Nya

Girl, keep your head up. My ex husband started dating my ex friend. She wasn't a friend I already know, because a friend wouldn't do that, but, when she needed me I was there for her. Then she betrayed me by dating my husband behind my back. She played games and told lies to him about me dating someone and I had no idea what he was talking about when we argued. She was miserable in her marriage and I would tell her to confront her husband and stop beating around the bush. She would say how happy we looked and how could I be so secure and not worry about where he was or what he was doing when he wasn't with me. I never ran behind anyone like that. I believe it's great to be in love, but you must have a life of your own. This bitch decided she wanted what was mine and he was the type of person that I learned later would go with a hole in the wall as long as his penis fit in the hole. If I knew then what I know now, I wouldn't have given him the time of day. Divorce was a blessing for me. She and I were both fat. I always knew how to lose some weight, but not significant amounts. She would say, 'wow, you've lost a little weight --how?' I would say 'Oh, I'm doing Slim Fast now!!!' She would say 'OK, I'm going to do that too, but I have to eat a pack of Oreos with it because I can't just do the shake alone'. She posted on myspace how happy they are and what a fat ass I am that's why he is with her and everyone knows that I am bigger than she is. So very juvenile, and he is posing with her children like one big happy family. This is because when we separated I told him there would be no ins and outs and if he chose to date people that I used to be acquainted with, I would have no part in this. We have 2 children that he has not seen in over 6 years and does not put forth the effort. Not only was he a cheater, he was a big liar and extremely physically and mentally abusive. He once spat in my face when I asked him why was he treating me like this. He balled up his fist and told me to leave HIS house right now! At the time I had 2 small children and a one year old and a newborn. He took their clothes and threw them out in the snow and told me he hated me. I was a miserable wreck. 300 lbs, and desperately wanting to be loved. He did all this because he was getting a new piece of ass. Wow, if I knew then what I know now. I know you feel betrayed. I had to gather myself and focus. Focus on my small kids and my older kids, I had 2 daughters when I met him. He was the best thing since sliced bread. He wined and dined me, and wouldn't leave my side at one time. He practically stalked me to be with me. Following me home once from a nightspot that me and my friends would frequent. I would never talk to him or give him my number. So when I did maybe after 6 or 7 years of him begging, I thought perhaps this is my Mr. Right. I never thought he would be so mean to me. I ended up having to get a restraining order. Nobody knows exactly what I went through with him. No matter what, I will tell the truth even to my children because this is what actually happened to me. There is so much hell, I am blessed to be alive to talk today after 2 back to back cesarean sections and him attacking me when my baby was 2 weeks old. Throughout all of this madness, I managed to regroup and go on. You can do it. The lap band helped me regain control of my eating and put some of the issues on the back burner that weren't so important like...food. That statement that my ex friend wrote when she devoted her whole myspace page to me 'everybody knows her fat ass is bigger than me!' Well, let's just say, I weigh 190 lbs and she is closer to 400 lbs now. People in the street say, "WOW look at you, you look great!!!" "I am suprised at your ex for choosing her over you!" He has receeded tremendously and is still a horrible alcohlic that is undercover gay and she looks like a reject ghetto Ms. Piggy that wears cheap stretchy clothes with kool aid red hair and fake flourescent fingernails and cankles. A match made in heaven. Kermit and Ms. Piggy. Revenge is Sweet! Keep your head up and PRAY...Talk to God, he will listen. Tell him what you want, even if it is your relationship back because no one can tell you how you feel about your man, he will lead your heart in the right direction or at least give you the strength to make the right decisions even if it is through this forum or counseling.

Maybe my symptoms are psycho somatic but I think when I am bloated, I can't eat, I KNOW when my period is coming because I begin to vomit violently any and everything. Even if I eat a few chips, my vomit will overwhelm them and I will vomit them up with a ton of saliva. I will still have the normal 5 lbs of fluid retention, but afterward I will lose it and feel fine. Does anyone have this problem too?:biggrin::rolleyes2::rolleyes3:

Maybe my symptoms are psycho somatic but I think when I am bloated, I can't eat, I KNOW when my period is coming because I begin to vomit violently any and everything. Even if I eat a few chips, my vomit will overwhelm them and I will vomit them up with a ton of saliva. I will still have the normal 5 lbs of fluid retention, but afterward I will lose it and feel fine. Does anyone have this problem too?:thumbup::biggrin::biggrin:

YES I'm happier, I am sorry to say this but, if you have lost only 2 lbs after a year, then you may be eating refined sugars and things that are easy that slip thru the band, chocolate candy bars, hard candy, cakes, Cookies, chips, pudding, shakes, those things are so easy to eat, believe you me, I know because I did not lose weight until I left that stuff alone and started focusing on what I should be doing. I am not in any way being judgmental I know how hard it is I was 5 feet tall 290+ lbs. I did not lose any weight for at least 3 months after my band, in fact I started to gain weight. I was in denial and I knew how to get full regardless of the band. Now I love it and I am doing what I have to do. It's a tool. Not a quick fix, it's just something to help us. Maybe you need gastric bypass or a sleeve. There are other Bariatric Opttions. Good luck! Keep your head up!

My weight started to come off when I got my 3rd fill at 7cc and started working out so around the first of the year of 2008. I had my surgery July 2007 and it was very slow then I did what the doctor said and started working out, walking, every chance I got, and actually eating right. At first I was so hungry, I would eat chips and candy to fill up and I wasn't losing any weight. I would pretend I didn't know why but to be honest, refined sugars slip through. It's hard for me to digest Proteins, chicken, fish and beef. I usually throw them up. It feel like they sit in front of the band and never digest. Different people lose weight differently. I know some people that took diet pills I feel like I already have a diet pill. The surgery. So I am going to continue to work with that. Good luck Nyoki

I am so happy where I am, I don't feel like the 800 lb gorilla in the room anymore. People that used to say 'Ol fat ass', well, I am smaller than they are now and I don't hear that anymore. Neither do I gloat because I know that when I was dieting and preparing for my surgery and miserable, they were eating, fattening foods, chips, soda, candy bars, and at restaurants eating chicken, burgers, doughnuts, pizza. I stuck to what I had to do. It's amazing, the people that were adorning them with compliments and overlooked me as if I didn't exist all of a sudden by osmosis are overlooking them and noticing me. I say nothing but know that I am that same 'fat' girl that you dissed at the club that sat all night, holding the coats and purses. HELL yeah I am happier, my waistline is now a 34 from a 51. I went from a 24-26 to a now 14 - 16 depending on the clothing. I can't begin to tell you how good I feel. My ex's girlfriend posted a whole myspace page devoted to me because she once was my friend and started dating my husband. Before she knew I lost weight, she had the caption on this page, 'Everybody knows she's a fat ass that is bigger than me!!!' I put my new pictures upon my myspace page. She has to be hitting 375 lbs while I am more than a hundred lbs slimmer than she is. I feel great! My ex was abusive mentally and physically and that was the reason I was nearly 300 lbs. I feel so good, I started modeling again and let go of the comfort of using the phrase BBW.

I have found that my back hurts when there is undigested food above the band (I think) It's just sitting there, not moving, I have vomitted hours later and felt better. I don't know what it is but the pain is dull and in the center, by my spine. A couple of nights I have had to get up, walk, drink water to overfill in order to vomit what has packed down and I have felt instantly better! I don't know if this is a solution but this has helped me tremendously.