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No..But it helps me know that there are people out there who understand and take the time to let you know they care....

I must have missed something..you had 2 surgeries while you were at the hospital or did you count the first one...Anyway glad you are home and now things can start to progress in a positive way!!!!

I always had long slender fingers...but I was wearing a size 8-9 when I had this WLS..now I am a 5.5...Smaller then I was before I got married 36 years ago......I was a size 7 then..... None of my rings fit me anymore...None of my wedding rings fit me anymore.....I am perplexed!

Nope..worse..Went to the Chiropractor last night and he made some adjustments..Could not find a comfortable spot to sleep for pain...Got up this morning and now my right side hurts almost as bad as the left does.... Then I went for an X ray to see how my lungs are due to pneumonia...I said to the girl that doesn't look good..she said you mean the Fluid in your lung..I said yup..She said oh well things could be worse...I said your telling me!!!!!!! Probably another round of horse size antibiotics doing havoc on my system..Oh never mind.....I am just discouraged... I got some new nail polish though...with pink sparkles in it..Think I will give it a go later today....lol

I do not believe in hell...I think that if God is loving, he would not set up a place like that to torture people in... I believe that hell is interpreted that way to make people feel justified or happy that revenge will be paid to those that have done them wrong..... Isn't death punishment enough....just what I think don't hang me up for it ..K

Permission not to mind my own business....there's a first......

People too are having a hard time adjusting to the new you...they think with their eyes. She is getting smaller too fast because they are still not used to it..They like you, have to catch up.. I have a friend that is mad at me all the time now...Not because she thinks I am too small or anything but that I am always asking for her clothes..She says it is very annoying...I can't believe that because well I need them...you know...I have taken some pretty nice stuff from her...So she is not showing me so much anymore what she gets new.. Some attitude eh!!!!!!!!lol

i will never understand why some of us let the good things go in our lives...if you are 1/2 the person I know on here by your posts...He was really dumb to let you go girl...His loss...another's gain... Just don't go for the same kind...You can fall into that trap so easily.... oops....motherly advice here....Mind your own business Rj

Sorry but that last statement is not true...You can die as a result of this surgery. The complications can lead to death...I know I almost died. My surgeon was very clear before he did this procedure that I knew there was a small chance that I could die...I almost did!!!! The fact is though that only a small percentage do die....Every surgery is a risk.....even having your teeth removed...There are numbers out there to support it... Some day I will tell my story in print so that I may help educate people about what can happen... But I have no regrets. I see this surgery as a miracle that gave me back my life although a year + out I am still struggling with the complications of WLS...

Your too much.....happiness.... That's the goal too..Go for it!!!!!! Awesome!!!!!!!!!

Thanks Indigo! Always appreciate your well wishes!

Thank you very much...I really don't know what to say...it is so sweet of you to say this to me....Very kind indeed!!

Your a singer...how interesting!

Just to read on here that someone who has faced obesity would look at another person in a judgmental way makes my heart sink. Did you not suffer enough at the remarks and looks and lack of compassion when you were one of those people who you judge?...I feel like Laura....You can tell when people are suffering but it is not my business to point it out or to make a suggestion as to what they should do because I think it is right..... I am a completely different person then what I was before the surgery, I think it is because I almost died and very few that I called my friends were there for me or my family..I have no time for those ones anymore... I don't spend my time with people who don't care or didn't care... I will never look at myself as better then anyone else because I know that what goes around comes around and just when you think you are better then someone else the scales shift...It always happens....I would love a world where we excepted each other no matter who we are, how we look, what color we are or how poor we are...I know that will never happen...but I can dream can't I.. I never want anyone to feel the pain I felt when I was being persecuted because of my size....I will never allow myself to lax into a self confidence that gives me the entitlement of judging anyone... That is how I feel about it !

To start off with nothing will ever be the same again....lol 75 lbs..wow..That will take some time. You really don't want to tear your sleeve or anything else. This is major surgery..It takes time for it to heal and the scars to heal..They heal from the inside out.... The singing part I don't see an issue after 3 or 4 weeks..But they are not going to let you lift 75 lbs. so soon after they have done the procedure... Ask about support after the surgery Ask about pain meds...which is safest Ask about complications after surgery Ask about Vitamins What is successful barbaric surgery How do I know if I am getting the proper care How long before I will feel better Is everyone different in responding to this surgery There is some

That would be nice eh!!!!!!

There are major differences between both surgeries..I was going to have the by pass done when I started to research the sleeve..Yes you do drop weight quicker with the bypass but you get less nutrients out of what you put in your body...the sleeve allows you to break down food some before it leaves the sleeve, so you get more out of it...bypass..the food goes directly to the intestines.. The intestines help break down the remaining good out of the food we eat..But most of the breaking down is done in the stomach... But not with bypass.. So you are limited in what you get out of the food you put in... I would rather lose the weight slower then lose nutrients in the food I eat..I know what it is like to have all the side effects of not getting enough Protein and minerals and Vitamins out of what I eat...i would never swap for the bypass.. Now that being said I am one in thousand s who have both technically because of issues I had with the sleeve. But I look at it as if I have the sleeve alone......

Just got back from the Chiropractor..he said I am doing well. he said 70 % of my 3 ribs did not go out of place....yes!!!!!!!! He wants me back on Thursday for another treatment but he said I think you are on your way again....yeah me!!!!

RJ Not saying anything new but...... "I'm sooo sorry this is happening to you" again/still!!!! you have gone through wayyyyyyyyyyy too much, no one deserves to be going through such pain/ problems life can be very hard but for the devil to come out and show its ugly face so often to you............not fair, not fair!!! you/no one deserves to go through such bad events sending you good/healing thoughts best wishes for the new year to bring all the good you deserve hugggggs kathy You know what they say eh...Go big or go home...That seems to be me in a nutshell!

I am not a guy..But it holds it in and up....I dislocated 3 ribs a few days ago and have to go to the Chiropractor today for him to check them and what do you think I am wearing..compression vest...Hurts like a B but the other side is I am so self conscious about my extra skin I will wear them until I get that removed.. Maybe guys see it differently!

There is no one on this forum that has not slipped or ate things that we are not supposed to eat..There are some that graze all day because they have not got the brain fixed yet....You now know what you can do if you really want to. Now you need to make a plan and work it...Stay clear of pizza unless you learn to enjoy one slice and walk away..There are plenty of other foods that will take its place... It is great that you are honest and seeking help.... Trigger foods are a real pain in the butt..So for now..stay clear until you can handle it....K

Okay I will admit I did widen my eyes in total fear of plastics when I looked at your pictures...I too will have it done when I get ready...It just looked so painful...My daughter who is a nurse said that it is one of the most painful surgeries of all....Not looking forward to it all. but I do look forward to getting rid of the extra skin someday..Thank you for your honesty regarding this part of the journey...Good to know how someone see things while they are going through it...Thanks again!

I am starting to think that plastics is not for me...yikes!

Just curious Jay, you said a couple of times you were busted up playing hockey.....What kind of hockey do you play...yikes!!!!!!!!

I had every problem imaginable except death..although I came close..lol Second question..It depends on who you talk to on here, some are really strict with them selves, others not so much...Me I am eating as clean as I can..BUT! and I say but because I do eat things that others consider sliders on here like pizza, Pasta, bread..Just not very much of any of it. Oh and sweets once in a while except this week....bad girl!!!!( Daughter baked all her Christmas Cookies here) Have trouble with beef and pork and can only eat brown meat of poultry....you will find that some things after your sleeve that you will not like anymore..And others you will love that you didn't like before...