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like I said I was not expecting the happy dance. But in the past when I came in there with issues it was always my weight. Now it is WLS. No one seems to be content with what ever you do. It is disheartening at times. I paid dearly for this and happy to have done it. You would think if he had nothing nice to say don't comment at all. I hope he wasn't thinking oh she took the easy way out...Because if he had said that I would have crushed him! Not joking either!

Congrats! Just keep swimming!

Holy crap. Why so bruised. i had 12 holes when all was said and done and did not bruise like that in the incision areas. WOW! Caster oil girl. Hit them with it every day and the scars will soften. It is the only thing that penetrates scar tissue!

I have had little or no support here since I had my surgery. Everyone who finds out in the medical field looks at me like I have lost my mind. They never treat me and always send me back where I got the surgery. I don't get it I really don't. I am in the public eye because of my complications. But no one seems to be interested in it all at all. Even when I explained to him that I had complications he did not let me finish. He just said yah, yah. And I stopped talking! It is really cold here if you have had WLS.

You know what the thing is @@Babbs he was well in the obese zone himself and was eating every time I saw him after that. And every time I saw him after that he looked me up and down. Like he really wanted to say something else but thought better of it.....

It would be wonderful if that remained that way but most people find that their fighting the old battles after a time. I fight carbs all the time esp. sweets. I try to limit to baby Cookies or tea biscuits. Not every day but most times when cravings hit. On the other hand I can't stand tuna. But eat a lot of Beans and fish. I have been having issues with beef. On and off relationship. Pork as well does not like me. I am always trying new things now to find eating interesting because I can only eat so much eh. Getting the most bang for my buck. Good luck!

I wish I could Alex! dang.

This Kindle is where you inferred that you can't lie which implied that those who don't tell the four corners of the earth are. Everyone lies! Everyone does it daily in one way or another. To say I was not raised that way is a noble gesture. I was not raised that way either. Does not mean that I don't lie. I am not a pathological liar. Those are the scary ones.

Yup it is true. She took the poll when I was in the hospital with complications due to my choices. We have only talked once and that was the time she told me she had done that. We have had no conversations since. I thought we were friends. But then I thought I was friends with others who dumped me too. I thought for a while I must be a horrible person. But I think what I was was a person who did a lot for others and when it came time for me to need them. They were just to busy to even care. Artificial friends! I have a bunch..Anyone looking for some! LOL

Sorry should have been clearer. Yes nutritionist. This one specializes in Bariatrics so she is very helpful....

Her words not mine....lol! I doubt you would allow yourself to fail..I think you got this!

I know what you were referring to. I too think that nuts in the traditional way can be demeaning to us. I mean who really should follow the 5 food groups? Who even came up with that? And I think it was formed in the 50's. Hello. Times have changed get cracking with the times. I know it was not personal. I just wanted to let you know that there are some out there that really know their stuff. I got one. One thing went right eh.. But you are right, most of them are stuck on the 5 major food groups and they have little bed side manner.

My nut is part of the Bariatric team. She is like no other nut. She believes in moderation and balance in all things except things that can hurt your surgery. You would be thrilled to have her. She is amazing and has been there for me whenever I have needed her. She taught me to eat again after 5.5 months of not eating. She believes we live in the real world and need to eat in the real world. I am not brain washed, I have learned a lot from this lady!

I am a tea drinker. I drink more tea now then I ever had before. One in the morning. The mug is the size of New York City. lol 1 at three, a British thing you know. And one after dinner to wind down my long day! My nut told me there are worse things I could be doing. I took her at her word and that is what I do.

If I were you I would limit my time with her for now. I would also not give her dietary advice as she is angry and this will only make her retaliate. You do what is right for you and leave her be. She has to come to grips with her own issues. You yours! For now you have to concentrate on what made you tick. What drew you to food as a comfort and work to change your thinking. This is a time for you to think of you and only you. It sounds selfish but so what.It is your time okay. Also we allow others to treat us the way WE think we should be treated. It is time to stop the abuse and let it be one of the issues you will work on to make you feel better about yourself. Enough is enough! It is never to late to change things up.

It expands your stomach and since we have little room it can cause some serious issues. Also it is a big red flag as there is no nutritional value to it at all and pushes the need for artificial sugars or the refined sugar to the extreme. My nut told me that if she sees a patient who drinks soda of any kind it means they are doomed. I took that seriously. I do not drink soda of any kind. Others can handle it. Me nope, and now that I have hypoglycemia (reactive) It is no longer even a thought.

Everything we eat turns into glucose. but eating Protein first gives you more bang for your buck. It is the backbone of WLS. We can not get everything we need by eating so that is why we take Vitamins. Protein also builds muscle and body strength and promotes all the important sources to keep us strong and healthy. It is the most important element of the WLS program. Next Water and vitamins. That being said it is good to have a little of everything in your program. Healthy eating is the key. Taking the bread with a protein makes it a complete protein. So many ways yo get what you need. I eat bread. I eat Pasta and rice and potatoes. I even have a sweet now and then. I believe that we need it all to make it a success. We live in the real world and so we must learn to eat in the real world. Eating carrot sticks boiled eggs and celery never worked for me before. So moderation in all things is the key and balance. Reteaching your brain to see food as nourishment and not a form of comfort will help you learn to control your emotions. I am not leaving anything out of my diet or program. I think it has a bad effect down the road. Eat the bread but make a healthy choice when you do so.

Lets see here 1) almost 2 years out and can drink more at a time but cannot chug still. It hurts like hello! 2) Time and tender loving care will help you gain your strength back. Don't be in such a rush and take the time you need to heal. You will have major surgery! 3) Never. Everything has changed for me and about me. I am not the person I was when I had WLS. 4)I suffer from extreme depression and high anxiety. For some this does go away..For me nope! Dealing one day at a time! It all depends on you and how your body reacts to things. We are all different. And we react different to changes and stress and even good things. you will be okay...Just keep asking questions and researching your choices.

I have always been the heaviest of all my siblings. Except for 5 years. My older sister by 2 years held back that she weighed 1 lb heavier then me for that time. As I gained weight and she did as well. she was much relieved that I had passed her and her children and she herself made reference to it several times over the years. Now I am smaller then most of them and because of distance and lack of association they are not able to connect the difference in me. So for now they feel safe with their heavier selves. Life is a funny thing. I feel so sad for those who define themselves by whether someone is heavier then themselves. Sad and pathetic! She really needs to let you do what you think is best and only interfere if you get to be too small and your health is affected by that. Let her deal with her issues while you are dealing with yours.

My entire body got smaller. Except my ears and nose. I think it was due to lack of muscle mass after my coma. But I take a smaller ring size then I did as a skinny teenager. Go figure!

I personally don't care when a person decides to have WLS. I can see that all the bad shows and how they make us look like as obese people can scare the shit out of folks. Obesity can lead to morbidly obese. We all started somewhere in the wrong direction. I think these folks made or make a preempted strike concerning the fight against obesity. I for one wish I had thought of it before when I finished my 20th attempt at dieting. It would have saved me a lot of pain ( emotionally and physically ) So not all of us who started out this journey morbidly obese are upset about those who have to lose 30-50 lbs and get the surgery. Please don't put us into one category. It is like saying that all tomatoes are red!

Your not that big! I'll leave you to it girl then.....

I would so love to walk away from this thread and could if the madness would just stop. Who else is monitoring this thread. It can't just be me.! Right!? ALEX! Help!

I think you had way more freakin fun then I ever did @@LipstickLady I never knew you were such a wild card! But I agree with you. WLS does not define me either. I like to think other things have and that they have made me who I am. No how much I weighed or weigh now. I do think that helping other WLS patients is a must. And you do that as well. Bravo for your exposure of the real girl behind the lips!

Holy smokes @@LipstickLady and I see eye to eye on something..... Well said girl!