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I will take what you said and apply it to this situation. you are right. I had so much stuff for her to fill out that I know she was getting frustrated. she said so. I can't help what has transpired in the last two years but she was concerned with getting all the information down and so her tone was as if I was keeping secrets. But I think she in reality was upset that these things were not on my chart as you say.....I think today I have a better feeling about it and thanks to you a better understanding. So far here I have been really treated like a freak and they the doctors and even my own doctor has told me not to tell anyone what I did. It has all been too much. I have a friend of my daughters who has run interference for me a few times and brought Doctors in special for me. There have been 2 so far that treated me well. Most have given me their opinions on WLS quite quickly and have wasted no time telling me that it was not the thing to do..... So it can get frustrating when one more person has a type of communication that is abrupt and sharp. I will look at her as if she had 30 people to get the information from and give her slack. You could be right and I appreciate your spin on these situations for me. It really does help me to look at it differently....Thank you so much @@MichiganChic

Last night I baked a beautiful banana cake and covered it with butter frosting. then I made Cookies. They are called boy scout cookies. They have cranberries and chocolate chips in them.... I have walked past both at least 20 times today and have not even looked at them until this last time when I got some Water to drink.... I am wondering if I am finally getting a little farther in my journey. Am I learning new eating habits after all. And how much of these baked goods are going to hit the trash can in a week....hmmmmmmmmmmm This is so cool! How are you doing with your relationship with food?

Sounds like something my skinny hubby would like. Can you PM me the recipe. Thank you... sounds like your being very successful because you could have a piece if you wanted to. Even that crust, but you chose well this time. Each little success leads to us retraining our brains in regards to whether we are hungry or just want it for the wrong reasons.. If I have a treat it is just because I want a treat not because I need it..... Great isn't it how we change!!!!

Sounds to me like you are slaying the dragon. Good for you kid! And your right it has always been my thing I'm on vacation attitude....I don't use that anymore either..... I am proud of the changes I have made and hope for more as I travel this road.... Try Pinterest and put in Bariatic recipes and then Hot drinks. You may find something there. I drink a sugar free hot chocolate now and then it helps!

Science is always making new headway in the medical field. But do we look for the possible future if's or if not's they come up with something better or do we grab a hold of the surgery that has come a long way now and do what we can to become healthier so that we can do the things we need and want to do. Right now there are three options but the first option of stomach stapling still worked. There are thousands of people around today that had it done and are still living the weight loss journey. If I had the choices I had now back when I was in my late 20's early 30's I would have taken it. Weight problems for me only made my life more difficult. And as the weight piled on from failed diets my health got worse. What if's can paralyze a person. You have to be sure you are ready and being informed is the best way. What you are feeling is indeed normal. If you were not feeling that way I would be sure you were not entirely ready for this kind of commitment.

Wish I had this expression when I was talking to her...lol I might have been able to fit it in! LOL

Start looking up recipes for post surgery. Reinvent the wheel by trying new foods you have never tried before. Keep on researching and read and look up as much as you can not only about the good things but also the possible bad things that can happen so that you are completely informed before you decide. Find a support system and use it to the max. Like people who are striving for the same goals. Start looking at yourself positively by making one kind expression about yourself every day. Start a journal of your thoughts and fears and share them on here if you wish and some of us can help I am sure of that. Know that not every day is going to be happy while you are preparing. This is an up and down adventure which is yours.... Don't compare yourself to others now or ever. This is all about you...... I hope the best in your process!

I know what you mean..I don't think my collar bones showed this much when I was a teenager....enjoy your NSV and write it down and be ready to pen more and more and more!

Thank goodness you have not had complications....God send for sure. Enjoy your journey!

Same @@babelfish5 with me. If it causes me to dump. I don't eat it again...Makes perfect sense eh!

I agree with @@☠carolinagirl☠ there are too many people to mention. As everyone has affected my trek through this new wilderness of WLS. Even those that have told me straight or been unhappy with how I respond to them have made a change in my life for the good. I could not have made it this far without all of you. Those who are new and those who have come and gone. My hat tips to all that are on this journey with me....I am not alone and you have helped me realize that... Thank you all!

I get the dumping syndrome when I am really hungry and I foolishly eat to fast. I also get it if I eat certain foods like ice cream...So I don't. Sometimes I get it and don't even know why. But I know my body is telling me something and that is that I can no longer tolerate that food. But I also have the Roux en Y so it is a combo of BP A VSG. I always drink a weak cup of tea after and it seems to help settle things down. Happens maybe once or twice a month for me. But it is true it is less likely with the VSG.

I had no idea who pioneered this life saving surgery. Thank you Dr. Mason. And thank you Alex. For giving us a chance to meet him. I wonder how many of us would not be here with out his vision?

Hi Tammy. I am so glad they found the leak and have fixed it with the Roux en Y. Now it will take time to heal and then you most likely will be on your way to good health and well being. Attitude is 50 % of the healing process. So please keep a positive attitude as you go through recovery. I know the drill all to well myself and know that it can be so disheartening when you know others have gone through WLS with little or no complications. I believe it makes us appreciate our journey in a way that some can never understand and it makes us stronger people when it does not come easy.... Please take the time you need to heal Tammy. Your body has been through a lot. Go easy on your new Roux en Y. I am so happy that you are getting better. It makes me cry when others suffer severe complications when the decision was made to better your life. You got this Tammy. You are very strong! Jane

This has nothing to do with giving up or not giving up. Your body has been through a major operation. Not to mention all the meds. Not to mention the stress on your body. Not to mention the swelling and the fact that it takes weeks for your body to heal after this surgery. Stop weighing yourself and be patient. As long as you are following your surgeons advice it is bound to come off....Put the scale away for now and bring it out in a month or so. In my case in a year or so. It is self sabotage when you weigh yourself this early and expect big things... This is not Jane lost more weight then me at a week out or Rose lost less then me. This is about your health and healing right now. Nothing more. You need to rest and move like walking but this is asking way too much right now!

There are a lot of things in life that we have no choice about. It is just what it is. Health problems as we grow older are bound to happen. They are offering you a solution to your weight gain. To me there is really no difference in the surgeries. All give restriction. All help you lose weight. All are a tool. The sleeve helps more with absorption of food while it is still in the stomach. Starts the break down before it goes into the small intestine....No matter. The issue seems to be that they are afraid your weight gain will continue due to your other issues. But it is YOUR choice whether you do it or not. It is your body and the decision is yours in the long run. I know myself I was caught between a rock and a hard place regarding my health and I chose WLS as a way to help me get to where I needed to be. You have the right to decide for you what is best. Don't let them take that away from you! Keep us posted!

I was the same way....thought cold would be so much better then feeling sweltering heat all the time.. Well not so..2 years out and looking for wool everything. It is so scary to see winter showing its ugly face in our country...Since hibernation is not an option. I must look like I gained 30 lbs every time I leave the warmth of my bed......With the layers of clothing.

I never weighed myself before I got to goal. I saved the drum roll for the surgeons office. Now that I am at goal I weigh once a week. just to keep on target!

Nope still having complications. About to have my 17th surgery in a couple of weeks.....It's okay though I am still here alive so all is good!

It doesn't matter which surgery you chose. They all work because it is a restriction and tool that gives you the tools to get your mind healthier and fix the reasons for the self abuse of food addiction. I was going to have the Lap-band but decided on the sleeve. My choice but like I said they are all successful procedures that will help with the underlying problems. The rest is up to you hun.

Personally. I think you are just asking for trouble. And trust me...you don't want it! If you tear even one of those stitches you are in for a heap load of pain and anguish. I think you know better but want to push the limits to see just how far you can go. Don't do that for your health and families sake. Get back on track and allow your sleeve to heal. You are addicted to food otherwise you would not be taking such chances with your life. Think about what you are willing to suffer if you keep this up. The sleeve is not a miracle it is a tool to be used to get your head together and fix how you view food and the reasons why you abuse yourself. Your being self destructive. You need to figure it out. Get some help and stop the self abuse now! okay!

When I had WLS I told people I loved that it was my time no matter what to regain my health and well being. It was my time to be healthier and live better and make healthier choices and it was my time to stand alone and no longer be someone who stood out as an example of what not to do. It was about me! No one else. That is how I approached it because I thought I was going to do this alone.....I WAS SO WRONG! After all the complications and every struggle I went through they were with me helping me get better and better. They were the ones that saw it in a different light and knew that it was going to be and still is a long process to fight the addiction of food. Like any other addiction. When asked by my sister why I did this to myself I answered that I was tired of being the fat on of the family and that it was my time to be invisible in that respect.....I told her it was her time as well. To lose the 'at least I'm not as fat as her' crap comments. After talking with her gently and giving her not only the information but also expressing the emotional changes in me she is having GP on Dec. 2. That is her coming to terms with her life choices and what she wants to gain from her personal journey. If she were to look at me and all the complications I endure, a normal thinking individual would run like h*ll. But she knows she is not me. By gently mentioning the emotional changes not to mention the health changes. She may come to the same conclusion as you did. But that is about her journey. Not everyone gets there the same way. Some people on here have had WLS before it got out of hand. Thinking back I would have given my eye teeth to be that in tune with myself. But I was not..... By giving all the love you can and I see you do. Who knows....But concentrate on the positives of your journey and it may make all the difference....

I started out with 5 and after I had a leak and surgery to repair the septic damage and came out of the 19 day coma I had 12. Added to that now are 3 more from drains from a second leak at 18 months. So altogether there have been 15 holes on my stomach. I look like someone took a Gatling gun and shot me in the chest. Two years out and do I care... No because I am here and have survived. Will there be more I don't know..I think there are worse things then counting incisions. yup I do believe there are.....just saying!

We have to learn moderation and balance. That was the issue as to why we got as big as we did. It starts before surgery and will be a lesson to work on for the rest of our lives. We will never be perfect and complete abstinence is a recipe for a big problem. We live in the real world and must learn to eat in one as well. There is no way that anyone can stay completely on track and expect not to fall. We all fall. We just don't fail. This is not a limited time offer. This is changing how you view food and correcting your relationship with food and learning how to nutritiously maintain our bodies. Recognizing sliders and finding new and better ways to deal with them. It is all part of the new you that must come into play for you to be a successful weight loss patient who is happy and feeling well.