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Good luck to you. I had a really bad experience with his office staff and decided to change hospitals. If the staff are rude to you don't take it personally, that's how they are to everyone. I know a lot of people had a great experience and hopefully you will too.

I've just never thought of food that way. I think I'm already over grieving certain foods. I feel somewhat better now. I just want to start a new life!

Anyone else feel like they got depressed before surgery? Maybe because I don't have a date yet and it seems like it's just taking forever to get there. I am just so sick of it, I just want it to be over so I can get on with my new life.

Wrong thread.

The only people who are "colored" are people with tattoos!

If you have already quit, why start again? I get it. I'm a "chipper", I like to have one here and there. And I had to stop. I'm using nicorette but it's just not the same. My program keeps telling me that smoking causes ulcers. And our sleeves are so small that an ulcer can make it impossible to eat, and then you end up hospitalized with an IV.

I know and this winter has been so bad. I am so beyond tired of it! I keep having to find care for my daughter because of snow days or leave work early. And I'll probably have to again today. I just want it to stop. Thanks for your help. I think I've been through so much (two years of fighting the ins co and changing hospitals) and I've dieted and failed so many times I just don't know whys to do with myself.

Has he thought about having the surgery?

I'll take as long as I can get. I have paid short term disability. I plan on at least three if not four weeks. One thing is I really want to get into my routine and also where I work people bring in bagels and donuts and stuff almost every day. I just want to be further along so I don't have to see all that right after surgery.

Is your husband overweight?

Ha! Yes I'm sure it will get a lot!!!

Maybe have a party when you reach your goal weight!

Awesome!!! Did you buy anything?

Honestly when I lose weight it makes me uncomfortable when people comment. And I don't say anything to other people who lose weight because I think it's rude. Because seriously what if the reason they are losing weight is because they have cancer? I think a lot if people take it like "oh so I didn't look good before huh?"

I saw one of your pics and I think you might have some body image issues. Don't we all? You look beautiful even with blurred out eyes. You realize even Demi Moore doesn't look like Demi Moore right? She has had so much plastic surgery and Botox, and then there's photoshop to help her look shiny and new. I think the deal is it's in your head and you thought losing weight would make your head issues go away. But I think Demi Moore probably frets about aging and her body, or else she wouldn't have plastic surgery and Botox. Before and after pics: http://www.slideshare.net/techblogshare/demi-moore-plastic-surgery-before-and-after-photos

I think it might be like having a baby. You can research and read and talk about it until you are blue in the face but until you actually have the baby you don't know how you are going to feel. And you are glad you had her but it sucks too!! That's how I'm seeing it preop. I'm curious though, I thought pizza would be a no no because it's not enough Protein?

I have noticed that a lot of surgery candidates just don't do anything with their hair, make up or try to wear nice clothes. So they go from wearing t shirts, with blah hair, no make up and a look on their face like "please don't take my picture" to wearing hot clothes, cute jewelry, great stylish hair, great make up, getting teeth whitened, tanning, and smiling hugely. You sound like you already took pains to look polished and hot so you aren't going to have that same difference in the after pics.

Another reason not to tell, at least for me is this. The one time in my life I was open about losing weight I was on Weight Watchers and the meetings were at work. We tend to have a lot of good days here with really tempting food. One day I just really felt like I couldn't stay away and so I declined going to the food day lunch they had. My boss asked me and I said I was just not in the mood to be around a lot of food I couldn't have. She tried to argue jokingly. She is overweight. So almost everyone went to the room on their lunch breaks except me. She called me at my desk and told me to go up there. It's sabotaging stuff like that and all jealousy and cattiness that I want to avoid. You have every right not to share this and it's not lying.

Just tell them due to Hippa laws you weren't allowed to share! I think if someone I worked with was off and started losing weight I wouldn't want to pester them and honestly it's none of my business. If they don't have anything better to worry about than your surgery then their lives must be really boring.

I've noticed those of us who need the surgery tend to have bad boundaries and want to please people. Honestly I'm not going to tell many people because I have enough to think about and worry about. I don't need to have other people questioning every thing I eat and do. Or keeping track of how much I lose; or asking a ton of questions. You don't owe it to anyone to reveal your medical history, just like your coworkers don't owe it to you to tell you that they had their tubes tied or their gall bladder out. It's none of their business!

I really don't care what a bunch of gym rats who are obsessed with their looks think of the surgery. For gods sake, one of the guys has his penis size listed in his signature. Many of them take steroids or other supplements that aren't good for you. Is that the easy way out? They just don't get that some people are hungry all the time, that once you have yo yo dieted for ten years your body won't let you lose weight. Guys who hang out online talking about how big their muscles are aren't usually the brightest. Why cares? One of them even said he will still look better than anyone who has the surgery so it doesn't bother him. Clearly much of the focus is on looks and not health.

I think you should turn this around right now. You are helping them by showing them that there is hope! You are setting a good example. It's really common for people in a family of obese people to start a waterfall of weight loss surgery. You are just the first one.

You don't have to answer this question but were you sexually abused as a child? Please get some help, you should t have to feel bad about losing weight! Why do you feel guilty? Do you have over weight friends that you feel you are leaving behind?

There's nothing worse than guys in college. I'm so sorry that happened to you. They are idiots. I lived in a college town for a long time and was often hooted and hollered at for various reasons. One time I was literally wearing a huge long coat, boots, a huge hat and scarf. I could have been a man. It was freezing and these idiots still honked the horn and screamed and hollered at me. It's a stupid thing that young men do to feel better about themselves, whether they are dying you are fat or are whistling at women both are meant to make you feel like you are less than human and just an object. So what you are fat? That's like them saying "you are blonde! Hey you are blonde!" Um ok???? As you know you can lose weight but they can't grow their tiny penises any bigger. It's easy to scream at people from behind the wheel of a car if you are an insecure idiot. Honestly after your surgery you will probably have boys hooting at you for being hot. That's what they do. I would keep a phone and next time that happens start videoing them and tell then you will put it on YouTube and Facebook.

My last talk with the incredibly skinny counselor at the program has me feeling down. I need encouragement I guess. Going over twenty years of failure and bad choices is depressing enough. Going over my perfect storm of reasons for getting here is not a good feeling. I told her there are days when I just feel like I'm hungry no matter what I do. And it was like she didn't believe me. She said I'm either not eating enough or not eating at the right intervals or I'm not eating the right foods. So I started thinking if that's the case why exactly do I need this surgery? I told her I look forward to not being hungry and she said that I would feel hungry if I did it right eventually. I don't want to feel hungry. Again why have the surgery? She said that some people look so forward to finally eating solid food and then they feel depressed that they could only eat a few bites. I would be ecstatic! To finally feel like I'm in control of food would be amazing. It was just a bizarre talk, I don't know if she was testing me or what. She just made it seem like if I really wanted to I could do it without the surgery. What in the world?