Pelekania

Are you going with Dr. Garcia?

So I am now scheduled and have paid my deposit...I am sooo ready to be on the losing bench and starting a new Chapter!

Yes, who are you going to?

Dr. Garcia

What payment methods do RAC take for deposit? Thanks!

To pick up a few extra hours for Christmas, I worked in a department that I do not work in on my normal work days. Soooo of course I am a new face and to make time pass, this young gentleman and I started chatting about any and everything. Well into the conversation, he makes the comment.. "you have a cute face." Moving on to the next day, an older gentleman from the same department tells me "you have a really pretty face" and since then every time he sees me he calls me "lady with the pretty face." Now to get on to my rant...hehe Why can't people just compliment you, instead of specifying what exactly they are complimenting. For me, instead of hearing the supposed compliment, I hear an insult as well. I know I am not the only one that have experienced this. What are some compliments/ insults that you received while you were bigger that could have been taken as an insult? I will list a few. They say.... I hear(interpret).... You have a pretty face. Your body is busted. You dress nice, considering your size. I interpret: Big people cannot dress. Did HE just try and talk to your? I interpret: Why isn't he interested in me, I'm smaller? Girl, you better take what you can get! I interpret: Being big makes me not have a preference??

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We can be sleeve buddies! I am going in March during my Spring Break.

Hey Sade, I am also going to be going alone...I don't want to, but I will. I am in school, so I plan on having my surgery during our Spring Break week (March 10).

You can't try and give the Lord a deadline...you will ALWAYS set yourself up for failure! And remember that the same thing that you prayed to our Lord about, Satan hears it as well. Satan wants us to be discouraged, feeling hopeless, and defeated (that's what's going to happen if you stay overweight), but rebuke that spirit and walk into that blessing that the Lord has for you. All you need is a date...and then you will be on to a longer, healthier life! May God give you a peace about your surgery!

It saddens me that you feel that way and had to experience that....you are VERY beautiful. But I know that even though you may receive plenty of compliments it does not change how you feel and see yourself. The culprit are the comments you receive at a very early age from your father. Have you thought about going to counseling to help you deal with the way you see yourself?

Thanks! I don't even talk to her about it anymore. We stay in different states so when she does see me (I visit her family at least twice a year), it will definitely be LESS! My boyfriend is super supportive...he's helping my pay for it (self pay in Mexico). But I wish I could talk to my sister and she'd understand considering how close we are. My boyfriend eats however and whatever he wants and stays muscular lean...no one who really understands what I am going through...glad I have VST!

Connie3 I pray and wish you the best of luck! Sometimes we have to do what we have to do. And it could be that you husband wish for you to stay the same as you are because as your body decrease, your confidence/ self esteem will increase.

Definitely feels like backhanded compliments! "Drinking backing grease" lol I hate it when people ask me if I have anything to snack on and are pleasantly surprised when I am like no, I do not carry a glove compartment full of little Debbie Snacks and I do not have quarter pounders and fries in my purse! Love seeing their reaction.

You are so right, we are expected to deal with it. Society believes that they can say anything to us because it's our fault, right?? Well they are wrong...dead wrong! No one just wake up one morning and be like, "Hey, you know what I am going to eat everything in sight...all of the fat and its trimmings!" When I decided to have surgery, I confided in my sister and expressed how I wanted her to be with me when I did it (we are really close). Well you can imagine did not go how I expected it to go. I have struggled with weigh all my life...have always been bigger than others. Well her response was why did I want to go and why can't I just discipline myself enough and stay with a workout plan while being on a low calorie diet...losing 1-2 pds a week? I got heated as the conversation continued to go downhill from that point and then stated to her that I pray that she never gets overweight or obese. And than she replied, "Oh, I would NEVER let myself get THAT BIG!" lol shoot me where I stand. I can definitely see the jealousy...never thought about it that way. And people will never be satisfied about how we look...it will always be something. You are getting too small... I think I will say... "Don't hate, appreciate the finer things!" And wait for their reaction. haha

It's funny and not at the same time. We could definitely be reading more into the comment than necessary, but I don't really think so because when you hear someone compliment a smaller person...it just sounds different. I have never been much of a dater or had too many boyfriends. And one family gathering another person had asked me why such a pretty lady different have one and my grandmother (she had a little too much to drink) proceeds to answer for me and say because she has a problem with her weight. How did she come to that conclusion? Like why couldn't me loving being single and traveling be the truth. Plus I don't take everyone I meet over to chat with my family.