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Go ahead Ana...cry...But never give up okay..I had 14 surgeries while I was in the hospital and 2 since I came out....It is quite a trip for both of us....I know I will not give up and neither will you...Your a strong woman and need to trust in your health care provider..Tell him your fears and concerns...... I came through it so will you...one step at a time girl...one step at a time....Each little NSV will mean so much to you.. I know it does for me because I paid a huge mental, emotional, and physical price for it..... Soon you will be able to encourage others. And give them hope and when they think nothing else can be done..You'll know better....... Come on Ana...show me what you got eh!!!!!!

Today I had ham and a scrambled egg..Fresh green onions and chili powder for taste..Loved it..tomorrow back to cereal for me though!!!!!!!!

awwwwwww...too cute

I too love popcorn now..did not like it before surgery...But I can eat a lot of it..so it is a slider food for me as well....I try to eat it rarely...... Fits well and goes down smooth for me...dang!

Ana, listen to me....You will get through this....I know from my own experience what a stent feels like and there is a chance that it will help the leak to heal. The stent keeps the liquid away from the hole and helps the tissue to grow over it...Now in my case it did not work..I had another one put in on top of that one. It did not work either. But most people they do work.... They can clamp it together if this does not work or do a hook up to your sleeve with your intestine....It will be fixed one way or the other.... Don't stick your hand down your throat to gag. You can cause a lot of problems doing that.. Thus making matters worse! 5 months I went through hell over complications and crying and yelling and losing it does not help. It just exhausts you and makes you feel even worse. 10 months I had extra nursing care at home.....One step at a time Ana....one step at a time......You WILL get better and you will be stronger and you will be successful in this WLS. 15 months later I still have problems with my bed sore...it never ends it seems....But I want to think I am a strong girl who will not stop fighting and working for the goal I chose to pursue....... You really have to let things like the house go you will get to it when you are better. Try not to get so down Ana....You have to remember why you did it......And work inch by inch to repair it......There are more things they can do to fix it..But they need you to be on board as well.... Please....I know this is not easy for you! It wasn't for me but I am here to tell you it will get better. You will heal and you will be like all the others a successful weight loss surgery patient.......

because I feel some responsibility to her, like I did when she was a child. You know what Ree. it is sad when a person does not grow up. You did the best for her to help your mom. she wants a pity party for herself and hand outs....Too bad! She needs to get it together. who knows when that will be. But you are wasting valuable energy worrying about this...If it is like egg shells then don't waste your time walking on them...might as well say what you think! A friend of mine always says " might as well be hung as a sheep then a lamb." Really no difference if the outcome is the same..... Time she got a wake up call from her big sister!!!!!!!!!

I had a sandwich for lunch..Well a 1/2 of a sandwich....Once you are post op for a while you will be able to eat a sandwich again...... Pre- op is hard but one of the great things about it is that you detox from all the junk in your system..Tell yourself that you are doing this to make it much easier for yourself after surgery....And you know what it is true!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have had the face to thin comment. Gaunt statements and stop losing weight talk..I know how much I weigh and how much I still need to lose.... So do you. Your body will adjust somewhat depends on genes and age and amount of weight lost...Crap shoot...But I would rather have a skinny face then high blood pressure, poked at made fun of, can't walk and so on..... Tell them that their mom-ma's forgot to teach them that " If you don't have anything nice to say to shut the hell up. "

I am on meds as well and I take them throughout the day..I get what I need and they work like they always did......

Temporary condition...Once you are on solids you can eat Chinese food again....just in a moderate amount....i think once you really get going you will have a different opinion of food..it is a challenge I admit..But the good out weighs the food addiction a hundred times fold!!!!!!!!!

That's what happens when your in it for the money and not the health of a patient.....Just sad I think!

She is who she is. this is not off topic because it is affecting you and your progress. While we love those in our lives we reach a point that we are no longer going to take this kind of abuse anymore. This girl needs help not you. Somewhere a long the lines she has felt that she comes first in all things. You really need to not give her that power anymore and ride it out. Everyone has that kind of person somewhere in their lives...My mother a few weeks ago decided that it was no longer a good idea for me to ever call her again. she did this because of a minor choice I made and she took it as personal...Fine...I am done. I have reached my limit of abuse. I know that she is incapable of love and so there fore I expect nothing from her.. You will have to come to grips with the same conclusion. And realize that love has nothing to do with this. It is not you or her grandmother this is her. She must change and you must keep going... Your weight loss will stall if you don't eat...please look after yourself no matter how painful this is....The grandmother needs your love...Since you have some time to spare now...Give her the extra time and attention and work to figure out how to deal with this....Don't expect her to see it your way.....You have to live around it or plow right through it......

i just worry about possible skin infections and rashes because of the extra skin...I KNOW what I did to my body it really shows in so many ways..Don't need extra skin to remind me..although I have read several Vets who have chosen not to remove the skin for whatever reason....No judgement here...just know I need it gone for myself!

Are you drinking Protein Powder every day...i just had an extreme bout of gas because i drank Protein whey powder 3 days in a row.....Now i will only drink it once in a while like before I started exercising!

Ain't it just to awesome to be true...

I eat 3/4 of a cup of raisin bran every morning with lactose free milk.....It keeps me regular and so I don't count the carb intake as bad......Well I don't count carbs anyway. I eat a little of everything and the only thing I really worry about is Protein intake and Water consumption.... I try very hard not to turn this into another failed diet.....I have talked to my nut and she agrees. We have to live in the world we live in and denying ourselves foods can take us into a failure or another addiction..Obsession with food..... I chose healthier food now and eat a lot better. But Cereal is on my list for 2 reasons. I love the raisins and it keeps me regular...Otherwise the constipation is far worse then a few extra carbs.. If I do eat carbs I try to eat complex.... But that is just me!

hair loss you can look at this thread..lots of advice there: Is there anything more depressing...

Try not to panic...Close your eyes and think of the new you that is about to appear......Here is sending you happy vibes!!!!!!!!!

Patience .......That is my advice. Your body is full of liquid from the IV's and swelling and trying to clear out the meds they gave you while you were in the hospital. It will happen just give it a little more time...And put the scale away......it is not time to start weighing yourself...Okay...

I can reach down and touch my toes with absolutely no issue. Strain or soreness. This from a girl who 15 months ago could not even see her knees let alone her feet.....Exercising is already seeing results!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Now that's a NSV.....Yes me!!!!!!!!!

tonight I was talking to my daughter and saying that I can't have surgery until my BMI is under 30..she said how much weight do you still want to lose. And I said I don't know. I am still so big....she said don't be ridiculous mom..You can't see how small you are at all can you....You are very small mom...I stared at her in disbelief...... Can I believe her..I just don't know!

Thanks, I really do feel like a weenie for complaining about being sick especially knowing what you've been through. I really am happy with my milestone....just in a pity party kind of mood. Kindle..Your sickness is just as real as mine were and are..We have ups and downs, good and bad days.....Today you feel horrible..You have the right to tell us if you want..I read it, I heard it I feel bad for you...It is shitty to be sick anytime....

congratulations on your achievement.....Sorry you are sick though...that is not the best way to lose weight that's for sure

It's not weird at all....Last week my trainer picked me up off the floor with one hand and I gasped and said are you nuts doing that. You could have broken your back...He said I have lifted a lot more weight then you are. I said, "Oh yah sure"....He said, "you know what your problem is..You still have a fat head."..."What," I said. He said, "you still see yourself at 380 lbs." Yup he was right.....We know we are smaller and that we have changed..But it is very hard to see ourselves this new way because we have been heavy for so long....That is the part about fixing the mess our heads are in.....It could be that in your mind there is a reason why you think that way. I know there is in mine...Past experiences when I was down and six people had to pick me up....i can't fathom myself being small enough that only one guy can do it..... I do need to fix that thinking.....One way I read on here was a woman who deliberately went into spaces she was never able to go into. Ex - walking between two people in a corridor, sitting in a booth, sitting in the smallest chair. Things like that..It worked for her! Might be worth a try..