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You will have good days and bad days for a while.....Your body is telling you you are doing too much...Relax a bit when you have the tired days. You'll find you will feel much better the following day... This is all part of listening to your body......K

It is a thrill to buy some smaller clothes girl...you work it and forget about all the others......

I took 3 regular strength Tylenol for my pain when I got home......That is the only pain killer my surgeon would let me take....I got addicted to the pain meds. in the hospital and had to do detox.....grrrrrrr..... now it is just Tylenol or nothing for me...Most of the time it is nothing!!!

My surgeon recommended 6 small meal a day...3 meals, 3 snacks.....I found that hard so only did it a few days..... I find 10 months out that I eat 3 meals and 1 snack at night..If I don't eat a snack at night 3 am..I am up looking for a piece of cheese... You need to add more to your diet......Don't starve because your body will go into protect it stage and you will not lose much.... Protein is the clue to weight loss on this journey...That and Water and I hate saying this but eventually exercise as well.....bla!!!!

Never mind what anyone says.....just keep swimming, just keep swimming.....

I agree with you....we have taken this on because we are addicted to food and have our own issues with it...We should feel like we are in a understanding and compassionate place....Like I said this does not mean that we can't be honest and helpful and at sometimes even a bit annoyed....But we need to talk to people the way we would want to be talked to...Just my opinion...I guess it can be taken or left..... I sure can admit that this is probably the hardest thing I have ever started and worked at in my life and I have been through some difficult stuff.......I can't count how many mistakes I have made or most likely will make in my life from here on....just hope that if I reach out there will be some fellow sleever's who understand..

I read this and it was very encouraging..Thank you for posting it for all of us!

I am very surprised at the harsh words on this forum....We are here to encourage not break people down...I did the pre-op fine....But others on here had a cheese burger while doing pre-op.... I think if I was asking for help and got this kind of answer I would leave the forum discouraged! I am not saying it was right.....But there are ways of saying things that get the point across without that kind of force.....We are all in this together and rely on each other to help work through the issues....Not hit people over the head... An old expression fits here I think...You get more flies with honey then with vinegar..... Just a thought for those who think they will never fall or make a mistake in this life long journey Make sure you tell your surgeon so that he/she can decide if the surgery will be a go or not.....K

dust yourself off and get back on the horse..this will not be the last time you will fall..But you have not failed..Making it a habit and giving up and doing it every day is a failure....we are not steel or stone...We all have a food addiction...We all fall....You recognize that in yourself.....throw the day away...And like you said restart NOW!!!!!...Tonight eat Protein and veggies and a bit of fruit to get rid of all that crap.... Make sure you drink lots of Water to flush out your system....

Start by eating 3 meals a day....and up Water intake to 64 oz. try to limit or remove refined sugar in your diet and stay away from pop..... take small bites and jot everything down that you ate in a day...Do not eat everything on your plate..Start by deliberately leaving 1 teaspoon on the plate..It will help break the habit of eating everything on our plates that we were taught by our mothers good intentions..... Small steps yes...but it is a beginning... Up Protein amounts and veggies too..K This is how I started to lose my weight before my surgery......

I did the same thing with Chinese noodles a few weeks back....Had it for dinner one night and it sat okay...Next night had some more for dinner and lost it in the toilet after.....ok..red flag...did not listen....waited 2 nights and ate it again....bad bad me....threw up for over an hour....... My husband looked at me and said why didn't you do this again when it had a bed affect before and I said but I like Chinese noodles....see I had to keep touching the fire... Oh there was pork in the noodles and was not able to eat much...sure went down good and then came up...yuck!!!

I would have trouble naming mine because I am one of the few who have both the sleeve and bypass...I suppose I could call it Jekyll and Hyde....good and evil.....light and dark.....day and night....unlimited options..LOL

It is a very long story....I got a leak and had surgery to clean it up...They induced a comma.. I was in it for 19 days...I woke up and could no longer walk or move and could not talk because they put a trakia in so I could breath... I got a category 5 ulcer on my butt from the comma and then I was soon moved to another floor...out of ICU ..There they looked after me and I ended up with 10 surgeries altogether as they were trying to repair the leak which would not heal.....Finally after 4 and a 1/2 months when everything else failed I had a surgery where they gave me both the sleeve and bypass......I had to lean to walk and talk and write again.....I have 12 incisions where most people have 2-5....I am still being treated for the ulcer on my butt almost 11 months later I lost all my hair as I was fed by IV for 5 months...and nobody told me I did until I saw it in the mirror at home....They even had to reteach me how to eat and swallow....I became addicted to pain killers and a detox Doc helped me through that..... This is just a small overview of some of the things that I went through..... But!!!!!!!!! I would do it all over again if I had to..I am so much better then I was before surgery....i can do so much more and the little things make all of it worth it for me....

Wow....inspiring for sure..The only problem is trying to change everything anyone has ever said to you that was negative about yourself and finding the new you. I grew up in a family that measured looks and size..I always came out lacking in both....I grew to believe I was worth nothing and was stupid and any other negative thing you can think of....They always brought up my weight and felt better knowing that they were smaller then me..It made them feel powerful... Now I am letting that person out that was ridiculed so much through out my life...When I was thin or fat did not matter I was not worth much..... I am interested in seeing what is left inside of me and how I will learn to see myself....Thank you for your post....I have a long way to go to even feel a little of that about myself!!!!

Gaining some weight back is a scary thing....Sorry for all your troubles this last year....Things could have been much worse with your weight had you not shown a lot of control.....I looked at your profile and I see a huge difference in you..You are beautiful... Be careful not to let your brain dictate how you are feeling or looking..Losing over 100 lbs. is nothing to sneeze at....The goal is to stay around there and healthy to boot..... Shapes, sizes and people are all different..... The fat girl is mind over matter....stop beating yourself up for no reason......K

Lose an extra 20 pounds....I don't believe that that is the bast advice...Like the lady said before ( live in the present ) tomorrow will have its own anxieties! A 10 lb buffer will be your cue to lose or stay the same.....Your body will stop when it gets where it is most comfortable....And later on if you stretch out your sleeve then you can put the weight back on ...Or by going back to your old habits....eating the wrong stuff constantly. And not dealing with the issues that brought you to this place.....

Due to extreme issues with the sleeve surgery..I have been unable to exercise at all...The only thing I do is walk as much as possible......After 10 months I am still working with the difficulties I went through and am limited to what I can do..... That said..I wish it had all been different and I could have embraced exercise as part of my life. Who am I kidding I detest exercising. LOL ...It will come! It has to. Rats!!!!! I have lost weight anyway...

Wow that is a lot of changes..wait until your looks and body start to change and you have trouble keeping up with it all. I know myself all the changes have been a surprise to me and rewarding as well..esp....the fact that no one recognizes me...love that one.....A whole new world for you outside the sleeve and a whole new world awaits you with the sleeve.. All the best!!!!!!!!!

15 minutes before your meal...try 30 minutes before your meal and 1 hour after kid......15 min. is too short..it will interfere with your sleeve.....helping the food go through faster and or filling you up to soon.....I know I have tried it your way and found it is worth it to wait the extra time before and after eating....to get the most benefit out of what you eat......smiles to you

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I lost all my long beautiful blond hair...I loved my hair..when I came home I saw it for the first time..Everyone at the hospital kept the evidence away from me....See me now....short brown hair......Biotin and Protein is the answer..Water too as your body will use it for your weak points...... Two differences in the new hair....Less gray...don't know why and wavy ...what up with that!!!!!

Thank you Twinsmomma...your too kind saying that... :wub:

I know that people have different experiences with certain foods...At 10 months out I cannot eat beef of any sort or corn at all.. I do however believe that we need Protein, veggies, fruit and CARBS...Your body needs all of these things to build the body up and maintain a good weight.... I eat a little of all these in a day....but my first priority is protein and then Water.....I will not go without carbs or fruit...I think we need them all in our diet..When our body can tolerate them.... I can eat 1 cup of food at a time most days..some days less....But I try to eat all of the things I ate before that are good for me except refined sugar...I have limited that to only one time in 10 months so far..... I feel that is reasonable thinking...balanced thinking.....not trading one addiction for another....

Just lately my body seems to have changed....I am smaller on the top and I have small legs...I have a big spare tire around my middle that seems to look worse since I lost some weight......All of a sudden my clothes are falling off me...and my stomach is going further down which is making things much harder to fit.... I wear Spanx when I go out and find myself hiking my pants up all the time but they are okay around the stomach area...Same with shirts.....Really loose at the top and fitting snuggling on the tire.....I look very funny I think... When I was fatter at least I was smooth...I get anxious over the clothes issue. Seems I am just renting them. Then in a few weeks I send them back.....Oh dear me!

Did they use antibiotics at all during your ordeal at the hospital as a precaution to infection..some doctors do.....Antibiotics kill any bacteria in your bowels or system....so you have to replenish them......good bacteria by the way...lol Take some yogurt and cranberry juice for a while..it will help to clear it all up......