RJ'S/beginning

TY guys

Skinny jeans! Bah,ha,ha! True though.

Just tell them that you got it. And if you need them you will ask. And leave it at that. But on the other hand if you start to have problems and they are this supportive. I would find others to talk to because they maybe won't be so willing to help. I know myself. I get pretty excited about WLS. And talk to anyone who will listen. Mostly now though except here. I wait until someone asks me a question.

Isn't it wonderful to see progress! Congrats!

No..They can fix it and you should be able to have the surgery as a tool to help you. this is what is happening to my sister. They have to find out the reason. They feel it is her metabolic rate that is down. It would be a good thing to check so that they know why you did not lose weight. All good! okay

You look to damn good to care what she thinks or anyone else for that matter. You did great kid!

Ask them to check your metabolic rate. My sister stayed the exact weight for over a few months of a well monitored diet program. They are now checking her metabolic rate because they said if that is off she won't lose weight even with surgery. It might be worth a shot!

Well I think it could have been much worse...Like double chocolate cake with whipped frosting. It was peanuts. High protein and fiber. Next time take a 1/4 cup if you want to enjoy them. Eat slowly...one at a time. Enjoy the crunch! OKAY!

I took a friend to the hospital today for tests. After they told me I could go get my car and pick her up outside the front entrance. So I was walking a long and there was a mom and a little girl behind me.... The little girl was chattering away about everything and nothing. Then she stops and says, 'mommy why is that lady's leg so little?' I knew she was talking about me because we were the only ones around. Her mother did not miss a beat! She said,' honey I think she was born with them like that.' I looked around and the mother smiled faintly at me hoping I did not hear. I smiled back. I thought, " you should have seen me two years ago, they would have been hidden from view." Is that a NSV or just an observation by a little girl with big blue eyes!

AAAAAAAAAAAAWWWWWWWWWWWWEEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSOOOOOOOMMMMMMMMMMMEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!

Yeah! going through this last two years of hell has left me with the feeling of ' boy do I want to be fat again.' NOT!!!!!!! Couldn't be happier..No matter how much skin is hanging around! ha!

I'm 56 and will never tell my mother ever as long as I live. she is 80 and as mean as they come! She would never get it!

The interesting thing about people with dementia is they have no filter. They say what pops into their minds...she probably thought that very thing about you and was completely honest in her observation....that is something about that illness.... My mother in law had it and she started to love me and hate her children. lol before she got that she loved her children and hated me....See she did figure it out after all......

The other day I lost it on the phone with a company that made peach muffins. You know why! Because she did not care that there were no peaches in my peach muffin. On this program you have to choose your eats. And I waited all day to eat half of that muffin..... I hate losing my cool. And most of the time I don't.....And as it was happening I said to myself...What is going on here?..Who is this woman screaming over a peach muffin?.A peach muffin for goodness sake....It wasn't even anything that was important! So I would like to take this opportunity to apologize to the girl on the other end of the phone...I am not usually like that! If you read this I am so sorry!

Are we resilient in our weight loss journey? Do we know our weaknesses and strengths and fight the urges to give into our old ways? Do we still use food as a form of comfort, celebration, reward, socialization and escape from the feelings we are having at that moment, good or bad! Can we push our way through these deep rooted emotions and become healthy and happy? Pushing Your Way Through I have a few Hollyhocks in my garden that just grew there. I did not plant them. I did not take the time to make a place for them so that they would stand out as specimen plants. No tender loving care was bestowed on these flowers to help them become the plants I found stunning and beautiful with their rich outer color of burgundy with soft pink centers. What a delight to find these treasures in my garden. They found their way into my world without so much as a finger lifted on my part. Before this summer I saw Hollyhocks as a simple, common plant. To someone else it is possible that they are the gem of plants. Maybe a reminder of the good old days when things were simple and sweet. My grandmother grew hers around back of the old outhouse on her farm. That is how I remember them. How did they come into my garden? The seed was most likely transferred in the breeze and made its way to me. Even though I did nothing to help them grow and take root in my garden, I have come to see that they now belong there. They did all the work and I now admire them for their resilience. When referring to ecological resilience, it is the ability to return to its original state after being disturbed. You see, about nine or ten years ago I pulled every single Hollyhock out of my garden replacing them with other tall flowers. I had not seen any trace of them since. But now there are new ones. They were insistent and settled themselves in among the other plants and kept pushing until they stood tall and bloomed in all their glory. Resilience has yet another meaning. It is the ability to make realistic plans , being capable of taking the necessary steps to follow through. A positive self-concept and confidence in ones strengths and abilities. Having communication and problem-solving skills. And the ability to manage strong impulses and feelings. Are we resilient in our weight loss journey? Do we know our weaknesses and strengths and fight the urges to give into our old ways? Do we still use food as a form of comfort, celebration, reward, socialization and escape from the feelings we are having at that moment, good or bad! Can we push our way through these deep rooted emotions and become healthy and happy? Or are we easily stomped out and have little to no strength and will power when it gets difficult. Becoming overwhelmed by other things that can easily crowd out our conviction to reach our goals. By retraining our brains, finding our trigger points and looking at food in a new light we can win this battle and become successful in our endeavor to feel better and healthier. Having real control. Finally putting dieting in the past and living each day a new. Learning more and more how we can win the war not just the battle of obesity. The odds are against us, our past experiences of weight loss and regain have made us timorous about our future and our weight management. At those times maybe we were not ready or we denied ourselves food or it was a fad diet of some sort that we had to follow. Whatever it was. That is in the past! Now is the time to see a new and improved you with a brighter future of no weight related health issues. A busier and more fulfilled life ahead of us. If we really want it, it is there for the taking. Weight loss surgery is the tool that will give us the time we need to get help to fix why we became obese in the first place. No one said it was going to be easy. No wait! Those who have not experienced what it takes mentally, emotionally and physically to be successful might not understand all of it and use the over used quote, ' you are taking the easy way out.' But no matter. It is about us forcing our way through the hard times, the painful times and yes even the good times. Like the Hollyhocks in my garden that planted themselves there against all probability. We too can push our way through and plant ourselves in the garden of life with a new healthier us with a bright and colorful future ahead of us with the help of one of the weight loss surgeries that are available to us.

Thank you FairySleeve. That was nice of you to say!

Every singles person on this site understands where you are coming from We all had and have the same fears as you. But if you don't look at the journey as a whole and see it one step at a time. One inch at a time. One lb at a time it will be easier for you. Everyone here is biting at the bit to aide you in the things you are not sure of and will be thereto support you. There are lots of threads on here about different aspects of the journey you can gleam to learn more. Enjoy the new decision you have made for yourself. There will be a whole slew of things that will bring you joy and more that will worry you. But as the weight starts to come off you will really start to enjoy the new you emerging. Keep writing down your thought and all The non scale victories as well. It just keeps getting better and better and you unfold into a new healthier and happier you!

Are you sure it was your husband burping you and not something ? Emotions can run high on this journey and when something as simple so we think like burping can become the last straw. Be happy hubby found an answer for you.... This emotional part of it all passes and comes and passes again...Part of the journey!

I laughed....I had this notion he was going to grab you and hug you tightly..... So glad about your NSV...Write them down so that you can remember them Keep them coming!

Pushing Your Way Through I have a few Hollyhocks in my garden that just grew there. I did not plant them. I did not take the time to make a place for them so that they would stand out as specimen plants. No tender loving care was bestowed on these flowers to help them become the plants I found stunning and beautiful with their rich outer color of burgundy with soft pink centers. What a delight to find these treasures in my garden. They found their way into my world without so much as a finger lifted on my part. Before this summer I saw Hollyhocks as a simple, common plant. To someone else it is possible that they are the gem of plants. Maybe a reminder of the good old days when things were simple and sweet. My grandmother grew hers around back of the old outhouse on her farm. That is how I remember them. How did they come into my garden? The seed was most likely transferred in the breeze and made its way to me. Even though I did nothing to help them grow and take root in my garden, I have come to see that they now belong there. They did all the work and I now admire them for their resilience. When referring to ecological resilience, it is the ability to return to its original state after being disturbed. You see, about nine or ten years ago I pulled every single Hollyhock out of my garden replacing them with other tall flowers. I had not seen any trace of them since. But now there are new ones. They were insistent and settled themselves in among the other plants and kept pushing until they stood tall and bloomed in all their glory. Resilience has yet another meaning. It is the ability to make realistic plans , being capable of taking the necessary steps to follow through. A positive self-concept and confidence in ones strengths and abilities. Having communication and problem-solving skills. And the ability to manage strong impulses and feelings. Are we resilient in our weight loss journey? Do we know our weaknesses and strengths and fight the urges to give into our old ways? Do we still use food as a form of comfort, celebration, reward, socialization and escape from the feelings we are having at that moment, good or bad! Can we push our way through these deep rooted emotions and become healthy and happy? Or are we easily stomped out and have little to no strength and will power when it gets difficult. Becoming overwhelmed by other things that can easily crowd out our conviction to reach our goals. By retraining our brains, finding our trigger points and looking at food in a new light we can win this battle and become successful in our endeavor to feel better and healthier. Having real control. Finally putting dieting in the past and living each day a new. Learning more and more how we can win the war not just the battle of obesity. The odds are against us, our past experiences of weight loss and regain have made us timorous about our future and our weight management. At those times maybe we were not ready or we denied ourselves food or it was a fad diet of some sort that we had to follow. Whatever it was. That is in the past! Now is the time to see a new and improved you with a brighter future of no weight related health issues. A busier and more fulfilled life ahead of us. If we really want it, it is there for the taking. Weight loss surgery is the tool that will give us the time we need to get help to fix why we became obese in the first place. No one said it was going to be easy. No wait! Those who have not experienced what it takes mentally, emotionally and physically to be successful might not understand all of it and use the over used quote, ' you are taking the easy way out.' But no matter. It is about us forcing our way through the hard times, the painful times and yes even the good times. Like the Hollyhocks in my garden that planted themselves there against all probability. We too can push our way through and plant ourselves in the garden of life with a new healthier us with a bright and colorful future ahead of us with the help of one of the weight loss surgeries that are available to us.

It will be something all the time. Body image is what we will fight our entire lives. I know that when they do plastics on me there will be quite the decision making on the part of the surgeon. Since everything that has happened to me in life and through this surgery. I am covered in scars. I don't care. All I am asking is for the lose skin to be gone. So I won't look so distorted. Anything else for me will be gravy. Through all this journey your health is the number one goal. Looks well they are in there somewhere. There are people who have big scars on their arms. The woman chef on 'Top Chef' has not slowed her down.... Look hard with yourself and say who cares I know where I've been and I know where I'm going and do it anyway.......I admire your strength to get plastics. I too will do it... Can we see some photos of the new you!

They obviously weren't real friends anyway. No lose there. There are billions of people out there and I am sure you can find others who share your new interests like exercising. I lost all of mine too but starting to make new ones. Those who are interested in me and not what I can do for them.... Body image will be an issue for a long time, maybe as long as you live. But you have to remember that you are not that weight anymore and you should be proud of yourself....Keep posting your worries and we will help encourage you to see the new you and Celebrate it even if you are visually impaired. You are still the new and improved you. Enjoy it okay! Every day!

All meals should include Protein first. That is number 1. Two you need at least 1000-1200 calories a day. Your body will stop losing if it feels threatened at all. ( she's starving me so I will store food ) Water 64 oz. The fact that you are losing is a positive right. Comparing yourself to others is only going to discourage you and sabotage yourself. Take 2 lbs. of butter and put it on the table. Pick it up with one hand and feel how much it actually weighs. you will be surprised you carried that extra weight. Take 26 lbs of butter and put them on the table and try to lift that. You need to step back and think am I like everyone else. Does my body react like everyone else's. The answer is no! We are all different in makeup and back ground and genes and circumstances. Keep up the exercises and keep your goals ahead of you. This is not a race..This is a lifetime battle and although we can encourage and help each other. Your journey is different then mine! okay

All the toxins that have been in your system are starting to come out through your pores. Every lb. Is letting go of toxins that were stored there. Good thing really! Just do your usual facial treatments and it will soon get better.