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No they can't adjust them because I am one of the few that the meds only take the edge off.....I have been to many meetings about depression and it is always the same thing..Some people it really helps. Some people meds don't help at all and then there is me that no matter what I take it just takes the edge off....

Welcome to the losers bench..You are so right..3 pieces just may be too much for at least the first 6 - 8 months...after that well....if you return to your old habits..You can do it...please don't though...Seems to me that you are very serious about your new goals and life..... Most sleeves do not like oils or fats like deep frying anything...it is sad but true.... Once again congrats!

I have had problems concentrating ever since I left the hospital...i have not been able to write one word in my unfinished novels or stories and have not written 1 poem since I came home..I know part of it is because of the coma lost some memory..I can't even watch much TV and have not touched a book in months... I am always watching this forum and reading food porn.... Have been spending the last 2 hours looking for a lost pair of earrings....So far they have not appeared....Still looking must go back to the task at hand.....oops... should get some Water first...ah forget it...totally mixed up....crap!

You should be smiling in your update pic girl...you look so different..congrats to you!

Always exciting to lose those old pairs of pants or jeans..All the best to your hubby, and you keep up the good work ...K

If veteran means to goal..I am not one..But I am over 1 year out....Listening to your sleeve is one of the most important things you must do....You need to feel your sleeve as well. Taking smaller sips will help...As time goes by you will almost be able to drink as you did before.....for now...Better to put the glass down after each sip and then pick it back up again.Don't hold it in your hands. When eating do the same.Put your fork down after every bite and it gives you time to chew and swallow with little or no pain.... Try a small fork or spoon...Also when you drink, do not fill your mouth with the Water by take in a sip, hold it and try to think of the process of swallowing..And then do it....It will be come natural to you and just when you have it figured out your drinking capacity will improve....hope this helps!

You are totally off the wall..Never change okay..lol

My daughter took 3 pairs of jeans from me this weekend..that only gave me a couple pairs of pants left...I begged my hubby to take me to the store to get some smaller jeans so that I would be prepared for the next size down...He did...I bought all 14-16 pants... Today for fun I put one of the pair of 16 brown cords on and they FIT....with no compression garment either...I hardly ever wear them at home....Lets see...gone from a 6 X to a 15-16...hmmmm.....okay I'mm totally stoked!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Oh thank you for your advice....I know that I am not there yet and plan..oh I really plan to get there..I so want to know just how small I am going to end up being...Maybe I will be so small that I will disappear into the sunset....Here's hoping....lol I appreciate the vets point of view very much...Your a doll for sharing....

Hunter....congrats on your life changes...And welcome to this forum and this crazy and unpredictable thread...humor is being used to help deal with the pain of reality as you most likely saw as you read some of the replies....Your list was amazing and a most of them I concur with....Don't be a stranger here..We are not perfect but we are real and like those who are real as well.....you are open and honest..I like that..

That one is really good...I am a true believer that we are not quite sure how exactly things are meant when they are said so it is always gracious to give those who express themselves honestly or openly what ever they feel; respect and consideration.....

I agree..I think that food addiction will always be just under the surface, ready to rear its ugly head as soon as things are good or things are bad...which it is always one or the other..So it is a constant fight in life to control the addiction...Once an alcoholic always considered to be one ..Same as food addiction. Can't let your guard down for too long...

Yup that's what he said...so basically once I get this under wraps ...I,m free as the breeze and I'll do as I please, just bumming around!!!!!

lol...Please sir can I have some more....

That's right, lets verbally beat the stuffing out of him...lol

You guys are nuts...truly nuts I tell you......If I wasn't a depressed person now..And getting my hit of Serotonin through meds....I would reconsider his remarks about getting it as a reward for eating... hmmmmm..Chocolate anyone.. My rehab Doc told me that if you are over 50 it is only a very slight chance that a person trades one addiction for another....So I guess if I am no longer addicted to food..Then I will be cured...Who are we kidding ...food glorious food.....gasping!!!!

Love the expression the flights were all jacked up.....do you mean hi-jacked...hehehehehe

That is funny that you asked me if I was a writer..I am in fact...But a starving artist of the trade.....Yes one day I will pen all of this for a book and hopefully it will bring some conclusion to all involved as everyone has suffered severely at her hands....

If she knew the truth that would make her a person like Hitler or an unfeeling great white..But she is a very sick person and has convinced herself that she was the best mother on the planet...She really believes it...When the other kids talked to her and she went on about her magnificence as a mother they would fight with her and tell her their side of the story..Never worked..She is also a pathological liar and is extremely smart and has a good memory for her lies...No...She will die thinking she was the Ace mother and we are all ungrateful wastes of flesh.... One thing I learned is you can cage a psychopath but you cannot cure them..... she will die alone like she allowed her lap dog to die alone...what goes around will be the end of it all.....I feel so bad for her..She could have had 12 children who loved and adored her and treated her like a queen...But that was never going to happen....And never will

You are sharing with us a black and white answer..Oh if life were that simple eh....There is a high percentage of woman who return to abusive relationships because they are familiar with it, they are cared for financially and see no way out..even for the children.....Does that solve the problem..no! the abuser abuses more and sometimes it costs the mate or children or both their lives....That said.. I am 1 in 12 kids..The only one who tried to continue a distant relationship with my mother....they all thought I was nuts..But I always knew that she was sick in the head and could not help herself....Hurting the ones she loves brings her great pleasure...But i am not an animal..I have feelings and wanted to make sure that she was taken care of and if she has even gotten sick or died...She still gave birth to me you know....... But now..after everyone told me that it was not going to stay..that she would figure out a way to push me away as well. She did..she asked me a couple of weeks ago not to ever call her again...A minor family matter did not go as she wanted so she has finally cut all of us off.. My mother has always played the victim...I am a lone, i have 12 kids and they don't care about me...so she gets poor poor dear sad for you, we will help your children are all scum and waste.... That perks her up, and makes her feel like something special...Like I said she always wanted to be looked after one on one care...no deal for any of us..I had a relationship with her at a distance...That was pretty safe you know.. Now she has cut the ties herself and I will respect that and not bother her again...I do feel bad for her though because ahe will die alone. No one to see her out. Just what she wants.....I am done.. So many feelings and emotions get locked up in these kinds of situations....Sometimes you just don't know what to do until the choice is made for you..That is what has happened for me now......

Thank you cabingirl, the sizes are changing so fast now it is scaring me a little...You will probably pass me kid...I am a tall woman and big boned.....but if I stopped now I would be smaller then I have been in 35 years...What a load off eh...hehehehe

Welcome aboard Chris1142...Keep us posted with your story ..K

Take those happy moments and run with them hun...Hoping there will be much more of them in your future....

When I saw my name at the bottom of your post my eyes filled up with tears that flowed freely....Yes this is the time to start to live again. To fight and be renewed in spirit and health.... Please don't look at it as I will fail at times..All of it is a part of the journey. The ups downs, screaming, the whys it is all for the good of who you are inside.....I have fought this fight for a long time and still struggle with my demons and I am so proud of you for knowing you have a huge fight ahead of you.. We will be here if and when you need us to sound off on and be there to console you as well.....Thank you for your comments....Your resolve is wonderful...

I can't imagine what that would be like to lose a loving mother at such a young age. To grow up in a home with only a father to deal with all the changes a girl goes through...yikes! He must be some kind of special person to realize that you girls would need him so much and be there to take it all on...Bet there were times he really wanted to pull his hair out..lol But seriously, that is very sad and I am sorry that happened and you have missed a special relationship with a caring mother..Thank you for sharing....