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Ik u don't personally know me Andrew but trust me when I say, if there is ANYONE who can tell u chin up and u can get thru this, its RJ, if uve not read her story, read it bc she is a strong and very encouraging young woman. Shes almost been thru it all! God bless and Ty RJ for always Sharing ur journey. I pray that ur ribs are gettn stronger. God willing, U will b ok Andrew:) Thanks for your kind words....your a peach to say so!! And you called me a young woman...so cool...

LOL...A team of Scientists...They would probably dissect me or something...I did this for the very reason to help you get off your ass!!! lol Your too much

No , no Andrew attitude is everything...Trust me it could be a lot worse!!!!!!!! Of course it could have been better too but it was not as bad as others have had it...Chin up..forward with the goal and your journey had an interesting bleep in it. A story to share someday...It makes it worth it more when you have to work for it...Keep that in mind..It is all about attitude and will power to face things when they are not going the typical way...Come on now..you got this..K

I hope and hope that this is the end of your troubles...But know this that if it is not you will still make it. You will be successful. And it will be worth it.... I know it does not feel like it right now but this will pass too..Thank goodness your sleeve staples are okay....That takes a load off my mind regarding your condition.....

Excellent advice.....I concur....

Always the best idea to call your team and find out what they feel...If it is that they postpone it...which I doubt they will..It will not be cancelled ..It will still happen and if so then it gives yo more time to prepare yourself and work on your addiction to food....It will all be okay....

Thank you Chelenka, but God has nothing to do with it..... I go again to the Chiropractor and get another treatment today.....ouch! not much sleep this weekend and it wasn't because of fun.....heheheheheh

No, no it isn't fair..But if it wasn't happening to me...would it be happening to someone else...hmmmm, deep eh! lol

You are a smart man, getting to the hospital as fast as you could...Hope the problem is fixed and you are on your journey again very shortly...Good wishes for a speedy recovery!!!!

indomitable spirit! It would be used to describe someone who has a very strong character and will not give up. They cannot be subdued or overcome and will keep on trying. Yikes you are way to kind to me gmanbat, truly....Thank you though!

Oh yes coughing and dislocated ribs! Not a good combo.. That pneumonia is lasting pretty long... Can't the give you something more for it? I go on Tuesday to get another X ray to see if my chest is clearer....I was on so much antibiotics when I was in the hospital and for 5 months afterward..He is not really keen on giving much more unless it calls for it... They run havoc on your body and I am working so hard to build it up you know......Tomorrow is another day right.....

I am in horrible pain...but I had a really hot bath today and it eased it up a little..With having pneumonia the time it is the worst is when I cough...I cough a lot! .And then I can hit the roof..Man I wonder if this will ever end?..I really do!!!

Having a lot of trouble with my new unprotected tail bone...I can't sit on a wooden chair anymore...hurts like hell!

She did this by email...Are you kidding me!!!!!! The child is a loser..Sorry I know you love her but really, really...really. Life is full of uncertainties but this fact is true. If she only excepts you a certain weight, next it will be she doesn't like your height or your fingernails..It will be a roller coaster as she tries to make herself feel better about herself. Looking outward instead of inward. That is how she is dealing with her own issues...Much easier for her, not so easy for you... This is abuse at the beginning stages....She is a non- keeper....Sorry my own opinion...There is another woman out there that will love you for who you are..don't let this child and I say child get you rolling backward to where you were before...Stop it dead in its tracks... Email eh...coward!

congrats Laura.....Being there is a bomb...All the struggles and pain and work has been paying off...Keeping it real and being real and knowing you have gotten there has to be a rich reward for anybody....

Well well, i listened to the http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/289791-the-uncomfortable-truth/page-25 on vulnerability and that my entire idea of hiding away and not having to be in the public eye..Not to be famous or anything...Just to put myself out there and get used to being me and using empathy for others as they show their lack of vulnerability.... In a sense though I have made a huge step by putting my thoughts out on this thread and the experiences I have faced in life has opened a hole in my life that is now healed....Some of the infection has been drained by saying things out loud here and waiting for the responses whether bad or good...Taking the chance of telling the truth and maybe just maybe helping someone else feel that it is okay to do the same thing.. I recognize that fear can be a strength but it can also be debilitating...Esp. If you are afraid to tell the truth....Open up and dump the things that brought you to this negative state in your life....I think i have made a first step in the right direction of allowing myself to be vulnerable in the right way....hmmmmmm Light bulb moment kids!

No one thinks you are being contrary..it is her that has ruffled feathers...Thank you for bringing it out for us all to look at....You did good....K

I am not a veteran for say, but come on..So they did a study on women.....not men this time....what is the common cause of ED..if you ask an Osteopath it is a restriction of blood flow to the penis.. Every surgery that we have to have is a risk taken. Every surgery elective is a risk we take..that is the simple truth of the matter... The easy way out..no.. of course not...Maybe she has a voice for another money making organization like exercise equipment. Or things have not gone the way she thinks they should have for some reason...She obviously has a story that she is not telling...So be it... Weight loss surgery is a necessary surgery in our day and age. No one forces anyone to go under the knife for it. it is elective...just like face lift surgery...or taking poison into our bodies when we have been given the death dealing blow of cancer...Some feel it is important to prolong life a long as possible using chemicals to kill it...personal choice, where others chose not to and go about it another way....All personal choices and beliefs...Neither are wrong I feel personally that this is something that we do not go into lightly. It is a surgery for those who have tried it all and still have not had the success in becoming thinner and healthier...Healthier is the most important....Because of my own situation..I was in situation that could, may, might or possibly led me to die in my 50's..With surgery and learning to deal with why I am fat ( fixing the brain) I hope that I can remain a relatively healthy woman for as long as other things don't kill me like what they are putting in my food, the air, the Water, the soil, the chemicals and so forth..... I am doing what I can to do this for my health benefits.....She has an issue.. Well no problem expressing it...No problem promoting it if it is done for the right reasons..The right reason is to educate people.... Fascinating another viewpoint..I have one too. Okay for her it is not the way to go..For me it saved my life..I see it as a miracle.....And nothing less then a miracle and that is because of who I was before the surgery and who I am now after the surgery...Will I struggle? Yes every day, like I have for my entire life..Will i win the race? We will see only at the end... Does not matter to me..all I know is I can hug my granddaughter close to my heart where as before this I could not....And hugging her is my favorite thing in the world..This surgery has given me the opportunity for how ever long I want to use it as a tool and not the forever answer..that is up to me to find the answers within my self to fix my head while eating healthier and exercising! Will fix my body hopefully.... That is my 2 cents worth!!!!!!!!!

I have had acupuncture for pain and deep massage therapy for pain...In fact I go to an Osteopath right now as he is helping me with my pneumonia.....the Doctor says it is coming along..That is good to hear...But I cough a lot and it is really hurting my side..ouch ...I have tried it all....There is a real danger for someone who has become addicted to pain killers to take a risk with meds that you are not familiar with..So Tylenol it is and pain as it happens.....We have addictive personalities and that is just one more issue that I have to be careful about! never thought I would have to have rehab over drugs they gave me in the hospital so I would survive without extreme pain.....Oh well..just another step in the long staircase to a healthier me...right!

Oh no....you said it! I told my husband not to say 2014 was going to be the year everything perked up and it would be my year....Every time he says that it is a worse year then the year before.....oh crap!!!!!!!!! Now what will happen do you think? LOL

When I tell my story here it is to educate...not to scare people..I was no where near ready to face the issues I have faced with this adventure.....but I either scream my head off, stamp my feet or make the best of the situation by reaping the positives out of every one of my experiences...I chose to go there... What happened to me is really rare...But it gave someone like you hun the chance to really think it through and make an educated decision.....So to me it is worth it all to see someone learn and be aware of the good and bad of it...You have had it really good and I am so happy for you... I am glad your poor hubby has had an easier time adjusting then mine has.....You mean a lot to me on here as well....I enjoy reading your posts because they are the way it was supposed to be for all of us!!!!

Case study..now that's a good one..lol Are you sure that anyone in the entire world would do this if they all knew what can possibly happen outside of death..... I guess maybe it is the extent someone will go to be thin and healthy eh!!!!!!!!

I am happy to take the well wishes bearman99..

I love all the answers..but really she will continue to do it because like other limited emotional understanding people she needs fauder for unimportant conversations she has in life... I like the smile and look her straight in the eye suggestion I got the other day from one of these helpful WLS folks on here...Me from now on..There is no replies just me looking at them as if they just shit themselves and then when they become uncomfortable...And look away out of uncomfortableness...( Is that even a word!!!)...I will walk away..This should work..Personally I look forward to trying it as soon as the opportunity presents itself again.....

Thank you for your comments...you have made me think more.....silent you say..just remain silent..i have done that for years..but the looking them straight in the eyes..Well that is a new one for me....