missrose59

hi I live in Marin county and had surgery at Kaiser in January 2013. I was only a few pounds to goal and then let life get in the way and started going back to old habits. If anyone lives near me or would just like to help me get back on track I would really appreciate it. I am 55 and want so badly to hit goal. I know I can do this but could really use some help. thank you, Marcia

I really needed to read this today! I was feeling so down about my weight loss. I think following some of the groups on facebook and reading about everyones success just made me depressed. I started at 232, and weighed 195 the day of surgery 1/16/13. I have only lost 23lbs since surgery. I had been the same to the ounce for two weeks then gained 9 ounces!! I guess it will come off when it is supposed to. I also know I need to start working out. I dont know why it seems so hard to get started. I feel like Im eating so little I guess that is what makes it so hard. Thanks for the post. It makes me feel better, I felt like maybe I was doing something wrong. I guess we all lose at different rates. Good luck to us all Marcia

Thank you Lota, and everyone for wishing me well. I had a couple of rough days not due to the surgery, but mentally just felt sad and wondered if I had done the right thing. It was really srtange because I thought I was prepared for anything. The depression was a surprise, I think i was actually morning the loss of my stomache and dealing with no longer having control over my body. I couldnt just say I would do better tomorrow, and I so wanted to share in the community of eating with my family. But by the 3rd day It passed I felt so much better and then all the good feelings for why I did this returned. Physically I feel really good. It was much easier than I expected, not much pain. I did gain 12 lbs but that was off after 4 days. I dont expect to lose weight as quickly as others one because my weight the day of surgery was 195 and 2 because I have never lost real quickly so long as it comes off I will be happy. Im very happy to be on this side of the journey and hope you are all doing great!!! Keep in touch Marcia

tomorrow I will join you all!!! Im a little nervous but reading all your posts really helps. Hope you all continue to feel well... wish me luck Marcia

Hi I live in Greenbrae (N.Bay), I am scheduled for surgery on1/16. I wish I was in the east bay there are so many more options for work out groups. Have you ever looked at the meetup groups? There is a group I think its called WOW team its a womens walk run group, it sound great. But you should check out the meetup.com site there are really alot of options to find others in fitness. good luck

Hello, my surgery is Jan 16. I was nervous but have come to terms with it the last couple of days. I too have been shopping for things I will need. As icon23 stated Im being careful not to over buy in case I cant tolerate a certain Item. Really wishing the best for everyone. Hope to hear good news for all in the coming months

Hi, my surgery is on January 16. Im scared too. Its especially hard because everyone has an opinion. My family is also scared and hearing there fears doesnt make it easier. But i do understand they just love me. Just the way I am. What they arent thinking of now is that just the way I am is not healthy. So scared or not I have made peace with it. I know its the right thing and I have to leave it in gods hands. I hope you find that peace for yourself. Good luck and god bless whatever you decide

I would love it if there was a support group in San Rafael!! Let me know if you start anything or know of anything local. I am in Greenbrae Marcia

hey would anyone want to start a little social support group. I think getting together at a coffee shop or anywhere we could just meet and support each other would be fun and we could get information from each other. I am asking because im finding it hard to find support groups outside of the hospital where I am having my surgery....I live in Greenbrae but dont have any problem traveling to any place in the bay area. If anyone has any other suggestions for other support groups please let me know Thanx, Marcia

Happy Thanksgiving everyone!! I am so thankful for this site Marcia

I totally agree Trish, I have searched online but really havent found much I will post anything I find. Hope you are doing well. Marcia

I am so excdited I finally got the ok for sugery, should be getting a date real soon. congrats to all those who are having their surgery in the next couple of weeks. Can people please list any other support groups available in our area. I will be going to Richmond Kaiser, but it would be nice to attend other support groups and to maybe meet some of you. Good luck to everyone and Happy Holiday Marcia

Hello gina, I am 53 and feel the same way and have a lot of the same questions. I hope this group gets going and we can get some answers. I am cleared for surgery and hope to be haveing it sometime in December. I will keep following this group to see if we get any answers. good luck to you. Marcia

5'2 and 199lbs, started at 231. I wear a loose size 16 pants and a large or some xl tops. I have just been cleared for sugery. So I am hoping before Christmas!

hello Meegan, there is a WLS support group in SF through a meetup board. It is the first Saturday of each month. I will be attending the Richmond Kaiser support group and that one I believe is twice a month on the 1st and 3 wednsdays of the month. If you find any other local support groups please share. I live in Greenbrae. Thanx, :)Marcia

Cant wait to hear all about it I am so excited for you!! I hope I am right behind you. It will be nice to share and help each other through all the ups and downs. Now we really need to try and meet before your surgery. Is this going to interfere with your trip to Texas? Good luck with everything. Talk to you tomorrow Marcia

I am so excited for you. When did you get the news? I called again today to see if I had been ok'd but only got to leave message don't know if they are closed for holiday. Let me k ow how everything goes! !!! Congrats Marcia

Good luck I will be praying for you to have a speedy recovery........ Please keep us posted. Marcia

I loved the thought that went into this letter. I cant even get that far because if Im honest, I am afraid. Im afraid of what I may look like after the weight is off. Im afraid of not being able to enjoy dinners with my husband or family. Im also afraid of the surgery itself. I didnt think about any of this until I read your letter. Or if I did I wasnt sure what it was. I normally have no problem following a structured diet and I find myself struggling. I think Im wanting my family to say they approve that thet beleive I can do this. When the truth is I need to believe I can do it.....and I know I can. I just need to get back to that place where I felt so positive. I dont know if this is normal. I am very close to getting a surgery date. I wish you the best of luck, I think you are going to do great. I hope that I can turn things around and get back to the mental state you are at. As for gaining the weight back, I think that going through the whole journey and getting to goal puts you in a different mind frame. You can do this! Good Luck, Marcia sorry if I rambled Im just getting pre surgery nerves

Trish, Thank you so much for your words. It helps to hear someone who has been through it and is so upbeat, even with your problems. I was contemplating putting off my psych appoint. tomorrow but Im going to keep it. You gave me the incentive to continue this journey....I wont lie Im a little scared but I know I can do this Thank you again, Marcia

I hope you feel better soon....your weight loss is great! Im so happy to hear you speaking about Richmond being so good. I keep going back and forth on the whole thing. My family is really against it recently. They think because Ive lost weight once again I should be able to continue on my own. They dont understand that I feel to reach my healthiest weight that this tool would really help. I think some think that because I am 53, I shouldnt risk the surgery. But because I am 53, I feel I need to do this now instead of later. I thought about this years ago and then didnt do it because of what others thought. So I am trying to stay motivated. I have learned alot about my triggers, I am definatly an emotional eater. Im kinda bummed because the last couple days havent done to good on diet. Today was really bad. It just feels like I blew a whole wee of doing good in two days.....But tomorrow I hope to be back on track.....Good luck to you and thank you, your words give me confidence to continue the journey.. Marcia

Hi Jules, my week was really busy. I was not able to make the appointment so I have been rescheduled. I believe it is Nov 14, if you are interested. I think Im going to need a new car. I hate going through that whole process, and I love my old car. My psych appointment is this coming Wednsday. Ive lost a couple pounds so Im feeling good about that. The only thing that has me a little down is that so many people keep saying I shouldnt be doing this because of my age....I just dont see why age should matter, Im doing this to be healthier. I know they mean well but they make me feel like I should give up....But I wont, age has always just been a number for me. How are you doing, and how was your week? I hope you are doing well and feeling positive about the process. Marcia

Yes I am having a good week, Im home so that is good. Hope you are having a better week too. I will be at the support group on the 7th too! I will let you know what tomorrows class is like. Im nervouse about getting weighed, but oh well. I guess there are going to be ups and downs. It just really made me think, after the surgery I cant eat the wrong thing just because Im not home. I need to be more prepared. Big commitment!!!! Marcia

hey Jules or tatertotz, have either of you been to the Bariatric lifestyles class. I have it tomorrow its a 2 hour class, just wondered what it was exactly. If either one of you have gone let me know. I didnt realize it was one of the requirements before surgery date until I read the binder again. I also will be attending the next support group if either of you are going let me know, this also is required.... thanx Marcia

thanx, Ill try that. hopefully I will be ready soon. I just want to get started before the holidays, I think it would be easier. Have you checked out you tube there is a blog I follow called, proof weight loss surgery works. It is very motivating. If you havent you should check it out. Keep in touch. I would like to know when you get your surgery date. There are 3 of us here going to Richmond Kaiser, and at about the same stage it would be nice to follow each other and maybe even get together at some point.... Marcia