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I am sorry that I did not use a gentle tone on this thread. I am not perfect. I truly am not! I just feel out of control and so hurt and in so much pain that I spoke first. Sorry @@GummyTummy

I don't begrudge anything I have done or what I have done for others. Here or anywhere else. I was just so taken back by it all and the pain was the worst I have ever felt and that includes being abused about being obese in the past. I have to wait as he is not for me that is sure. I just was really really looking forward to this part. Where you know ( your gonna make it after all ) feeling. It is hard to explain. Since 2000 my life has been on a down hill spiral and I was so excited to get to this place finally. And like everything else I will have to fight, fight and fight some more to get it done. You know I may never be able to ride a bike, a horse, go kayaking, travel more then 3 hours by car. Go skating or hiking so many things are on hold and may never get fixed. I found that out on Tuesday, Wed. I found out that my ulcer has healed and then Thursday I got this news. 1 out of 3 is not good odds.

I did not have an issue telling him that I just wanted the lower body lift and the mid section tucked as well. I said I would worry about the rest down the road. Meaning my breasts and maybe arms and legs. I can live with them. i won't wear shorts and I can always wear long sleeves. I chose the parts that can cause serious health issues with rashes and open sores in the future as have in the past. It was he who looked at me and said oh no you need extensive work just to get curvature. Then he explained everything I needed. I felt worse and worse and worse as he talked like I knew nothing about what I wanted. I never wanted to look like Barbie. That is not my thing. I just want the issues that can cause issues to be worked on. I live in Canada. And the health care system is a different kettle of fish compared to the States or anywhere else. We are not up to the quality of service here. When you do get someone who is great you hang on with dear life. Most are not that great because there are only a few in each area. So choosing is a problem. We will see what happens. I am sorry if I said too much or scared anyone. Or made it seem as if I think what happened to me is more then what happened to Jesus. I have no idea how you can compare the two. This is a forum and thread that is talking about my issue with my plastic surgeon. Not what I feel about Christ. That is my business. I am getting tired of all the crap that I have had to deal with and it is wearing on me. And now that I am finally to a point where something can be done to put this behind me and I can maybe move on with my life is important to me. If you don't think it is important to get to a point where you can live your life, without something else going wrong: then I think that you are a much stronger person then me. Trust me..I know there are other things to deal with.....I'm doing my best..I just feel like I have yet another hard long battle on my hands when I was really hoping I would finally be on the other side.

Countless other WLS patients have had it all paid for if the right words are said. the problem is that I have a problem with infection since I went septic so I am flagged to go to the best and get them to help me. I did not feel that bad about myself before I went to him. but it was the way his eyes and expression changed when I took the coat off. He literally looked shocked. And tried to keep steady.....It was like a punch in the gut. He started by telling me that health care would only pay for a little bit of it. 1 procedure. But others have had all of it covered. Then he mentioned extensive just to get curvature in my body. No he never said gross. But I could tell by the way he used his 2 fingers working my body that it was like picking up a snot rag and tossing it into the trash. His face mirrored the same look. It was horrible. My husband said that he and his secretary kept taking peaks at him. He thinks they were checking him out to see if we had money. I did not even get out of the building before I collapsed and sobbed. I phoned my team this morning and the nurse started to cry as I told her what happened. She says I need another opinion. which is fine but what if the new surgeon sees me the same way. Can my opinion of myself take the abuse. 3 days a go I was told by 3 different people that I looked like a model. And yesterday. A look of pure disgust was on this mans face. Yes if it were someone else I would have lots to say and try to be helpful. I can't possibly have the right thinking all the time. Like everyone else on this board I have a right to be sad about what has happened and the time to get over it... Thanks @@auntjanny @@finediva

You need to update your profile it says there that you are pre-op so you can't have the dumping syndrome known with sleeve or bypass. If you have had either of these then you need to write down the things that make you dump and leave them off your list until you get stronger and your belly and system can handle them. Almost 2 years out and just finally was able to eat some beef. When we are ready our bodies might let us eat it. But for now. Take note of the things that happen to you and the changes good and bad will help.

Rosie is known for her outrageous comments! Of course she is going to criticize other surgeries because she did not choose that one. Does not make her view on the View right. Somewhere out people will start to realize that all weight loss surgeries are the tool for those of us that are at that point in our lives where we need help. Like she did! That is what she should be focusing on not the procedures themselves. I don't watch the view either. Too jumbled with a lot of tension.

I went to the hospital and had my scope today. Findings------- everything is fine. There is no trace of the ulcer. No scaring at all. Everything looks good, healthy and pink! I could not stop smiling about that. Then I visited with a woman who has had several complications. Some like me some worse. I hoped that I might encourage her. She was lovely and thanked me over and over again for coming. She seemed very happy that I came. I know that if someone like me had visited me ( one who had experienced many problems and are coming out the other side ) when I was in the hospital that 5.5 months I would not have felt so hopeless. It made me feel so good to be there for her!

Way to go Alex. You look great by the way! You have been there for so many. We thank you!!!!!

I was so happy!

Buyers remorse and slow weight loss are on track as far as you are concerned. You are looking at numbers when your body is still trying to heal. If you are following the plan, you will lose weight. Now the best thing to do would be to not weigh yourself for a month and then you will find that you will have lost. This weighing yourself all the time is a recipe for discouragement and self sabotage. Put the scale away for now okay! Just about everyone has buyers remorse. This too will pass as the lbs start to go down. Put 8 pounds of butter on the table and pick it up. That is how much you have lost so far since Aug.4th. Every pound lost is a lb of butter in your head. It is all good kid!

Don't let her sabotage you by getting into your head. You have let her in. Now kick her out. Stop answering the phone so much. Be outside or in the tub or cleaning the frig. That is too much for anyone to bear. You need positive feed back not negative. Put it where it belongs. In the trash!

I had several. I could write a book! No joke my life was one eye opener after another...Cheer up your gonna do great!

I can't imagine anyone being that mean about you Indigo Your so dam cute! I would not call her an acquaintance anymore if I were you hun! She is a freaking stranger! Treat her as such, the b***h.

You are going to do great! Welcome to the losers bench!

The drain entrance will leak a little and or a little more. Just dab it gently and wear a band aide for a few days until it dries up. There may even form a bump where the liquid has gathered. But it is not to worry about. The only thing is if it is green or funky smelling accompanied by fever. Then go get it checked out...okay

I have been told twice recently that I am so skinny. I love this. My dream come true. Who knew that I would cause such issues even among my slim friends who only want the best for me. I love what my sleeve did for me!!!!!!!!! And I love that it is still helping me stay this way!!!!! modern medical science.....I tip my hat to you in this area.

LOL..ha ha most likely he would have said nope! I think you got this one kid!

LOL you guys a funny!

Keep a close eye on your temperature and if you feel pain in the left side under your ribs. Also tight tummy. Okay! If your temp goes up go to the ER okay!

You go girl @@FairySleeve Before you know it they will be telling you to get a grip like they do me and that you are way to skinny....Love that word...lol

Mine didn't either.

At least 10 months. Oh yes I forgot I was a mess. lol Glad all the rest of you had fun early on....

You know something. You can ask them if any of them even have one inkling of what you fight with. How you are starting from the ground up to rebuild yourself. Ask the thin and always been thin folks on your team if they have any knowledge about how you are fighting and struggling to win this war of obesity. Then as long as you don't gain. Which you probably haven't, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and go forward. It will never be over for us. We will work at it a long time. It is a journey not a sprint! No one really gets it until they have to battle it like us...We really have a battle on our hands. But most of us win in because we never see a mistake as the finish line and you can't either. Okay hun!

Calm yourself little one. You will do fine and deal as the needs arise. Right now is a new beginning for you. I remember it so well for me. I could not wait. Enjoy every single minute of your journey. Write down the positives and read them over and over again. You know why you are here and you know where you want to be. Go for it and don't look back. Join the millions that are taking control of their health and well being..You got this!!!!!

It will happen. Taking in liquids is a little slower then taking in solids. Wait a couple more days and then ask for a softener. It should help....