TiDubb

I hear what you are saying and agree with you; however, it is easier said than done. It is not so much of letting other people dictate how you feel or about having low self esteem. I think, in my case, I had to come to terms that I allowed myself to get where I was at and struggled with accepting that I could not do it on my own. So when you are feeling like that and you tell people and if their reaction is not positive-it kind of reaffirms that feeling. So, if you don't want to feel that uncomfortable feeling then you choose not to tell. I recently jumped off the cliff and told my two closest friends (mind you I shared with my husband, mom, and a small select few). I knew there reaction was not going to be one of jumping for joy for me. They are very active in exercise (I use to be active with them: running, cycling, etc.) so naturally their belief is I could have done it the old fashion way. When I told them...they were silent: cricket-cricket. Even though I was prepared for their reaction I was disappointed that they proved me right. They said just that, you could have done it on your own. I told them no, honestly I couldn't and I tried. It felt really good to defend my decision and be okay with their reaction. We are still friends- I have been friends with them a long time and the truth of the matter is I didn't NEED their support--I just wanted it. So I said all that to say, yes you are right in that it is our decision, our right, our body, and our life. Yet, their is a story behind the feelings and it is up to each person to confront them and be okay. Also, keeping it quiet for a little while is not always a bad thing. You keep the negativity at bay while you are focusing on a new healthy "you". Whew...did not mean for this to be so long. I hope this helps others who are struggling with this issue.

Just experienced the upset stomach for the first time today. It is definitely no fun. I had to pull over on my way to work as I thought I was going to vomit. Ugh! It seems my Breakfast kicked things off and it has continued through lunch. On a brighter note: I am glad this website exists as this is the first place I came to in order to find out if this was normal or if someone else has experienced it.

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I'm 43 and have no regrets about being sleeved. My surgery was Sept. 10th and I feel great. I am at the 20 loss mark.

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