RJ'S/beginning

RJ, I wish I could say I am surprised that your friend did this to you. I have a friend who has been heavy for most of her life and right now she weighs less than me and has made a couple comments to me that surprised me. I have been friends with her for over 20 years and hope that it won't ruin our friendship. Also, I tried to find a picture of a gaunt amazon and couldn't find one. If you can't find it on the internet, then it doesn't exist and can't be true. Too funny..I would have hated if you had found it and it was my photo...lol.. When I went to my sleeve seminar before surgery I asked the beautiful successful lady there how her friends reacted to her losing all her weight...She looked me right in the eye and said "they are all b*****s." I was not surprised by her comment as much as everybody else was... i have been skinny before granted for a short time in my life but it was not easy then and I don't expect it to be easy now.......... She was nice about it today when she had tea with me this afternoon....who knows maybe she will rethink her position on the topic!!!!!!!!!!

Congratulations on your success....enjoy your cruise!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

No you are wrong..That is who you were she is dead and gone and no longer exists..she will never be back to make you feel so badly about yourself or hurt you in any way..It is up to you to not let that happen....That person is someone you can barely relate to now...She is finished!!!!!!! All you have now is what is a head of you..A new life of health and the happiness you make out of this new situation...don't get bound up in the past..You can't go back, you chose not to go back..This is the you you need to be..The one we all love and appreciate..The other one, nope! You scratched and fought for this new you..I personally like her a bunch..I know you do too!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh one more thing.....your ex, what he saw in you...With or without the extra fluff..Something tells me you were a hell of a good person even then....He is the loser not you in my books........ Stop that crying and Celebrate the fact that you did it..You are all brand new and a hell of a transformation to be celebrated......Don't ever let me hear you talk like that again....Or I will have to find you an lay a beaten on you!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That is exactly what this forum is for..to educate people and that is what you have done...I read the information and was surprised that it could even exist...I do appreciate your being it out for us to see and decide what to do accordingly...

okay so this is my second day where I have been craving raw celery....I eat it slowly and I am enjoying the flavor like no other thing in the world...It tastes so good to me right now and I am eating it even though I thought there was no nutritional value to it.. I am a strong believer that if you crave something then there is something in it that you need.... CELERY is my craving right now..raw.... I did some research because I know that some on here think that it is a waste of time to eat celery...But get a load of what this site says about consuming it... I must be lacking something somewhere in this site to be wanting it so badly!!! 2 nights in a row it has been my nightly snack..yum!!!!!!! http://www.organicfacts.net/health-benefits/vegetable/health-benefits-of-celery.html

Yesterday we were coming back from Oromocto and hit an icy patch on the road...We did three donuts( not eating them ) but with the car until we sat safely at the edge of the road..All the cars behind us and the ones in front of us stopped and pulled over to the sides of the road as well....I could not watch so I put my hands over my eyes and hoped that my granddaughter would be okay.... We stayed there for 3 hours waiting for a salt truck to come a long and salt the road.....I felt so sick....My grand daughter thought it was fun and asked her gram pa to do it again.....not happening....We had lots of good Snacks in the car but no Water for me.... By the time I got home I was so worked up I went to bed and slept for most of the evening....I was scared but mostly scared of what if my girl gets hurt....Today I still feel the effects form it...... I was hoping 2014 might be better then 2013...I go for surgery on the 21st as well....so far not so good!

Your too sweet to say such things...TY

Always the diplomat.....

Seems to me that you have nowhere to go but up with your feelings, emotions and future... You have not given up..Your making another choice to further your goal of being healthy and happy...No one should judge you for that if they truly love you they will know the struggles you feel and how you would react to any negativity.... Self loathing is a dangerous path to take and you so do not deserve to feel that way about yourself....Your working it, doing what you have to do to make it better..No one needs to give you their opinions..Your doing this for you! Please be gently with this girl ( you ) as she struggles to see how much she is doing and the pain it is all causing her emotionally!!! You got this and you have us to be here for you!!!!!!!!!! Smile you are on your way...K

Would appear to me that almost any Fiber can cause this condition....i think I may peel the strings off from now on but if we were to be frightened of this condition...We wouldn't eat any veggies or fruit at all...Nah! I think there has to be predisposed situations for this to happen....I appreciate the information though...It is like everything else in life...1 positive...15 negatives...1 negative...15 positives..We decide what is right for us on those..... Thanks for the warning!!!!!

Your right...As I read this my mouth was gaping open...........some friend kid!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yours was right up and personal...Mine was at least kinda backwards...yikes!!!!!!!!!!!!

Your too much..you made me laugh!

Yes.......... That's right the language barrier...lol

I hear you..If I looked at this for vanity..I would really fail...........so many wrinkles and on top of that I look like my mother and she is 80......

Wonderful Jay....congrats to you..I do a lot of it like you..I eat what I want but limit carbs and bad sweets...But I do eat them sometimes......I am glad you found your way...I am hoping for the same thing.....All the best Jay!

Stunning...just stunning...You rocked it girl...WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

True, but most sleevers or WLS patients try to get the most bang for their bucks when they eat...Only so much room you know.... So they forgo celery and lettuce and other veggies... Only say this because I believe that there is room for almost everything in this program....not just Protein but everything in moderation......It is up to us to learn to control and make good choices.....We need to reteach our brains how to eat to live not live to eat......you know! I don't think there is moderation in cake though...So I do try to stay away....lol

Me either! I no longer see it as a waste of my chewing time...lol

Every emotion you mentioned is normal...It is better to feel like you do then run head long into this without much thought of why or what you are doing.....Most patients are like you measuring the pros and cons of all of this and nervous about the unknowns...your right on cue... Your going forward with the hope of good things to come from this amazing tool..I hope all the best for you..Keep us posted ..K

I think that things could have been much worse...It could have been a McDonald's hamburger and fries....You ate only a little of each thing and stopped when you were full...You ate mostly the Protein and left the other stuff out of it... So you enjoyed a meal out...watch the fried stuff yes but You didn't really cheat badly....Or really at all in my books.... Tomorrow, if you want to eat fresh and clean and all will be right with the world.....I know I have a different view then most people but I think that we still have to live here and exist here and eat here and learn to eat here as well... I think you did pretty good myself...I don't want this journey to be another failed diet for me..I am not restricting myself to salads and Protein shakes...I am going to eat a chicken wing if I want it..And That's how I feel about it..Now i will get off my soap box!!!!!!!!!

It is going to start happening really soon trust me.....I was heavier then you are at first..So I worried about everything in the world..Now I hardly think about any of it...I am not at goal yet...but I am no longer so big that it stands out and they have to treat me with special things ...Like a larger wheel chair, wider seats, bigger beds...largest gown for tests at the hospital....it goes on and on!!!!!!!!!!

Your nose doesn't run or you sneeze when you have eaten enough...I do that and so do a lot of other sleevers....You have to start seeing the sign that tells you to stop eating..Even before when we were not sleeved our bodies gave us signals to stop eating...Like yawning or breathing deeply before we reached for more....Our brain tells us we are done and sends the signal to our body..we just used to ignore it...Now so that we don't get the pain of over eating we have to really pay attention to it or we will feel it and it really hurts.....

The first time I was on a plane that I did not need an extender was in Nov...i had my hubby take a pic...so I would have it..The table fit too..I always shared his when we were on a plane.. I was hurting my back driving my car and was told to pull the seat up...I always had the seat the farthest out and now it is the closest you can get....My hubby and I war over that now..... I sat in the tiniest booth a couple of weeks ago..I always surveyed a restaurant to see if they had tables and chairs and left if they only had booths.....So many changes...So many amazing NSV.....I could never even count them all

There are things that are on my list that I can eat but they don't sit well with me and then I have the runs.....You can figure out what it is..Like other posters who have narrowed it down to this or that...no reason to panic.....you will figure it out... Sometimes it just happens because of how you are feeling that day....This just is the way it is...But if it is a food issue better to try to find the culprit then keep having this trouble...

Kathleen you will never overcome it or get over it..but you can learn to deal with it and put it where it belongs..In the past! It has taken me years to learn that it has no place in my life, what happened happened and I put the blame where it belongs..Not on me but on the abusers...Once you see your self..truly as a victim and not the abuser you can start to heal..one way is no longer keeping it a secret...Shouting it from the roof top as they say....Being open and learning how to deal wit hit in a better way then eating through it....It will be soooooooooo worth it to be able to say...Yes it happened but it does not have anything to do with who I am now..I am me and I am responsible for me and that is in the past. It no longer has a hold of me and I am no longer defined by it.................... you will get it...You got this...your on the path kid....If you need to talk PM me and we can talk...Okay!