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Life of the party eh. Bright and future falling into place. Depression makes us comedians in public. So does being over weight. I was the best at it....I could have made a dead man laugh when I was depressed and over weight....We also exceed scholastically...But the issues that causes us to be that way are not fixed...It is suppressed and hidden in a dark place. Chose to continue to be the life of the party all the time when you are thinner. Continue to be smart beyond what is normal after you are thin too. But get your health in order as well and all things will be as 'ducks in a row.' Stop abusing yourself because you think you are not worth it..We all are and you are too....Please rethink all this abuse and seek help, or at least someone to talk to that can listen and share their experience of self destruction......And the way they turned around..You are so worth it! Okay!

That's right girl kick it..Worry about the might's, could, may's or the possibles later and concentrate on today and then tomorrow....You can do this...And keep it forever if you have your mind set changed and you see food as a form nutrition and not comfort... Great so far! Just keep swimming!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

For the first year I was an 'eat by the book' RNYer. Around one year I started getting lax, testing my dietary boundaries, resulting in my first dumping experiences. So I'm back to following the rules religiously. I'm thankful for the dumping experiences nipping my bad choices in the bud. In my past bad food choices snowball into disaster very quickly. Each one of us has to make choices based on their own weaknesses, strengths, needs, and lifestyles. I am a person who needs very strict rules to keep me on track. It works for me but may not be good for someone else. We all need to find our own way to eat that helps us to be successful long term. :-) No way am I saying that it is alright to chow down on junk food at all. But I am human and I know that for those who are just starting out it is a great idea to follow the yellow brick road and work that honeymoon period for all it's worth. Take advantage of the tool to lose lbs. and change your brain (thinking) for the better....Solve the issues..Make plans to do whatever it takes to not go backwards when trouble begins......hard times happen and sadness takes over. However and I say this because it is how I feel. If I can't learn to eat in the real world when I am faced with real food. Then I failed at retraining my brain to see food as nutrition and not a form of comfort. Like I said before if someone says they never cheat...Well if they haven't they will. And if they have been at this a long time they have cheated..In the terms that is mentioned in this thread. One cookie, not the box full! I don't see Pasta as cheating or potatoes, rice or real butter. pizza is one of my personal pet peeves on here....It is not the devil. We are the problem and therefore have to learn to change how we deal with stress or whatever it was that got us here. Going overboard in anything is never good. And I mean anything........Moderation and balance are the key to success. Trust me we all know when we are over shooting the mark of moderation! And when you do hit goal we seriously need to are watchful. Having a plan in place for when it is your going up five lbs.. To be able to lose it again....Ever watchful..But not fanatical...Otherwise we set ourselves up again to do what we did before whenever we started a failed diet. Deny ourselves everything until we feel like we can't take it anymore. And little by little go back to our old ways......

For the first time since I started this journey I am like most others at this stage. I can gain a few lbs. over a weekend of thoughtless eating...( not totally planned ) I have a 5 lb limit and now I weigh myself every Sunday and if the scale reaches its mark I am back to the grind and love it, just as much as I love all parts of this journey. It goes with the program I think. Sometimes I am slack but just up to 5 lbs no more...Then I am back in full force......I am so happy I have reached this stage like others who have traveled before me. I now have a better idea of how it is supposed to be. I love it that I am here.....And I will fight the fight for the rest of my life..5 lbs. at a time.......up and down!!!!!!!

If you get any of these WLS's there should be no need to switch up unless something bad happens like slippage or me who had everything go wrong except death. They all get the job done if you do the work... I ended up with a Roux en Y because of complications with the sleeve. Otherwise..It would have just been the sleeve and no other....

I actually have a bite or three. I know that I am not conventional on this site or forum. But for me..it will not subside until I hit it with the real thing. i follow my nuts advise: I live in the real world and eat real food. Mostly I eat clean and that is much better then I ever have in my life. I mostly see everything as a part of my program. Maybe chocolate is questionable. I can't eat like I used to and most of the time I eat by the clock. Anyone that has been at this for a while and says that they don't have a treat now and then is let's say...not telling the truth! lol But if it is pop corn or cheese cake, they win a lot! Okay no picking on me..That is how I feel about it!!!!!!!!!!

I had the same experience kinda...Other then migraines caused by the weight pressing on my spine. I was going to the Lap band and ended up with the sleeve. Then I got totally invested in the sleeve. I love my sleeve.... Not saying anything about the other surgeries but the reason I went for it was because of the importance of nutrient absorption. Sure my experience turned out that I had a by pass as well. But I have the sleeve for quicker absorption of food.

Send an email to Alex and an example of what you would like to say and he will give you the thumbs up or not.. Personally. I think you are a natural! Alex is always looking for new perspectives and I think you the bomb... Thanks for your remembering me...I was thinking Guinness book of records for me on complications via WLS...lol

Loved your experience. You are a wonderful writer....One problem though....I personally have set records for complications where you and no one else has or would possibly be prepared for...... That said I would do it again in a heartbeat... Loved your statement, and is so true, 'Obesity is a medical problem; WLS is a medical solution.' You should put this in the article section. It is well put and beautifully written like I said already...Congrats on an easy journey.......

I have to tell you.. I love a dad who spends time making sand castles with his child...Whether you carry your weight well or not. Your health is the issue here and I think you have had enough of it.. Good for you for taking the plunge to improve yourself and the benefits it will bring to you and your family...That little one will benefit by your energy boost! I applaud your spit to be so open on here.....

I am so happy for you..Write that down and keep track of the wonderful NSV's and then you can look at them all later and be totally stoked at the changes in your life.....

Oh you silly girl ..................... I would kill to have my girls back....Mine are hanging to my waist and need to be rolled up into my bra...Please be careful for what you wish for....I have to have plastics to fix mine..Oh would I like to have some of them back...lol It's not over yet and maybe you will lose them yet. Be happy you still have those.....Some of us, well it ain't pretty!

It seems to me like it is a tug of war...Phone the Pasta place and ask what is on the menu..they may very will have salads and other types of carbs. Like complex to make a complete Protein for your healthy eating program. Tug of war will only force a conflict. She knows what your doing and you know what she is doing. She felt safe with you being close to her weight and eating what she was eating...Sorta like fellows in crime thing.... I am so proud of you for wanting to get healthy. Trust me you won't regret it... But your friend is not ready and knows that she is going to be faced with all the reasons why she herself is not going there.. It is a hard road to follow when you see others change in front of you... Is she a good friend that you don't want to lose....Then be gentle unless it comes to a battle of wills...Then it will be up to you to decide if the friendship will still be worth it.. If a person does not support you then they are not a friend....

Oh please, please, please don't judge your weight loss by another's. It does not go well when we do that. It just discourages us and makes us feel like we failed or are not good enough. There are so many different reasons why people don't lose the same amount of weight. Genes, age, height, bone structure, activity levels, health, treatments, illnesses, programs that we are encouraged to follow......On and on we go. You are you and I am I and if I lose 20 lbs less then you in the same time frame as you then why shouldn't I be happy. If you took that 20 lbs of butter and placed it on the table in front of you it would be a lot. Put the scale away and don't do this to yourself. Check yourself and see the differences by how you feel, clothes and activity level. Weigh once a month or at the most 2 times a month for now. Enjoy the journey, no matter how long it takes. This is your ride. No one else's..okay!

I am so happy for you as well...A lot of great things in your future...Your's for the taking.....Congrats!!!!!

First of all this change can play havoc on your system. Emotions, mental, physical...whatever. But if you are in a negative state I would get back on your meds and contact your Dr. I took liquid anti depressants in the hospital and believe me..I would rather cut the suckers up then go through that again...nasty!

Keep on smiling little one.......We are all rooting for you here on the other side of surgery......Soon you will be a loser like us....LOL

Wonderful for you kid! Keep swimming and this is only the beginning of your NSV. Write them down so you can look at them later and read all the changes you have made and where you are and who you have become and then you will find you will never want to go back...

Got the same comments from 3 different people last weekend. they were all staying at my house. One I just met. The other two were friends I had not seen in 10 years. All knew someone who had the surgery. Unsure which one though but had either only lost a fraction of weight. Not enough to make it worth it. Or one that kept tons of sweets in a desk drawer at her desk and she was not losing..And a third that is bigger now then when she had the surgery a couple of years ago! Did not bother me one little bit. i had all the answers in my back pocket and explained the possibilities for all of the stories and this led them to all kinds of questions regarding WLS. I know that this surgery will not fail me. I can however fail it if I don't see it as a tool and not as a miracle cure...With that knowledge and the retraining of our thinking about how we use food. We will succeed. Maybe not today or tomorrow..But we will come to terms with the new us and that is all she wrote!

I am so, so sorry for all your losses. This is a multiple tragedy that you are right is almost too much to bear. if you need me, PM me and I will listen. Jane

Start logging your intake and count calories again. Go back to basics and take a few days of liquid Protein only. Then next eat in this fashion....Protein, veggies, fruit. and then carbs. Best to eat complex carbs for the best results of nutrition. Some people finish where you are and others lose more. It depends on your body type and if you are still on point then maybe you are done and need to maintain. Watch stress eating it can be a real challenge...Try to stay between 5-10 lbs without going over 10 in gain......Maybe you might want to look into the 5-2 plan on here. A lot seem to feel it works.......

Well if he gets you where you need to be go for it...But at the end he is going to treat others the same way he treated you. Imagine if that was your mom or your daughter. You would lose it...In the end when you are where you want to be..I think you need to talk to him and let him know your rights as a fellow human being and let him know what he did and the way you felt.... I just recently did that to a Dr. that did not give a rats behind about me because of my weight in the past. I had to see him again and he was so nice it made me want to puke. He remembered me just a little but did not remember treating me with such rudeness. Selective memories....Don't leave it as long as I did. As when I talked to him the entire conversation was way over his head....

lol...yes RJ...that was your outside voice. Not me, not me...lol

You'll find them every where! The real trick is to not let them get away with it! It is up to you to walk out and or bitch slap them in the head....No but you can picture it and laugh in front of her/him! And then turn serious and walk the hell out..Then make the calls and call him/her a rat bastard! Did I say that!?