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Been with someone for 8 years. We've had our ups and downs but all paths seem to lead back to each other. But he didn't even send flowers to me in hospital. He didn't msg to find out where I was at. He did not visit. I finally gave in (stupid me) and called him and said what is going on? How come you are being like this? No response really from him, said he had to go. Well today is fathers day so he is with his girls but I want answers! I hate covert crap. I should be strong enough to not need closure but I'm not, I'm a few days since surgery and the person who was there for me every day before it is gone!!!

I was the same. You're doing great. Step at a time!

Ahh ok, no worries, just a thought. Your bodies metabolism is getting real fast then...not always a bad thing!. Also a good idea to check cortisol levels incase

I'm only just sleeved but gained a lot of weight due to my under active thyroid...maybe even get some blood tests if you're worried, you may have an overactive thyroid? Not saying your awesome loss is a bad thing! Just a suggestion if you are not quite feeling right

Hey guys....I'm 5 days post op and have a large lump on my left arm where one of the iv's were contacted. Its very puffy, a lot of heat in it. I remember they flushed it with water a few times, maybe its a build up of fluid? I'm just worried its infected due to the heat in it and soreness, its no bigger but was worried...anyone have this? Should I ask my normal Dr for some anti biotics or talk to surgeon? Thank you!

Absolutely normal. I've been overwhelmed most days since surgery on Thursday. Just hits me. So let it out, cry if you need to, hopefully it will make you feel much better .

Hi there...this is actually a thread about my boyfriend leaving after 8 years a couple of days after surgery. Try one of the others and there will be lots more people able to help you...I'm only at the start so not much use

Just spoke to surgeon. He said it is a clot but not a life threatening one. It should clear up but if not in the next few days get some anti biotics to stop any infection spreading. It was caused by the vein being traumatised with the iv...he seemed very relaxed so that made me feel good.

Thanks me too...having freak outs now lol. Over analysing every part of my body and how I'm feeling lol. The thing that has me confused is my wrist was like this when I left hospital so I thought nothing of it...I hope they will fix me.

Yes I'm sure there is an infection of some kind. Dr I trust has left for the day , will see her in the morning. Waiting for surgeons phone call, if he sounds concerned at all, ER it will be straight away

Really? I'm not very educated in dvt and for some reason thought it only effected the legs...just called my surgeon, will hear back shortly and go from there...the ER here is as useful as fine bone china at a tea party for drunken elephants lol.

Hehe you're both hilarious! I feel lighter already having lost his weight lol. One less person to have to carry burdens of...I like it!

Never. All my weight gain has been other health problem related. He always took me to the Dr, etc. He was concerned about me having the surgery, thought it was drastic and not guaranteed to work in my case especially as even though I love nice food, I've not over eaten or been unhealthy. I doubt he is scared...probably just his way of walking from a situation he sees no benefit in being in...either way if all he cares about him then he certainly shouldn't be around for my new start. Just such a shock. Very unexpected...

Thank you. Just spoke to him. He said he was done because I was harsh in an email to him. I said "what an email typed when I was a day pre op and anxious? It wasn't that bad, just honesty...how have you managed to make MY surgery about you?". He said "I don't need this in life". What an absolute arse. I said you were there for me every step leading up and now its too hard? I don't want someone who doesn't care for me! But at the same time he WAS my supporter, and so now I'm feeling so left in the wilderness, like the light that helped is gone. Its a hard thought to get used to. But I'm sure with time it will feel ok

Thank you. Guess there is never a "good" time for this stuff but in a few weeks would have been nice lol. So nice to have your kind words...really helps

You all will look incredible on your way to goal. Tall men especially make me smile lol...in a nice suit...mmmmm

Yes you're right rj...I guess he knew all about it as he was the most supportive of my heart challenges...used to always take me to my Dr appointments re thyroid issues etc. He was there always helping. So quite a shock that after something so mega he isn't. And I'm a strong person, but in my post surgery discomfort etc I'm not feeling the love lol!

I know....you are right. That's why I'm so upset, because actions speak louder than words but don't feel I'm strong enough to deal with this whole new world without him to help. I know its narrow minded. But he helps with my business too. I need to realise I can do it without his help but gosh right now I can't see it!

Thank you notime. I'm crying and just left him a voice mail asking him to get in touch and that I'm hurt he was there for me up until surgery but not since. Maybe he just thinks his job is done, maybe he's not into me anymore and so that is that. Grrr hate how people change with the wind.

Lots of fish in the sea. Although I'm sorry he did this to you, I'm glad you can now made a fresh start. You know in your heart of hearts that you deserve so much better!

Lol thanks everyone, it just got to me! I'm home now, taking in as many fluids as possible. I'm guessing the next few days I'll really start improving. How long did you guys take off work?

Family came to visit me in hospital and they all went for a lovely lunch. I know I can't eat, but gosh it irritates me! Must be in a bad mood or over tired because feeling sooo grrrrr!

I'm feeling quite relaxed right at this moment. I'm sure ill feel different in the morning. Thanks for your prayer

I have to be at the hospital at 7am, so 12 hours and it will be noooo backing out! Eek !

I have to be at the hospital at 7am, so 12 hours and it will be noooo backing out! Eek !