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I am so sorry for your loss. it is very difficult to not turn to the old standard of feel good eating. but I notice that you know that that is not the real deal. you said you know better. Doesn't help the feeling though as it was once your comforter. Now you must find another way to comfort yourself and this one will not be avenue to hurt you any more. Causing poor health. I think your doing great since you recognized how you felt and yet did not indulge. You are much stronger then you think. Your on your way to a new, healthier you. And yes it is normal to feel discomfort. You are not healed at all. Your fresh out of the operating room still. Nothing will feel right for a while yet. Although you did not mention what surgery you had anyone of them affect your system and everything will be off balance for a time......

sorry..poop..lol your too much sometimes kid!

Well it has reared its ugly head again this year and right on time. For some reason and I don't know why I experience a deeper depressive state. I know this because I wake up at night feeling panicked and shaky. I detest it and always hope that next year it won't happen. I used to get extra drugs this time of year to get me through it but I don't have my shrink anymore on call...lol Sure wish I knew a way to lesson the dark feelings that engulf me through March and April......I have never figured it out and have no idea why. There is more sun now and it is getting stronger. So I should really be feeling better. But no!....This is my norm for this time of year! I am fighting the urge to stay in the house and not go outside for anything, and to keep talking as usually I don't talk much when this happens. Possible good thing for hubby!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have a tendency to hide away. Keeping everything as calm and quiet as possible....Basically not living. That is the old me. I have to press on and take myself out of my comfort zones, so I can grow and change and benefit from my new life....It is becoming more and more difficult right now though.... Anyone else suffer a darker and deeper depression this time of year? If so what do you do about it? Do you do what I always do and up my meds for a few months? Just wondering! Thanks!

After 15 months of starting at a place of being completely bald because of my hair all falling out due to complications with my surgery. Today I washed my hair and guess what!!!!!!!!!!!!! I was able to gather my hair up on the top of my head and squeeze the excess Water out of it....And the water trickled down my neck... It felt so strange to say the least....It felt so strange that I noticed it right away.....I am so happy I am not looking at my scalp any longer. It has all filled back in.....I was worried it would never really totally come back, but it did.... The only thing is it is wavy and not straight anymore...i can live with that guys.....oh happy day!!!!!!!!!!!

Revs hun..my hair is like yours. fine and really soft...it is back with a vengeance...yours will come too. the worrying about it not coming back was fruitless...When I got out of the hospital they actually offered me a hat that cancer patients wear....I cried like a baby....... I loved my long blond hair....And it was gone. So I know your frustration. I know it will be in its full glory soon Revs.

I am so sorry about your situation. I know where you are coming from. Usually this time of year they would give me some extra meds to help me through until may. But alas I fired my shrink... I went to my doctor and he gave me some mild sleeping pills and it has not helped the depression but at least I am sleeping at night again... I hate this feeling. So dark and deep...We cannot let it win though...Message me anytime you need me as well.....We can kick it into its rightful place together...k

You deserve every single NSV you get. Sometimes when things come easy we don't appreciate it as much as we would if we had to work for it... And you are working hard to get to where you want to be. I am so happy that you are not getting on your own back when you have a bad time. Frankly we all do at one time or another and you are learning as you go along... I loved this happy event......Forward go girl!!!

Bet you thought having the surgery would be the hardest part right....Nope this is where the work really begins. Until you fix your thinking and figure out why you are snacking like that you will struggle for a while. This is called a journey because it takes time to rebuild the person you want to be. A healthier, happier thinner you. This is part of the great part of having weight loss surgery. It allows you to lose weight while dealing with the issues as they come a long. This is the honeymoon period. We are all in the same boat here dealing with what brought us to this point in our lives. The thing i that if you change your thinking and recognize the triggers that cause you to snack like that. you become aware and are able to say I know why and hopefully replace it with other more productive behavior. Fix the brain and the body will follow. Won't happen over night and we all struggle with it and it will rear its ugly head now and then. You are at the beginning of your journey and I am sure because you have already noticed a problem that you will seek the reasons and the solutions. Don't beat yourself up okay...This is the rest of your life.

I have always had to have some form of Protein at night to get me through to the next day. I small handful of nuts if you can handle it or cheese , yogurt, even a Protein Shake, something that will help you make it through. I have experienced the feeling you are talking about a few times and found that this was the only solution for me. 3 meals at this stage is not enough. Protein intake is so important and if you are only having 3 meals you are not getting in enough. It won't hurt you to have a bit of protein later in the evening.... Okay.

You look good girl....thanks for the pic!!!

Oh please post a picture of you in your new sweater. It would be wonderful to see how far you have come...congratulations on a wonderful NSV!

I had special needs so I hired a trainer who could help me with rebuilding my body from the core. Here is an article you may find helpful in choosing a trainer: http://ezinearticles.com/?Five-Things-to-Look-For-In-Choosing-a-Personal-Trainer&id=150387

You are just melting away kindle! You look great!

I bought 2 more pairs smaller okay..lol these are not skinny jeans you know....too funny!

Okay okay, i wrote I bought two more pairs a size smaller. These are not skinny jeans ladies..lol..Too much.....you guys are hilarious!

Seriously?? They must hand out those "host" badges to any newbie off the street if you really believe that placing a band around someone's stomach isn't less risky than removing their stomach and rerouting their intestines? And acquainting her friend to what I believe are the differences is what I would do. This is an open forum right, or are you the forum Nazi who gets to scold people you disagree with? And I stand by my statement that losing weight with the band is harder than losing with the sleeve or RNY? Chuckle all you want and if you want proof, I can produce. Although, I shouldn't have to since your one of the "Hosts" and supposedly wiser than most?? Let's keep to the subject of the poster who is upset about her friends lack of support. Looks to me like she has posted what she has done about it and is going to do about it as well. This is an open forum but not one that allows personal attacks between members. Please be advised. The rules are here to keep a balance of information and personal experiences to help one another. Thank you for your consideration.

Went out and got a couple more pairs. One size smaller. A light pair with a design on them. I feel like I have been thrown back into the sixties. The other pair are light blue with darker cuffs....Like in the movie Grease....too much!!! LOL

Thank you for that..But it is true....Even when I thought I had a best friend for years I realized that it was only a relationship one way. I am not friends on a personal basis with anyone right now. It is tough but what happened to me over the last several months cleared any doubts I had. I will be okay.......This is part of learning who you are and making changes for the good!

That sounded so wonderful. It made me realize that I have never ever had a true friend. Relationships but not true friendships. Someday I hope I can get me one of those!!!!!

The first thing is you get a fever. then you feel lousy and exhausted ALL the time. You feel extremely full, like you are going to burst. For the first few weeks it is good to periodically check your temp. And if it goes above 100 take it seriously....

There are many, many things that are not made for people like us. I once got stuck in a little car that rolled down a hill. This skinny little Japanese man helped me out of it while everyone else was laughing their heads off. I looked up at the crowd and bowed as if I did it on purpose those bunch of $%#^&. That was the last time I did anything that I was not 100% sure fit me, would hold me or carry me.... Society is not made for the majority of people who believe it or not is over weight people. It is a rejection. The last taboo in the world I think... You have made the decision to help yourself and live to be with family and friends...You are going to be impressed with how many things will fit you in the near future and not break......Keep a log! Go girl go, you got this one!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Wow! Soft food already. At this point people usually only drink broths Protein Drinks and juices. Mushy foods start in week three. Like yogurt and cottage cheese, fruit, eggs, Jello and pudding, or anything you can blend up or mash to a smooth consistency. Then 2 weeks later starting solids. This is a slow process because of your new sleeve. It needs to heal and no longer be swollen. It takes time and at this stage you could be harming it and could cause a complication. I would back off if I were you and give your sleeve a chance to heal. Believe me you don't want complications like a leak!...K

This is a journey not a race. Comparing WLS is like comparing apples to apples. Does not make sense. It is a matter of choice which one you chose to have and it has a lot to do with body type and genes and a lot of other things like activity and so on. There are dozens of differences in people and the way each surgery works. You are happy with your progress and should be. She is over shooting her success and not celebrating your success as well. Friendship is a two way street. She needs to be reminded that you are who you are and she is who she is. And while you are happy for her she in return should be happy for you not trying to make you feel inferior to her. She is not being supportive of your choice and should be reminded that friendships end for less. Being a friend is being happy for another's successes. this is not just about her, your doing it too. It is your journey as well and I would point this out to her. Not that you wish she will not succeed but that both of you will at your own pace... She can be happy but not at your expense ever.......Never at your expense!

Don't you just love it when a plan comes together.... I had a red coat I only wore once and then it got too small. I fit into it and now it is gone to a better place because it is too big for me now..love it! Congrats!

Looking at this pic Revs. I think I am glad that all mine came out after all during my hospital stay. It saved me the fear of seeing that happen to me every other day...i think I would have had a nervous breakdown if that had happened to me like it is happening to you. Soon it will be just a bad memory...Hope your still up on the right amount of Protein and Water...