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Wow! That's pretty neat timing. I hope it all goes smoothly for you both!

Glad to hear it didn't close on you Me, I'm buying up retainers for my surgery and/or any future MRIs. Even things I've had for decades tend to try and close fast on me -is the reason I've had one nipple re-done 3X.... I've 18 holes and 5 of them I don't think I could go through the pain of having repierced; definitely not 2 of them, as I almost blacked out during them and then spent about 2-3 weeks holding ice on my vulva to ease the pain and swelling. Not. Doing. It. Again. for all I love having them. Best wishes in healing!!!

Welcome! I'm fairly new here to, just joined a few days ago. Am pre-op, myself. Good luck on healing and on the losing!

Please forgive me if this comes across as a bit too blunt: why do you still talk to her or allow her in your life when she's like that? Sharing some genes with someone is not enough to excuse them being toxic people to you. I have not spoken to my father or most of that side of my family in years because he and most of them are such hateful, hurtful people. Best decision of my life so far, truly. I don't miss them and I feel 300% better than when I allowed them to hurt me by being in my life.

Stress! I went last week to talk to my PCP about gettig surgery and she seemed supportive, just wanted me to get some labs done. Today I go back for lab results and to see if she actually gives me the referral (am on Tricare Prime). I'm so nervous that she'll surprise me and not refer me. I have the appt at 1440 central time today. Yikes. Wish me luck!!

What's your price range? I'll try and help do some hunting. Edited to add: Oooo, on the D3 side I found these: http://www.amazon.com/EarthSweet-Chewable-Vitamin-D3-2000/dp/B002NV4XOI/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1303768267&sr=8-1 Only 2000 but you can take two!

Definitely creepy. If it was in doubt before (but really, how much doubt was there... no interest in you heavy and now asking you out, with no other changes or mention of his wife being along), it crossed over to for-sure creepy when he leaned in and said something in your ear. Personal space violation and definitely more than playful flirting. Personally, I like fun flirting. It's harmless and makes for some smiles here and there! But this doesn't sound like light co-worker joke-flirting, it sounds like "hey-my-wife-won't-know-how-about-it?" flirting.

I got it!! She was very nice, gave me a booklet, made the referrals. I am to attend the seminar on May 18th and should be getting a call about the psych eval in the next 10 days. On my way.

Tricare South here. First I've heard of a sleep test! Good to know...

I know now, before surgery, that I have one. It was discovered a few years ago when I had an upper GI xray due to bad acid reflux and them worrying I had an ulcer or other problem... so they were doing checks for hernias and ulcers and such stomach issues.

Oooh, hope you get some good answers as I'm curious, too. Am just starting my journey through Tricare Prime, myself. Good luck!!

Ah! That's what I was hoping: western NY! I am originally from the Finger Lakes Region, on Keuka Lake. Beautiful area. Good luck, again!

I've started thinking about this and am afraid of the excess skin factor. If need be and Tricare won't cover it for rubbing-sake, I think I'll spend my own money for tucks and lifts and all that. I used to love how long and lean my hands and feet looked when I was thin, am looking forward to them not being all pudged out anymore (plus being able to fit smaller rings again!!). No double chin. No multiple back rolls. Being able to see private zone below my breasts and stomach, where they stick out too far now (especially as I have piercings there that I currently can't take in and out by myself due to reaching issues). If my excess skin isn't too bad or I have a TT I can get a navel piercing again. So much will change. Good luck to you!!

Sending good thoughts!! Hope you get the call and get your surgery tomorrow and get it done and over!

I went to my Tricare PCP to get a referral for the lap-band today. I was really scared. My last interactions with on-post doctors was a soldier and when you're a soldier the doctors tend to not want to admit there is anything wrong with you and give you the minimal care with a bad attitude. I'd heard it was better for spouses, but the nervousness was still there. It went great. The doctor was very nice and seemed like she wanted to be there doing that job, she gave me no problem about wanting a referral, etc. She just had me go get blood and urine tests done and had me make a follow-up Monday to go over them and give me the referral if all was good! So Monday is the next hurdle. But so far Tricare Prime care is going well. I'm so much less scared and stressed. I know I'm not out of the woods yet, but the treatment I got today makes me feel much more confident that this will happen.

This is something I just thought about yesterday... I was going to pack up a bunch of shoes that no longer fit to let some friends pick over, then realized that if I got my surgery I may fit them again -and some of them are very rare/weird shoes, that can't be easily replaced. I now wear an 8 or 8.5, I used to wear a 7 or 7.5, so I'm keeping my fancy shoes to wear after I get thin again!

That's both frustrating and sweet, respectively. Am so glad you had the sweet part after the annoying, to bring you back up!! Offering size 12 as her "chubbie" clothing to you? First, how rude to tie those three things together (size 12 as "chubbie", ignoring your great progress, and offering her hand-me-downs -which if it weren't for the other two I'd say was a nice gesture, but in this case is not). Second, geez, size 12 is the size I'm trying to get back down to! lol! Even when I was underweight, size 10 was as small as my jeans ever got because even when it's just muscle I have a big booty. I would/will be holding a celebration to be as thin as a size 12 again! Focus on the sweetness of the compliment and forget her, you deserve the congratulations!!!

What/where is WNY? Welcome!!

1) Get back on a rollercoaster 2) Train for NIjmegen again and/or Appalachian Trail hiking 3) Get a few dermal anchors 4) Maybe get the tattoos I want

Hi all, I've just made my first doctors appointment with PCP to try and start steps to getting banded and have some fears... I'm sure many of you have had this particular situation and concern, so I wanted to run it by you. I'm 30, 5'3", 211lbs today. Gained weight during surgeries and illness years ago (still have illness and meds, but nothing that *should* interfere with banding approval) and NOTHING has got it to come off and stay off since. At best, I lose 10-15lbs and then my body adjusts back to the weight it was despite stepping up my workouts, reducing my eating, etc. In the past couple of years, the only thing that has made my weight drop at all is eating such a low amount (well below what is considered healthy normally) that there is simply no way I can keep it up long-term... eventually hunger wins. So my fear is that I'll: 1) Have to FIGHT to get the surgery (am a disabled vet, 80%, would be using the VA) and then 2) not lose and/or keep weight off even with it... (especially if the VA really refuses approval and my spouse, as he's hinting at, pays for it) I'm terrified to go through it and find my weight still won't shift... this is a last-resort, and what if it doesn't work? Anyone else that can share on this? Similar problems, where your eating and exercise habits pre-band were what is considered ideal but still not losing weight? Did getting banded work for you, does the restriction actually keep you from getting too hungry when you cut back enough to lose? Thanks so very much all and I look forward to seeing you around here. I've already been reading and learning; it's so helpful to read real people's experiences in addition to the dry fact sheets. Nice to meet you! Rumpus

This was meant to go above my last reply, but the edit got it all wonky! ------ Thanks so much for replying, everyone!! But I'm now more nervous lol! You see, that's exactly my worry: I've never had an issue with portion control, eating right, exercising every day... I've worked with nutritionists, dietitians, and personal trainers, had to log my normal eating & exercise habits, had to log my dieting eating & exercise habits, etc. All agree that I should have long been back to my original weight. I have to drop to about 500 calories a day to lose weight + my workouts, hence my questions about whether the band will cause me to be able to comfortably maintain that. To give an idea of where I'm coming from so you can understand my worries better: I've found by logging my normal food intake when not dieting is between 1200-1500 calories a day, 20-30% fat intake, 52-70grams of Protein, no meat, no dairy, refined sugar products only about one soda a week (until I started school this past 2 months, now that's terrible at 1 a day! I definitely have to fix that!), Multivitamin most days (I do forget at times!) + Calcium supp, and 7-12 glasses of Water (depending on how much I drink during workouts). I'm a non-junk-food-vegetarian, so my diet is mostly greens, whole grains, brown rices, and legumes. The one exception to my pattern of eating is that once a month my spouse and I order takeout and have a little livingroom picnic My workouts have ranged anywhere from a normal amount of 1hr of aerobics + weight lifting to the extreme of 17 months of training for an event that involved 5-7 hours of cardio a day (15-22 miles of speed-walking and jogging woodland trails), pilates/yoga and weight lifting. During dieting, they have had me raise my calories to various levels to see if I was eating too little to lose, aiming for a specific fat or protein intake, number of meals a day, setting a rigid pattern of exercise, etc. None of this has caused any lasting change in my weight, fat%, shape, nothing. Like I mentioned before, if I started dieting hard enough (500cal/day) at best I would drop 10-15lbs at first and then regain it. I can't eat as little as I need to to drop and keep off weight on my own, eventually I return to that 1200-1500 area out of sheer hunger. I've had a lot of checkups and they can find nothing physically wrong with me that should be causing the weight to stay on (such as hypothyroidism). My medications *are* considered a possible cause of holding on the weight. So, ultimately, will having the band really be able to keep my from feeling too hungry? I know this may seem like a foolish question, but I've only seen dry data info and people discussing how it helped them get to a healthy habit of eating for themselves. Is anyone out there needing to drop to a caloric intake as low as I need and not starving during it with the help of the band? I truly appreciate your responses all! Very very much!

And the pictures look great, Chickie!