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It does not really matter which surgery you get if used well can have the same effect. There are a lot of Banders on here that are totally successful. I know how you feel though. You expect one thing and get another. That happened to me too. work with it and all will be good. Keep close to your team and follow instruction totally and success will be yours. Let us know how you are doing okay!

As far as pain and complications go. It is good to be informed of the possibility of it and whether you will except whatever come if it does. The statistics are small but it does happen. So be informed and move toward your decision. My sister had her surgery on Dec. 4th and she has had no issues at all. So just because someone has complications or pain it does not mean you will. I went into surgery only knowing that I could die. But you can die from any surgery. All are a risk. But I had no clue about what the complications might be and how it would change my life. No one should go in there blind. And no one should say.. .it will be okay just do it. If you are informed and understand all the possibles. Then the decision is yours, and you will be ready for whatever happens....

@@Lisa's Hope Grief is not a time or moment in life it is as long as it takes to feel the pain less and less and find yourself smiling at the odd thing now and then. when that happens and you see the sun come up in the morning and it makes you feel good to know it happened then you are on your way to healing. You will never ever forget the love of your life and will never ever get over it all. But you can learn to deal. And even though we all think we have all the answers because we are trying to comfort you in any way we can. We can't feel your pain of your loss and how it has effected you. you have to go through it as it happens. All the emotions to get to a place where you want to go on. that might not be today or tomorrow but I am sure that your hubby would have wanted you to go on with your life and live a healthy long one at that. No one can do it for you. All we can do is show support in any way we can and by doing so maybe you will see that the future is ahead of you and going backwards will only cause you more pain. Pushing through the pain and looking after yourself will give you the strength you need to go on. Please get counseling if you can. Someone who can give you the tools to help you go forward. Thinking of you and worried that if you give up on yourself. It will only make matters worse..Along with the grief you feel adding self loathing will be too much. @@CowgirlJane You have been such a help to me in my process to get plastics. Because of you I looked at my appointment with my new surgeon totally different then the first one. We all have our ups and downs.....and like you always seem to do you bounce back to the up side. You keep it real and I love that about you. Your truly a success story!

Met my second opinion surgeon on Monday. He made me feel quite comfortable and did the same pictures and all that the other plastics did but he also let me keep my self respect. We are looking at getting another opinion for part of the surgery. So there may be two of them working on me at the same time. I trust this man with my life. Breasts later he says but he does not see an issue with them. He said they looked really good and was a common surgery for him..Yes....Medicare covers some of it but he said he will give me a considerable cheaper rate because I just didn't walk in off the street. He knows me and so it will make a huge difference as far as cost goes.... I can't wait for this next step..Really and truly!

Hey here are some other meanings of the word Flounced..... I kind of like swaggered and sashayed..lol pranced, stormed, stomped, strutted, swaggered,bounced, flung, jerked, minced, sashayed, sprang,stamped, threw, tossed

From the breast bone down. Abdomen... He said my back and sides are fine..just the front.......hoping early spring!

Excellent news!

Okay so my daughter says to me, "mom have you ever heard of oil pulling." I could not even imagine what the heck she was talking about. She said, "the Indians and ancients used it instead of tooth paste to clean and repair teeth, kill germs and bacteria in our teeth. Teeth are bones she said and if you break a bone, it can build and repair itself".... And she says, "on top of that if your teeth are stained it will whiten them and make you feel like your teeth are freshly cleaned by the dentist." Also she added, "that your breath smalls great as a pleasant side effect of this daily at first then by- weekly habit." So my hubby has been doing it two times a day and plans on doing it for two weeks and then evaluating whether he can feel or see a difference. I did it today with Coconut oil. It was difficult to put the hard oil in my mouth but I chewed it up and soon it was a liquid and the bad taste was gone... After I swished it around my mouth for 20 min. I spit it in the garbage because cold oil can clog drains....lol My teeth felt amazing. Even the back, you know way back behind the teeth where it is hard to reach your brush: was cleaned off. i felt refreshed and had a smooth and cleaner looking mouth. My breath was fresh as well. With just a hint of coconut... Thought I would mention it because so many on here talk about the side effect of bad breath with these surgeries....I am going to keep it up for two weeks as well and see how or if anything is really better. My daughter has done it for two weeks now and swears her teeth are not hurting as much and that she does not have bad breath anytime of the day or night. Dentists don't like this but that is okay..I like using natural things to make me better. Here is a site if you want to read about it yourself... Just sharing! http://authoritynutrition.com/oil-pulling-coconut-oil/

Is it possible to ask someone to pick up some fresh soup from a deli or restaurant? Much better then Campbell's I think. Better for you too. Do you have someone who can make you some home made? That would be the best!

I live in Saint John. No one has come out around here about having WLS. Glad your doing great!

My hubby sharpens knives, scissors, garden tools and grooming stuff......And no I don't think the Dr. thinks that I am not a good candidate. He already repaired my scare where they left the tape and sponge in my bed sore. He is great. I just want him to do it all without saying no. The last one I saw was only interested in helping me if I could pay big bucks......

My hubby and I were at a market yesterday. He has been building up a sharpening business for the last 3 years. He wants to do it after he retires. You know to stay busy. Not my thing but if he wants it's okay with me. The man can't stay still. Worker to the bones you know.... Anyway we have a booth at a market and yesterday was its first day. So all the news team were out and filming. At 6:00 we turned on the news to see if the interview my hubby did with them would show up or be on the cutting room floor. It was not shown. But! In the background of another interview both of us were there. Gees I looked huge in my winter coat. Oh when will this ever end! Please, plastics....save me! tomorrow is my appointment with the Dr. I am so hoping it all goes well..... fingers crossed! Yikes.......

No! The coat is not too big. I am able to wear a sweater under it but it is winter and we need heavy coats here in Canada. So it just made me look huge......It was scary to see it. Seems to me that I will never get over having an outlook of seeing myself large.......Grrrrrrrrr

I think I ate anything that was not nailed down. My daughter made a mix that was to die for and I ate that every night.....I made a large cheese cake but that was not my desire. It was little things like chocolate and chips. I did have the best breakfasts the entire time I was there, and enjoyed every single bite....I am now back to work and preparing my standard food and feeling okay about it all.... I lost the battle of the week but am rallying the troupes to take it on again.... I still have my tool and will do what I need to do to get myself where I need to be and I'm okay with that.....Plus we all came down with the flu....oh joy! But you know what I have no regrets because I am human and this is a constant battle that I have waged with myself for 56 years..And it will continue to wage war with me.....the hope is to never let it win..To pick myself back up and get going again......

He seems to me to be the real deal......Someone who knows it is a day to day struggle to keep the food addiction in check......Thank you for bringing his story to our attention Alex...I think I like this guy..He certainly is keeping it honest!

It is good to share the beginnings of a new girl who had reasons to do this for her health and well being. you are a strong lady and I wish you all the best in this journey....

If it is too much pain for you then you really need more then over the counter can offer you. Maybe you need to see your surgeon for some extra help. I know I had that help when I was going through this too. But I want you to remember that this is soon going to be over and hopefully all it is going to take to get you back on track.....

@@ArthurTower you don't get it do you..There is no ' I don't know how I'm going to make it. ' You just are! You are going to understand that this is for the good of your sleeve and that it might possibly be the fix you need to repair your complication. You have to pick yourself up and go forward! You keep looking for more experiences, but all of them are almost the same when it comes to stents. They are exactly how you described them. If you can't handle one stent I hope to h**l nothing else happens to you.....More times then not the stents do the job....Stop worrying about what might happen or worry about any other things except the moment to moment experience. And have a good attitude. It will help you heal....okay! You got this......

I said I would have gone with the by pass because in the end I have one plus the sleeve...I think with everything I have been through in hind sight I would have just taken the route that would have maybe shortened my complications for me..It was kinda a tongue in cheek thing to say because I wanted the sleeve so much only because of nutritional reasons...But any of the surgeries will work..All are successful if all goes well. And you follow the surgeons advice.. The thing is and will always be is that I was in a place where I like you felt that WLS was my only option left. That if I did not do it I would die anyway. Or worse be a person with no quality of life. So I was willing to face anything..And I have...I will continue to fight for this tool and be grateful for the good it has done for me.....Sure I have bad days but who doesn't. If you take wLS on without knowing the possible complications..Then you are not ready for whatever comes..... I was willing to die for it.....I did not want to continue in the way I was....The walking ( barely ) dead! Sending love and comfort your way hun...anytime I am here for you.. @ I mean that kiddo! Jane

My reason for posting the complications I have gone through is a teaching tool. Not to complain. I researched this surgery for 2 years before I had it and never read anything other then you could die. I did not know this forum existed..And at the time here there were others who were struggling to get through the tough times of complications.... Posts have helped others because I have had people phone me, skype me and mail me to ask for support as they need help emotionally, and mentally to get through them..Just as I did! and do..So if you don't need that kind of support that is wonderful for you. But there are others who are thankful to know they are not alone......I know I am.... Surgery veteran or not...what can happen with WLS needs to be said so that people are informed.....And can make an informed decision....

If you don't mind the taste..coconut Water, minus the pulp is a natural hydrator.

I understand your thinking totally. But I can't go back in time..So I try to be positive at all times over what has happened to me and what is in my future......I know that someday I will be strong and healthy once more...If I look at it as a mistake and let it get to me..I am domed. Because 50 % of our happiness and well being depends on attitude. I can't afford to let it rule my world...I will take it one day at a time.......I have experienced all you have except the 100,000 dollars..yikes! Sorry for all you have suffered..You are not a lone in this..There are some of us out here that have been close to death because of our choice. And painfully so there are family members of some that even lost their lives because of this choice.. What bothers me is that no one really tells us of what the real consequences of this surgery might, may, possibly, could happen...I have learned more then I ever wanted to know. And I bet you did too.......

A resounding YES! All I have been through has been worth it for me personally. All the things I can do now have made me live again. It has given me the opportunity to walk again for unlimited amounts, I can hold my grand daughter close to my heart. I can go anywhere without people staring at me or laughing at me....My health was okay other then a very sore back and high blood pressure. But not being able to walk really limited my life and it would not have been for me to live in a wheel chair and have my family care for me at my age if there was an option. We live in a world where the minority has control of the majority. The fat shaming has really had a toll on my self image and I could not take much more. The experiences I have had are heart breaking and the fact that others are out there floundering around without a hope breaks my heart. I still have some issues but I am thin and I can now move around without stares or moo sounds and I am practically invisible. I think that if people are in a place where there is not a lot of choices the surgery is their final problem solver if they remember to see it as a tool. Sometimes I get a reminder of what I have gone through and still have to face but in the whole and it makes me cry. But on the now and what has changed in my life for the good...I am grateful for the miracle of WLS.... In the complication department I am a minority. Most folks have little to no trouble..For me the dice roll was bad.....Hey life happens........ If I had to do it all over again I would have picked the by pass......The sleeve was not the right choice for me in the long run..But hind sight is 20/20 right..... Thank you for asking..