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Thanks getting closer everyday ready to become a butterfly

So I am 9days away from the surgery that I've worked so hard the past 7months to get. Instead of feeling excited about my new life, I'm overwhelmed with a sea of emotions. I'm having a really hard time with the support of people I thought would be there. One of my close friends inperticular is on my last nerve, with comments on how I shouldn't do this surgery. Honestly it's not just her, my fiancé, some of my family and a lot of my friends voice concern. What kills me is they all have seen me struggle with weight my entire life. They keep saying "you've lost the weight before, why can't you do it again" and I have lost 50lbs or more at a time but it always comes back. I cant make them understand that i need this. Im dedicated but I'm scared, I'm hurting and I'm an emotional wreck because of all this stress. Add to that im on a two week liquid prep and i feel like im going out of my mind. I feel like I'm fighting all this alone and it's really depressing. Have any of you been through this before surgery? How did you cope? Is all this going to be worth all this fighting? Ugh this is suppose to be a happy time a joyous time a new beginning but I feel like I'm just stuck. Advice?

Yes Arcus, I did the psych eval and passed with flying colors. I know this is the best des ion for me and I'm happy/thrilled/anxious/nervous/scared lol the whole set of emotions but I really think I'm ready ! Thanks proudgrammy it is an awesome feeling and it's getting stronger everyday ! I'm ready to rock this surgery 6 days left ! Happy Thanksgiving to all my friends, love you guys thanks for the continual support

Wow Ms. BMarion, Im so sorry for your loss. Its horrible to lose someone so young and with children to boot, its heart breaking. Im lucky my parents are on board but my fiance, my best friend, and a lot of close friends are not. Im doing much better. Ive met a lot of people on this site who are such a blessing and uplifting. Everyday we get stronger! Congrats on making a great descion for yourself, stay strong chica

Hey Bear! Getting Better and Staying strong. Taking out all my frustrations at the gym and just counting down. Thanks for checking on me

Good Luck! Praying for you! Stay Strong

LOL, sounds awesome Fun! Way to go on your weight Loss

Cant make it tonight but would love to come to the one on the 18th. Im on the westside. Thats awesome that your here in Jax too Please send me the info

Amazing! Way to GO!!!

Congrats Good Luck! Let us know after surgery that your ok! Prayers for ya!

I dont attend any groups. Im here is Jacksonville, FL I really am thinking about attending some though, i had thought I was going to have enough support from my family and friends, lol WRONGO

I want to Thank Everyone from the bottom of my heart that has replied to this thread. Last night after I wrote this, I laid in bed and cried and prayed. I really tried to wrap my mind around everything. When I woke up this morning, I had a whole new perspective. I realized that no matter what you do in life someone is not going to approve. These same people that are judging me about having the surgery are the same people that judge me about my being overweight. So today I'm saying YOLO (you only Live once) and raising my Middle finger in the air, it's time to do this and focus on me for once. Seeing all of you guys positive messages made my morning. I laughed and smiled and knew today was going to be a great day because of them. We are all so lucky to have each other and this site. Thank you guys, Thanks for being there when no one else is. You guys are amazing and wonderful and I pray God blesses you all in your journey to a healthier life. So here's to all of us and where we are heading and what we are doing

Good Luck and Stay Strong !

You know, I thought that too but... Sigh I don’t know some of them are skinny. I just wish they understood what I am going through. My fiancé isn’t 100% on board either. Its hard to explain the reasons why I need this surgery. I just wish they were there for me. I really am wishing I didn’t say anything till post surgery, but my sister did that and kept everything a secret before and after and she kind of went nuts the first 2-3 months post surgery. She said there was a lot of social awkwardness because no one knew. SMH guess its just all part of it. Im sticking with my choice and am super excited about it.

Im lucky my parents were very supportive but my mom is crazy worried. Im having trouble with my friends. None of them understand. Ive battled this weight my entire life, Ive yo-yo for as long as I can remember. Ive been as small as a 12 as big as a 28. Its only got worse as I get older. They tell me this is a lazy way to do it and I should just diet and exercise, (like I didnt know what I need to do). My other favorite answer or dig is when they say why do you have to do something so drastic I mean youve lost the weight before *SMH* I just want to scream yeah Ive lost it all before and gained it all right back obviously this is the only shot I got and being drastic is my only hope to changing my life. At least we all have each other on here

Sleeve date is November 20th. I live in jacksonville, fl. Any tips would love any and all comments. I'm nervous and excited.

I'm on the 20th, getting close. Super excited and nervous!