RJ'S/beginning

Congratulations so far..................now the real work begins...

I think that is tremendous growth that you can identify and change a behavior that you feel wasn't in your best interest. Good for you! I can't imagine going to public places and entertaining others. You must have been exhausted all the time! I like your way of dealing.....You went on no matter what and did not let them destroy who was really inside...I admire that! Nothing wrong with being a " strong personality " That is probably what kept you going and keeping you strong through out your times of problems in your life..... I am one of those people who have the ability to feel what is going on around me..To be able to look at a person and know if they are happy or not....Hell if I let myself I can tell if they had sex the night before...It is awful...Sometimes I just want to put blinders on.....I learned to be that way to protect myself as a child..To know what the mood was at home before it exploded in my face..... Sometimes I just never looked and like you refused to think about it..But as time went on I could no longer do that....It was so painful! I have made changes as well....Some good some not as I am more cautious about people then I used to be and I hold back more then I used to. I no longer entertain people when I am at the doctors office and engage everyone in laughter to hide behind it like I used to.... Now it is so boring when I go to appointments..But you know what?! I now decide when I want to entertain..not because I am trying to hide behind it.... The new me does not see it as a necessary thing to do anymore! I like your attitude!!!!!!!!!!!!! I know what you mean about having the ability to look around and assess the lay of the land. I can do that, too. What I don't do is absorb it and take it on as my own. But I know exactly what you are saying, because I see my mother do that. She really feels what she observes others feeling. I think it makes people like you much more empathetic, but also can be exhausting and counterproductive for you. I do think it's a wonderful human quality and the world is a better place for having people like you in it. The trick is to not let it eat you alive Anyway, I like your attitude, too! You hit the nail on the head..i would entertain everyone and after get in my car and on the way home feel like I had no strength left......I suffer from depression as well so it was another reason I became the comedian...It would not allow me to panic in the situations.... I felt like I was 2 completely different people all the time....Now I am more so letting the real me emerge..Sorta like " ready or not here I come ". Thank you for your thoughts they mean a lot to me..

You know what! Making this choice holds a boatload of pros and cons...Put the pros and cons down on paper and read it..The one thing that sticks out the most on the lists will tell you how you really feel about this decision. That said....You could save yourself a life time of weight struggle..Ups and downs..Ruining your body and your mind getting more worked up and confused. Only you can decide if this is the right course for you...I have read on here about others as young as you doing this...I have read on here other women who have had it done and got pregnant and still were successful...It is all up to you! The sleeve is a tool. Not a fix...Changing how we see food and our relationship with food has to change...Digging deep to find out why it holds such power over us is half the battle....Fix the brain/fix the body. They go hand and hand! With or without surgery you have a worthy goal in mind for yourself..Talk it over with hubby. Keep him in the loop and decide what is best for you and your family....K

Try what lynn2win said and then if that doesn't work....well there is always tawanda.....lol ( you know " Fired Green Tomatoes " ) No just kidding. hopefully she will respect your feelings if you do what the poster this poster suggested!

Welcome girl to the forum....you are in a good place here lots of experience and advice for you...Ask all the questions you want..Someone here has had the experience or has the answer.... We all mean well and care about each other.....

Yes we will see...He looked me right in the eyes and said you walk anyway might as well walk 8000 steps a day.....yikes!

awesome job!! How long have you had the sleeve? Nov.6th 2012... That is the day my world turned upside down!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Bet you have a lot of insight into WLS and it's successes....would love to hear more from you!!!!!!!!!!!!

I admire your strength!!!!!!!!!! Don't know if that would have worked for me the same but if it was the best thing for you..Wow..you did it!!!!!You are free!!!!!!!!!

At first I would say 380 in a very hushed tone..Took me weeks to tell my hubby how much i weighed.............Now to hell with it..That is not me any longer that was the old scared me......... I am down 182 lbs...that is magnificent if I do say so myself~!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so proud of my weight loss and on here I share it because I know there are others who understand that it is a big deal and big achievement. If I can't be honest with people who are struggling with the same issues.. Then I will never be able to be honest with myself...And hun...........you did that just now........................Super duper you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So do I! congrats on your journey so far...

I am glad you asked!!!!!!!!! Before my surgery I drank on the average 3 liters of Water a day......Loved it, drank it, and had no issues...After surgery I no longer had the capacity to drink that much water so now I aim for 64 oz. When you are sleeved you will find that your tastes have changed and also the feeling in your sleeve that happens when you eat or drink. There is a restriction for a while and it is very difficult to do what they want you to do at first...Get 64 oz of water in..plus 60 m of Protein...It seems so much a huge amount. For the size of your sleeve...You feel like all you are doing is eating and drinking water all day long and not easily either....It becomes tedious and can be painful because our new sleeve is temperamental at first.... But as time goes by it does get easier to take that much in.....But like me others have found that just water makes them feel awful...i have to add flavor to it unless i am really warm.... Just as important as protein is, so is the consumption of water to keep you hydrated and help tone muscles and help you to lose weight.....It also aids in keeping you regular.....K

You are wise beyond your years...that was scary............

Are you kidding me..............I would have thrown out everything he said about everything!!!!!!!!!! For Pete's sake!!!!

I was ill for so long and now I feel better then I did before surgery..But you know what I really began to think that it would never ever happen....I still struggle but the benefits of time and experience with this new sleeve is paying off big time...........I want to look back and see how far I have come.... It is going to get like an old hat soon and then it will become automatic and then life will really start to change...You will emerge!!! The real you..So hold on it is going to be a bumpy but satisfying ride.......

Everyone vomits now and then right...But I am pretty sure you are safe as long as it does not happen continually....At first we all have that problem. But as we go on like where you are...It happens because of not feeling well......Prolonged vomiting..I would check into.....not if I am sick or have the flu that is for sure.... If you still feel that way..Take a Gravol and it should help the feeling of nausea....K

I like your way of dealing.....You went on no matter what and did not let them destroy who was really inside...I admire that! Nothing wrong with being a " strong personality " That is probably what kept you going and keeping you strong through out your times of problems in your life..... I am one of those people who have the ability to feel what is going on around me..To be able to look at a person and know if they are happy or not....Hell if I let myself I can tell if they had sex the night before...It is awful...Sometimes I just want to put blinders on.....I learned to be that way to protect myself as a child..To know what the mood was at home before it exploded in my face..... Sometimes I just never looked and like you refused to think about it..But as time went on I could no longer do that....It was so painful! I have made changes as well....Some good some not as I am more cautious about people then I used to be and I hold back more then I used to. I no longer entertain people when I am at the doctors office and engage everyone in laughter to hide behind it like I used to.... Now it is so boring when I go to appointments..But you know what?! I now decide when I want to entertain..not because I am trying to hide behind it.... The new me does not see it as a necessary thing to do anymore! I like your attitude!!!!!!!!!!!!!

What ever your reasons for your thread are okay with me...Honesty helps us to deal with all the stuff we have gone through and will go through with this journey...Unless you are up front and personal you cannot heal..So many on this forum know where you have been and are scarred by their past and it will affect them always..But!!!!!! They are strong enough to change all that, open themselves up and move forward...I see that strength in you. Honesty and courage to change.... I think you got this, no matter what happens!!!!!!!!!!! thank you for your kind words concerning my journey...Soon we will be on it together, just in different places

Saw my team today...Good news they are happy with my weight loss so far....All my Vitamins are normal in my body but was told once again to keep taking them forever....... I asked about plastics and my surgeon smiled at me..Said I needed a referral but that it would work out for me since I was soon going to be 18 months out....Holy mollie is that possible...No I am only 14 months out.... Anyway they said I should not lose much more because plastics is going to take some of the lbs off as well...5-15 lbs left they said.....What me no way!!!!!!!!!!!!! Got a lot of tips on food intake and what to eat and I love my nut..She is a doll!!!! Moderation is everything according to her and pop, even diet pop is the red flag of failed diets and WLS.....I thought that was interesting..... Just thought I would share!!!!!!

I am blown away by your honesty in this thread...There are a lot of things that you say that I could have been your double in...All the things that have happened to you happened to me just about! I can now hug my grand daughter so close to me it is surreal....she was the last straw for me to get this done....I wanted to be here for her and love her as long as I can..To be there for her as long as I can ...And enjoy being her Nana for as long as I can............This was the deciding moment for me when I held her when she was 8 weeks old and fell madly in love with her.... Even though I was the walking dead it was this little light in my life that sealed the deal for me...............I love being her Nana!!!!

I do feel it has been worth it..I also have a lot of respect for the team that looked after me and cared for me...I will be going for plastics...But hubby is safe no matter what You are simpy amazing and encouraging RJ, some day when i grow up... just kidding! Your adorable!! And i probably am a lot older then you so watch it! You could grow up to be like me..It could be worse you know..I don't know how but it could be...

The sleeve is a tool that gives you the time to fix what was wrong in your head about food and why it means so much to you and why it got to the point that you needed to have it in the first place...The honeymoon period will not allow you to over eat or there will be trouble.... Hopefully like others you will take the time to really listen to yourself and how you react to things and the experiences you are going through...You will get excited as the lbs start falling off...the first part is not the whole journey....Asking questions getting help with the things that made you an emotional eater and learning how to retrain your brain is very rewarding... I know myself better now then ever before I have changed so much and it is due to this experience.....for me it has been frightening, scary, interesting, humbling, mind bending, crying, sobbing, sleepless nights , good times and bad times. All rolled into one....An adventure or journey to recreate the me that is inside.... Is it worth it.......OH yes it is........I would not change a thing really..It has taught me to have a lot of compassion for others and understand that I was not a lone all this time...There were others out there that were struggling with the same issues.. I read all information on all packaging and I eat healthier and actually enjoy it more......I keep it interesting and make sure I eat the very best..... You will find your way and you have us here to help any way we can.......... I can't even believe sometimes that this is me on this journey eating fish instead of Mc Donald's hamburgers and loving it.... I got a good report today so I'm a bit stoked.....I love my sleeve today and most other days as well...