melissa, That is just beautiful! Close the chapter and start a new one. Sometimes I think about how easy it would be to loose control and eat a whole bag chip w/ some queso! (that was my favorite)I love to crunch and dip!!!LOL!!! I dont want that anymore...I want to be healthy, I want to look healthy! I have not regrets, and feel truely blessed that I have been given this chance, a second chance to LIVE! Sandra Highest weight 255 surgery wieght 242 current weight 220 goal ?????????under 200

SJ, Thanks....but you are also doing great! 21 pounds! Think of it as 21 pounds that you will never see again. The fill will help, but its your mind that really does the hard part "SELF CONTROL"!! Rememeber the slower you loose the less chance you will put it back on! Congrats on your weight loss you deserve a gold star (or something). Sandra Highest weight 255 surgery weight 242 current weight 220 goal 155 would be great, but I will take anything under 200 lbs.

Melissa, Well said or well written! We didnt put all this weight on over night!!! I am also in rush! I want 50 pounds gone NOW or even yesterday would be better! Lets just take are time and do it right. Sandra Highest weight 255 surgery weight 242 current weight 220 goal. 155 would be nice, but I will take anything under 200!!

JULIE, Hey I just noticed that we were banded on the same day in May! May 22, 2007 and that we have both lost the same amount...22 lbs. How funny is that!!! I had my fill almost two weeks ago.!!! I see you would like to loose 100 pounds too!!!!! Are we close to the same weight????? I hope I dont offend you. Just thought it was nice that we are actually on the same boat or on the same page. LOL!! Sandra Highest weight 255 surgery weight 242 current weight 220 goal weight 155 wonderful, but I will take anything under 200 lbs.

Hello to all! I dont have any complaints today. I feel good, actually I feel great. More energy, my clothes are all loose, I have a jaw line again, my thighs are not rubbing as bad, my blood pressure is going down, and the pounds are coming off! Slowly but they are coming off. I am truely happy and awaiting my future weight loss. To change the subject a little, I know that some of you guys watch Big Medicine on Monday nights and someone had made a comment about them probably not showing anyone getting the LAP BAND. Well I saw the previous for next week and they will be showing a possible lap band patient. Apparently her husband doesnt want her to have it because he doesnt like small women. Well its next Monday, on TLC at 8 pm. Have a great 4th of JULY!!! Sandra Highest weight 255 surgery weight 242 current weight 220 goal weight ANYTHING UNDER 200!!!

Sue, Thanks.....I need to hear encouragement! I appreciate it! Sandra Highest weight 255 surgery weight 242 yesterday 220 today 225 goal.....175

ok! I am not a happy camper this morning! I have had all this restriction and not really able to eat that much. Portions have been small, no let me write that again, TINY! I am walking/running two miles everyday except Friday and Satarday. Well I get on the scale and I am up 5 pounds!!! UUUUUGGGG!! I got on it 4 times....same number!!! I am sooooooo upset I want to CRY or eat a greasy cheese burger! OK, at this point I am telling myself to calm the hell down! I did stop taking my diuretic...maybe its water??? My TOM is still 2 weeks away!!! FRUSTRATION has just sunk in!!! UUUUUUUUUUGGGG....AAAAARRRRRR!! Sandra Highest weight 255 surgery weight 242 Yesterday 220 Today 225 goal 175

TAT1TOO Congrats on your success!!! 25 pounds in less than a month!!! That is great....here I am at 5 weeks and have lost 22! You are doing great! Keep up the good work! Sandra Highest weight 255 Surgery weight 242 Current weight 220 goal 175

Laura, Same with me...just a couple of big hiccups and I know I am done. LOL! I find that sooooo funny! I like it though....once I hiccup I gotta drop the fork, push the plate away, and wake away from the table. Congrats on all your weight loss! Sandra Highest weight 255 surgery weight 242 current weight 220 goal 175

Melissa, You are doing soooo great! I am sure after you get your first fill that scale is going to be moving! YEA! I love seeing that scale move! I am at 220 so far...but this morning it was at 218 then 219 before it stayed firm on the 220. So I was just excited that "MY SCALE" was even thinking about those numbers. LOL! For now I pretty much stay full till my next meal....but I know in a couple of weeks it will change. What kind of suggestions did she make for you??? So when I get there I will know what to do. Sandra Highest 255 surgery 242 current 220 goal 175

Well...I had my first fill last Tuesday! I have a lot of restriction....I did liquids for 3 days because I just felt weird on my right side....kinda right underneath my left boob. Like a ache feeling. Well Friday night I tried to eat some mushies and it got stuck so I just gave up. Satarday I tried to have a egg...it got stuck and it was in my chest for hours. That was horrible. Satarday night I had broth and a protein shake. Sunday I had some mexican refried bean....I tried to mix a little of rice with it, and if it had rice it didnt go down, I could just eat the beans by themselves. So I had my Mom make me a big pot of Lentil beans....she makes the beast lentil beans. I figured if I could get beans down I could get Lentil beans down. I have lost 4 more pounds, but my tummy still feels weird. I am real tight in the moring so I just have a protein shake and water. Lunch is here so I am going to try this food thing again. OOOOhhh yea, as soon as I get full I get the hick ups....and body else have that??? Sandra Highest weight 255 surgery weight 242 current weight 220 goal 175

Hmmmmmm the "FULL FEELING"!!! When I first was banded...I would eat three, four bites and then I would feel this weird feeling of food coming back up. Well I would look at my plate and think that this is way less than what I normally eat, so I should be able to get it down......right??? Well I would take one more bite and then be miserable for a couple of minutes while the last bite tried to get down. I would get desperate and start walking around, hell I wanted to jump up and down to see if it would finally go down! LOL! Well about a week ago I lost that feeling, so I knew that it was time for a fill! I got my fill on Wednesday and that feeling is back! YEA!!! Last night my husband had queso and chips....I figured I would take a chip dip it in the queso and lick the queso off....the queso was reall runny so I figured it would be okay! WRONG!!! I thought I was going to DIE!! I ended up throwing up 3 times! Each time the cheese would come up in like a ball!! I was miserable!! First time I have thrown up....and it was different kind of throwing up. NO MORE QUESO FOR ME! Sandra Highest weight 255 surgery weight 242 current weight 225 goal weight 175

I am soooo happy for you Kacee! My weight loss has sorta come to a stand still, but thats the reason for the fill yesterday. I also saw his nurse and had a good experience. So far so good!!!! I got 1.5 cc in my band....so I am hoping to start loosing again. I am doing broths and liquids today and will start on mushies again on Satarday. Fells like we are starting all over again since surgery. I feel great though. Take care!! Sandra Highest weight 255 surgery weight 242 current weight 225 goal weight 175

Well my Dr's nurse said that if I didnt feel any restriction or I guess was still able to eat a lot or was feeling hungry to call her. That she could fill me with something else rather than the saline. Sometimes the saline evaporates faster. I would call and let them know right away. The worst could be that they wont fill you for a couple of more weeks, or the best would be they would fill you again right away. Call them! Sandra Highest 255 surgery 242 current 225 goal 175

I went for my first fill yesterday. I did not see Dr. Spivak, but I was ok with that....his nurse was great. My son went with me to hold my hand and cover my eyes. He was great! She had to stick me twice and dig around alot in there before she was able to get into the port. She said she could tell I had no scar tissure and that he had burried my port just right, but it made it difficult to get in it. The two pricks were like anything else you deal with a needle.....like a quick bee sting, or like when your getting your blood drawn. After that you just feel a lot of pressure....but I kept waiting for it to hurt, but nope, just a lot of pressure. When she reached the port it sound funny. After that I was off to take some kind of X-ray......I drank some white stuff that tasted like strawberry and they took the picture as I stood up against the machine drinking the stuff. I could see the monitor an could see my insides as I drank the stuff. She put 1.5 cc in my band, but I forgot to ask her what size band I got. She told me fluids for 24 hours and then mushies for two days. She said the minute I start getting hungrier between meal, and am eating more to call for another fill. She want to make sure I get to my sweet spot. HIghest weight 255 surgery weight 242 current weight 225 goal weight 175

COUNT DOWN TO FIRST FILL.....2.5 HOURS!!! Ok, I am a littel terrified, I have hear good things and bad. My son who is 10 and is my strong one is going with to hold my hand during the whole thing. My baby is soooo sweet. My husband said whats he gonna do drive you home if you dont feel well,,,,,,haha! My son will just be there for support! I was not afraid of the surgery, but funny how I am afraid of the FILL. I have never really had much port pain, but since yesterday it hurts. I bend down to tie my shoes and it hurt, and then I rolled over in bed and it hurt. I think its my mind playing tricks on me! LOL! Well I will let you guys know of my "FILL EXPERIENCE". Wish me luck, heck just pray I dont pass out when I see the needle coming! LOL! Sandra Highest Weight 255 surgery weight 242 current weight 227....I gained 2 pounds!! goal weight 175

Well let me know how it goes. I am excited to meet my fellow banded brothers and sisters! LOL!! Wish I could go tonight, but I will make arrangements for next Tuesday. :clap2:

OMG!!! I am sooooooo excited for you.....you must feel amazing! I just cant wait till I can say I am 199....I probably would throw a party!!!!! Congrats Kacee!!!:clap2: Sandra Highest weight 255 Surgery Weight 242 current weight 225 goal weight 175

I really wanted to go, but I have my 5 yr. old daughter w/ me today at work. I work close to the Med-Center, but live close to Baytown, so it would be to hard to take her all the way home. I wonder if I take her with me it would be a problem??? Are you going??? My first fill in tomorrow....very excited! Have you been to the support group yet??? Sandra

Well I was banded on May 22, 2007. I only told my parents, and my co-workers, and my two best friends. These are the people I am closest too. My two best friends, one is heavy and one is not. The heavy one keeps pointing out all the negatives of the surgery. The thin one is supportive but asks me every day how much weight have I lost. Its gonna a be a gradual thing so its kind of annoying. At work everyone is like, can you eat that??? and how much have you lost today!!! If I happen not to loose that day then they say negative things. So keep it easy and only tell people that you have too.....after you tell them you cant UN-TELL them. I dont like people watching my every meal and move of the day. Sandra Highest weight 255 surgery w

Well my fellow A-May-Zing bandsters. Tomorrow will be 4 weeds since I was banded. I feel great, and I have lost 17 pounds. I know that it is time for a Fill, and I have that scheduled on this Wednesday. I see that a lot of you are still waiting after 4 or 5 weeks for a fill. I on the other hand can eat everything....as long as I chew and eat real slow everything goes down. At first I would eat 5 small bites and would be totally full and would be satisfied till my next meal. Now its taking long for me to fill up, so my Doc said it was time for my first fill. I am excited to see more weight come off, but I am scared of the needle. Do take one prick or two???? That is the question till Friday at least!! LOL!! I am very happy with the band an hope to continue this journey with that state of mind. NO REGRETS AT ALL! Wish me luck on Wednesday! Sandra Highest weight 255 Surgery weight 242 current weight 225 goal weight 175